@texican congratulations and fingers crossed for your wedding, that's one hell of an incentive although I'm sure you'll look gorgeous whatever happens.
@PhoenixMama ahhh...Internet dating...it's such a bloody minefield. Take care of yourself today 
My fledgling post divorce love life has seen more action in the 7 months 'virtually' than in the previous 4 years since I ended my marriage, but it's all a bit meh, partly because of lockdown but also because I know deep down I don't really have the confidence to meet anyone in RL.
Ironically 3 out of 5 of the guys I've 'met' haven't been on OLD, but on 'normal' websites...2 on a generic chat forum and 1 on FB.
I had a near miss with a guy on Tinder...we chatted for 3 days and got on amazingly well, he then messaged and told me he 'really fancied' me and promptly ghosted me the following day! He is very local to me and I was holding back a bit tbh, so I'm hoping we were at cross purposes tbh and that we might bump into each other in RL at some point and have another crack of the whip.
I've been talking to a lovely guy who I met on a shared interest group on FB last August ever since then. He's very sweet and funny and it gets very flirty at times but I think if it was going to go anywhere it would have by now. He's 100 miles away and 13 years younger than me so probably a bit unrealistic in any case but hope we might meet up as friends when all this over.
That aside I've come off the apps for now. Realistically I think I need to get down to comfy size 16 (currently 24
) before is feel confident to actually start dating again, so it's not worth the time and aggro in the meantime.
It's been a really useful learning curve though, and aside from my weight I'm much more confident about who I am as a person and what I want in a man/relationship going forward, so that's a win.