Runners United: Where we support each other through the good runs, the bad runs and everything in between.

[Themasterandmargaritas]

15/10/11 - Donadea Forest Trail 10k - rhetorician
16/10/11 - Abingdon Marathon: MoshiMoshi
16/10/11 - Aviemore 10K: Piffpaffpoff
16/10/11 - Richmond Castle 10k: Stickylittlefingers
22/10/11 - Shockabsorber 10K Richmond Park - sfx
23/10/11 - Thruxton Mass Attack Duathlon- DebitheScot
23/10/11 - Big Fun Run 5k Edinburgh Holyrood Park - Bumply
23/10/11 - East Coast Run 10k - Ibbydibby
30/10/11 - Great South Run: Wheely, squix
30/10/11 - Nairobi Standard Chartered Half Marathon - M&M
05/11/11 - Glendalough Trail Run - rhetorician
06/11/11 - Lancaster Half Marathon - Fannybanjo
06/11/11 - Bonfire Burn 10K - Futurity
13/11/11 - Stebbing 10 Mile - bonkers20
19/11/11 - Maasai Mara Half Marathon - M&M
20/11/11 - Leeds Abbey Dash (10k) - DrNortherner
27/11/11 - City of Norwich half marathon: ibbydibby, MoshiMoshi
27/11/11 - Bicton Blister (10M) - RunningAllDay
22/01/12 - Four Villages Half Marathon (Helsby) - Fannybanjo
19/02/12 - Brighton Half marathon - Wheely
04/03/12 - Milton Keynes Half Marathon - pawsnclaws
11/03/12 - Cambridge Half Marathon - Futurity, Runnerstipple, Cherry (what have I done??)
25/03/12 - Edale Skyline - (21 miles. 4,500 ft climb) Hatwoman
10/03/12 - Blackpool Half Marathon - DrNortherner, Fannybanjo
01/04/12 - Reading Half-Marathon - RunningAllDay
22/04/12 - VLM: ibbydibby
29/04/12 - Shakespeare Half Marathon - FairyBasslet
27/05/12 - London Bupa 10K - Futurity
09/06/12 - Blenheim Sprint Triathlon - Cherry

Ooooh ibby and debbie GREAT race reports :)
You made me want to go out and RUN and sign up for the next event and beat my PB arghhhhhh!
Tummy better but so very tired :( can't face real food yet really put off. But i will go insane if i don't get my ass to the gym tomorrow morning.
On the subject of MiLs mine is very tactless and incredibly selfish, and doesn't let anyone get a word in edgeways, frustrating, but I think there is a good person underneath all the madness, somewhere, there must be....

and dd is a 2.5 tantrumming toddler it's not good news they still talk back at 9yo fanny and when i remember what an awful moody and unreasonable teenager I was .
The next thing in doing is a bit different, bodycombat "marathon" (not an actual marathon, just lots of bodycombat back to back) raising money for breast cancer. Should be fun :)

running, you obviously see the best in people thinking he was after rabbits most of us are more suspicious .
Strangeways I suppose you need a proper conversation with dh to if he would be bothered. Could you promise something big later on or on the next day to make up . But seriously it's so easy for people to say yeah I'm not bothered, when it does and then they can't let go like they thought they could. So honest chat is the way to go I think.
Hope you feeling up to the gym soon june

strangeways I agree with the advice already given, I'd do it but plan lots of lovely stuff afterwards so he doesn't feel resentful. Last fathers day I was marshalling a race some way away, and I did feel a bit bad for DH as he ended up hanging around for ages waiting for me with all three boys - but it was for a charity race in memory of children who had lost a dad, so he said he was OK with it.

Planning to multitask this afternoon and "amuse" the boys with making home made pizza - I've found they quite like eating it if they've made it themselves!

Strangeways, does he like to make a big deal of his birthday? My DP is never fussed about them, though in saying that he likes a chocolate cake and a lie in! Like others have said, you could spend the rest of the day doing nice birthday things, but I would probably have a very open chat sbout it. You don't want to end up doing it feeling his simmering resentment!!!

orange, hope you didn't spend all your free time doing ironing!!!

fanny, I'd love a little flapjock if there's any left. We were just about to make Halloween biscuits but discovered there was no greased proof paper so it will have to wait till tomorrow.

Rhet, glad the rain has subsided a bit, perhaps this is a good time t train for a triathalon, you know, costume on, dive out the door . have packed hosp bag (minus things like dressing gown which I need in the meantime). Also supposed to pack snacks but if I do that now I will just eat them in the night.... Have got an extra bag mainly filled with massive maternity pads and then secondary bag with stuff for me and baby in case we have to stay in longer than couple of nights as don't think I wouldn't trust DP to bring the right stuff ("Whats the difference between a bodysuit and a sleepsuit???"). Still to do DD's bag.

June , if you do make it to the gym, make sure you take it easy. As well as not having eaten and being tired, you are probably dehydrated too.

Yes did peach and sadly only got half way through the pile. Thats a good idea to do an extra bag, I ended up staying in a week with both of mine. I was crawling the walls. Hopefully you won't be in that long.

Yes peach thanks, you are very wise. I just had a talk with my trainer who told me not to train until next week :( long walk in the park and stretches until then. Boo . Will try and catch up properly with the thread, lots of new people :)

strangeways you will probably be tired on the day of the hm after the race, and the day after, take that into consideration also if you are planning to go out.
I'm not sure what I would do to be honest, my next event is the day before dh's bday but we have already planned to go out the weekend before.
is this hm on the same date every year? (ie can you take a rain check this time?) Is there another one that "would do" soon after? Is it usually a struggle with dh to fit your runs in? Does he generally feel like your running comes first ? Not sure how open a chat can be, dh would tell me to do it even if he would prefer me not to. Hth...

hi - just to say hi really, half term has taken over my life! The only run I have planned is next week's park run, which is fancy dress so DD1 fancies it. Trying to work out a halloween costume that's easy and wouldn't get in the way too much - any ideas?

ibby I'm very impressed by the prizes! Well done you. Don't feel fraudulent, just happy to be younger than those speedy oldies!

debi I like vicariously experiencing your tris, well done you too.

fanny we seem to have worked through the backchat (for now ) with DD1, but she will still go into a strop at the drop of a hat. But, she's also the most loving and demonstrative little person, so I think we have to accept two sides of her character, and just try to keep her socially acceptable. Can be exhausting though.

rhet I've been watching that video of the water coming through the Dublin Bus... amazing! Hope you're keeping dry.

running do you live in Devon/Cornwall? I grew up in Devon and, ahem, I'm a pretty good shot. Don't take anything with me on my runs, but I do see a lot of rabbits. Would cut down the supermarket bill

wench still have my mouth wide open re your MIL. Un-bloody-believable!

Peach good to hear your visit went well (as it could), and very impressed by your MIL. I hope I would be the same.

strange I think the only way is to talk about it, to say you don't want to do it if it would make him unhappy and spoil his birthday. Hope he says he's happy with it (and his perfect birthday evening is to see you snoring gently in front of the telly!).

yes thanks, we are all fine - I got incredibly wet yesterday, I've rarely seen rain like it, at least not that lasts for 9+ hours! I don't think any wet gear could have coped - even the goretex trail shoes succumbed in the end to my cycling through 5 or 6 inches of water! but some real damage has been done

Went out this afternoon for about 5 miles (there were some unexpected water features to negotiate), but it was sunny and in places quite warm. There was a big rainbow, so i made appropriate pre-partum wishes (and one for you peach)...

my mother is insane and is coming on the coach and ferry, overnight, arriving in Dublin at 6.30am (she is 77, btw); somehow this seems preferable to getting on a plane like normal people

I am getting more and more behind with my work - it relies so heavily on lots of out of hours time that I am really struggling to do much more than keep the show on the road. This feels strange to me, having spent most of my life as a workaholic. I'm not sure I like it...

6/30am on Thursday, I should say

Thanks for all the advice. I think I've decided against it. peach he does like a fuss made of him on his birthday. In fact when I went overdue with DS he kept saying don't have the baby on his birthday as he didn't want to share it! I just managed to squeeze him out the day before

Strangeways well done for joining. I would like to join one but both local clubs run on the same night and it is the the only one night a week I can't go out. There is one a bit further away that meets at 6pm but on that day I work till about 7 . None of them say on the website the do day runs. Might have more luck if they did as I only work two days a week.
Didn't realise things were so bad in Dublin Rhet hope your keeping dry and hope your mum's visit goes well.
I normally do a run today but got plans with the boys and then out this evening. I have no idea an I can fit one in don't like it wen I can't run.

orangehead I know how you feel - I'm not sure that I can fit a run in today either, unless I go before picking dd up this afternoon...don't like it when I can't run either (which is entirely different to deciding NOT to run IYSWIM).

Everything back to normal - for us, at least, thank goodness

Afternoon All. Just popping in to mark my place. This thread had dropped from 'threads I am on' and I had a small panic.

We got back from Edinburgh last night. Oh how I LOVE that city. I want to liv there. We did so much. Am exhausted from walking and sightseeing. Am at work today (Boo) and mumsnetting on my lunch break. Manged to fit in 2 5k runs each morning before fat cow breakfast at the hotel. We travelled first class (free tickets through work) and I also pigged out and aceppted all the free food on offer, no wonder my trousers felt tighter than normal today Got to drag myself out for a run this eve

master can not beileve how scary the thought of your run is with all that unrest going on. Puts our pre race worries into perspective. Keep safe.

Interesting reading about those of you with difficult kids. My ds (9) is a handful, constantly on the go, always talking/moving/fidgeting, never seems to listen and will always ask again and again and again for things despite being told no. He can be quite exhasuting, as I only have the 1 it's difficult to know what is normal and what is not. But, as fanny says, he is also teh most loving and demonostrtive boy and will constantly smother me in kisses and hugs telling me how wonderful I am. He is an Aries if that makes any difference! We are off to GP next week as his teacher wants him to get a hearing test, but I nkow darn well there is nothing wrong with his hearing.....am wondering about ADHD or something similar....

rhet good luck with the Mother arriving. A coach and a through the night ferry will give her soemthing to compalin about I bet......hope you manage a nice time all together.

Afternoon all! Marking my place also as busy busy busy as DD1's birthday tomorrow. MIL and SIL sent her money throw the post (DH isn't speaking to them at the mo) so she's dragged me out to Argos to buy a much wanted IPod Shuffle. She's exactly like me, money burns a hole in her pocket if she has it longer than 30 seconds!

DrNo your DS sounds EXACTLY like DD1. She whines like a 2 year old if she doesn't get her way. Also she is hyperventilating with excitement re her birthday, to the point where she is feeling ill... . Makes life hectic but wouldn't change her for the world. She's spirited, feisty, clever, articulate, popular - her enthusiasm bewilders me sometimes!

rhet you may need to build an Ark.

Strangeways - I'm going to join a running club too - I think it'll help me loads.

Crappy 2 miler last night - it was a case of doing that or nowt so if I can get presents wrapped this afternoon, I'll go for an 8 miler tonight but drive to where it's more built up.

DD1 driving me up the wall as I type....

Through not throw the post!

Yep to spirited, feisty, clever, articulate, popular for my ds too. He is a great mimic and has a wonderful sense of humour, and of course I would not change him. Just he is very tiring at times, spending 48 hours with him in Edinburgh highlighted this. He also seems quite immature for his age, doe this fit your dd too?

DrNo sounds like you need to make him run more! seriously though, a good way for him to learn discipline and self-control if those are things he struggles with.

Yes, the overnight thing will allow her moaning free rein (e.g. trumping the fact that her actions are forcing me to get up at godknowswhatoclock to pick her up)

I want to run, but am feeling very tired and somewhat nauseous...so might give it a miss for today. I'll see how I feel when I get home.

drno DD1 is mature in some aspects but immature in others! She's not asked re sex etc yet do I think at age 9, that's quite immature whereas she likes company of older children.

I'm very today. Not sure if I told you all about the girl from an awful home who I took under my wing...? Well, I highly suspect that over the past 12 months she has stole 2 iPod Touch's and Nintendo
dSi. She caused a lot of problems (we took her to Center Parcs with us in the summer) for DD1 emotionally and I has to reassess whether it was too much for my DDs to have to put up with as she was emotionally draining (mother an abusive alcoholic, dad useless - suspect alcoholic also ). She's been texting me this week, I asked her where she had out the iPod and DSi as she was using them last, she replied "do you think I took them?". I replied "I don't know what to think". I'm so angry that (in my heart) I know she has stolen them and it's a huge kick in the teeth as I treated her like my own daughter. It puts me off helping people as, no matter what you do, ultimately, they shit on you. Sorry for the rant, people infuriate me, you don't steal from a child (iPod and DSi where DD1s). She was very jealous of my relationship with DD1 and I assume she's taken them to get back at her. I can't prove it though.

Full of grammatical errors - crap iPhone.

Fanny that's so sad, for you, for your DD and for the girl. I can only admire you for getting involved in the first place. I agree though, it's one thing putting yourself out, but quite another involving the rest of the family too (though of course it's important for our own lucky kids to realise that others have an awful lot to put up with). I don't know what to say really, just I understand how you feel kicked in the teeth. I hope the girl sees sense and owns up, assuming that she did take the gadgets. What a crap situation.

Though you are really lucky not to have been asked about sex!! I thought I had it all down pat, would be the sensible and unembarrassed Mum and explain it all in an age appropriate way... then it comes to it, they're asking you in the middle of a busy shopping centre how that pregnant woman just right in front of you in the queue got that little seed in her, was it her boyfriend's "little willy"?, she's looking mortified at you, you simper and scarper ... so much for Captain Sensiblepants...

sticky - i tend to have a radar that attracts problematic people. The girl in question has to know that she can't treat people the way her family do, as good people are hard to find. I can imagine she is devastated as I was her lifeline BUT I can't be treated for a fool, teenager or not. She's old enough to know better. I bought her EVERYTHING she owned, her parents though drink and cigarettes are more important than shoes without holes. Makes me sad BUT the responsibility lies with them, not me. DH is harder than me and won't allow her back in our house. Sorry for rambling, life been tough this week in all manner of respects and I feel very very low.

Fanny have a hug, you wouldn't be having this problem if you weren't such a lovely person. You can't be a doormat, of course, but the world needs people like you.

fanny sorry you feel so low That's a terrible thing if she has stolen the Ipad and Dsi. How kind of you to help her the way you did. It doesn't mean that everyone will shit on you though. Some people would be eternally grateful for the kindness you showed.

I too feel low today. Must be something in the air. I miss my Dad most when I feel sad. He was the one person who could put everything in perspective for me. Waiting for dh to get in with the dog and I am off for a good long run to clear my head.