Will you ban your children from certain sports

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when they are playing instruments seriously?
I can see the reason is obvious.But when they are still young, deserve to do something else as well, will you ban them?
What do you do to avoid the risk?How about school PE?

I think something like that I would want the child to have a heavy vote.

Don't think the school would think it was a good reason to avoid PE (maybe you can get away with it in private). Would have thought the benefits of PE are worth minor risks.

no, definitely not. If it's something they want to do, then they will just resent playing the instrument/give up/not give it their best anyway!

No, definitely not.

Hmm.. Maybe.
ds2 went roller skating last Saturday and injured his right wrist. He has a very high pain threshold, never complains about anything, and certainly never asks for pain killers. So we knew it was serious when he did. After a couple of days we went up to A&E to get it checked out, and fortunately it's not broken. But it did stop him practising piano and organ for a full week. In the grand scheme of things it's not important this month, but if he had broken it and was in plaster for 6 weeks or if he had an imminent exam or performance, it would have been very frustrating.

I'm not keen for him to go roller skating again; fortunately neither is he!

The first day of summer holiday,I witnessed the boys playing football in the park, one kicked another one on arm or wrist, ended up a 9 years old been taken to hospital by ambulance.My Ds1 was only a yard away!
That was a serious alarm to me!!!

Definitely not.

I'm really confused by this thread actually. The example of the boy in the park is quite scary but you can't ban children from doing things because of the very small chance they might get hurt.

Sorry to confuse you Bonnie.I assume everybody on this site knows me very well!
Please do understand I mean when your child is playing instruments seriouly.
I know Roisin's Dcs are playing instruments seriouly.
When you are in this position, you don't want to risk(based on your child is playing instruments seriouly), even the chance you get hurt is small, at least avoid some of the sports involving more body touch than others. Overact ?

I hadn't thought about it tbh. My dd roller skates, goes climbing and is heavily involved in scouting.
Yes, a broken arm would seriously hamper her practice (piano and French Horn) but even though she is determined to do something with her music when she is an adult I don't think 6 weeks off at this stage is going to seriously damage her chances of that. Yes it may mean she had to resit an exam in the next session, or that we might have to re-arrange lessons and what have you but all in all I think it is important for kids to have something that resembles a normal childhood as well as them concentrating on their chosen field.

I guess it depends on what you mean by 'serious'. Child in Youth Symphony Orchestra on course for a scholarship to the RCM and approaching virtuoso level in their chosen instrument - I'd probably be quite cautious about contact sports, but encourage them to do something like dance, yoga, zumba etc for fun and exercise. Child practicing for grade 4 and in the school orchestra - sports would be no problem, they can catch up later should an accident happen.

No I wouldn't.
To restrict a child like that would make me wonder about the level of control exerted over the child by an oppressive parent. It sounds borderline emotionally abusive to me.

Hi,Fallencaryatid,
Please be gentle to me. I am only asking for opinion.It doesn't mean decicion made or action taken. I am far away from the state you described.

Bedhog,My Ds1 is not on the level you mentioned, but will be, hopefully.What you suggested ,encourage them to do something like dance...sounds like a clever idea to me.

You asked, as a parent with two very able children and a teacher with 30 years experience of children and parents I gave you my opinion.
If you dislike it, you are free to ignore it.
One of the major conflicts in many families is when the children are old enough to choose their own paths, free of parental expectations and channelling. Sometimes the relationship survives the transition.
Make your child aware of your concerns by all means, but to refuse to allow them to engage in normal activities because their talent is too precious to risk?
Is that reasonable?

What bedhog said.

I have never heard of this for children before, only professional ballet dancers who avoid injury from other sports.

I would be concerned about parents preventing their kids participating in sport on the slim chance of injury.

Having searched the OP because of this statement:

'Sorry to confuse you Bonnie.I assume everybody on this site knows me very well!'

I think her eldest son has just finished Y4. So still completely under the maternal thumb. No autonomy...yet.

sorry OP i don't know you at all, not sure if that's a problem? and i have no experience of serious musicians but i do have first hand experience of young people competing in sports at an international and olympic level and even then i would only advocate avoiding other 'dangerous' sports for the season or for six weeks' before a really important competition... many kids really resent if they're never allowed to do fun activities their friends are doing because of injuries they might get stoping them competing in their primary sport.

ultimately, unless it's their one moment of public performance or scholarship audition then even a month or two out is unlikely to curtail their potential career, whereas burnout and resentment could easily do so.

I think children should be encouraged to enjoy all sorts of activities, regardless of what other stuff they do, as long as they dont do too much.

Even if my child was a keen musician (or whatever) I wouldnt discourage sports - sounds far too overprotective tbh.

I spend ages reading threads on MN and have NEVER noticed your posting name before (and I doubt you have mine) - I suspect very few people on MN "know you very well"........ How many people registered as MN users now? Over a million certainly.

Her children appear to be G&T in other subjects, including maths.
In my opinion, there has to be some level of negotiation and compromise in any healthy relationship.
But who knows? I'm not a Tiger Mother.

FalleCaryatid,
As a parent raised the question with good reason at least, you quickly judged me ... and decided you were disliked.Up to you!I am sorry to hear this is from a teacher with 30 years of experience.

My oldest son will be in year 4 this Sep by the way.

Thank you for everybody else's opinion, obviouly there is a point.

Maryz,
I love this bit:
If you spend the next ten years wrapping him in cotton wool and not letting him do the things that normal children do, one of two things will happen. Firstly, he will have a silly accident at an inopportune time, because he won't be used to risk management and keeping himself safe, and secondly he will learn to hate the music.

' you quickly judged me ... and decided you were disliked.Up to you'

No, I said you were free to dislike my opinion. I don't have the level of paranoia you are attributing to me. I still feel that banning an 8 year old from sporting activities is not wise, and that if he's at a state school you will not be able to withdraw him from PE on those grounds.

FallenCaryatid, how do you find someones earlier posts?

Several of DDs serious dancing friends have been exempted from contact sports at school. I haven't followed this, because I know if I did she would have an accident tripping on the bus or something, so she joins in with everything even though she really wants to be a dancer.

She's yr 9