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Keep falling pregnant despite contraception

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nup · 28/12/2023 22:55

I'm in my 30s and not ready for a baby yet. I'm completely at my wits end with contraception and feel totally hopeless about the whole thing. It's really getting me down.

From my mid teens, I took various pills for a few years, which I got on relatively well with, apart from 2 unwanted pregnancies (despite taking them perfectly).

My doctor said I might have a hormonal issue, so I tried multiple copper coils. I had so many issues: several rejections, a punctured uterus and then 2 pregnancies.

I moved on to natural family planning, which worked for me for a few years, until eventually I fell pregnant with that, too. I switched to condoms for a few months, but fell pregnant again.

After so many years of non-hormonal methods, I tried taking the mini pill a few months ago, but suffered with very serious depression and suicidal thoughts, so I switched to a different pill, but had ultimately the same experience.

It's been 2 weeks since I stopped taking the pill and I'm feeling better already, but I just don't know where to turn now. I don't want to try any more hormonal contraception, I can't bear the thought of being depressed for another few months through choice. I'm desperate not to get pregnant again, and I feel like I'm out of options.

Does anyone have any recommendations? Even my doctor doesn't know what to suggest.

OP posts:
SM4713 · 30/12/2023 21:07

OP- IF there is a chance of early menopause, like a poster above mentioned, I'd get your AMH checked. Its an ultrasound and blood test which looks at your egg reserve and can give an estimate of how many more fertile years you might have. Unless you are having fertility testing on the NHS (long waits!) you might need to pay privately though.
I only mention it, because before I started fertility treatment, I'd never heard of it.

naemates · 04/01/2024 06:45

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