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How scared are you of brexit?

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onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:21

Because I’m trying to work out if I’m a normal amount of scared or if I’m losing it.

I’m terrified of the recession that is looming after brexit, increased food prices, reduced public spending, which will lead to more homelessness and misery and perhaps even more violence on the streets. I’m terrified of the NHS being privatised, of not having access to cheap fruit and vegetables, of not being able to travel to europe.

Perhaps most of all I’m scared of a return to the troubles in Northern Ireland. I can’t velieve people would rather have a border than a backstop.

I’m scared of the way Eu migrants are being treated and how normal it has become for the Eu to be hated and mocked and blamed for everything. I’m scared of what this is doing to my friends, my colleagues, my community. I feel complicit and I don’t know how to protest or complain.

I’m a Londoner, and I’m scared of the ‘metropolitan elite’ conspiracy theories that both the left and the right seen to hold about people like me (I guess I’m what could be called ‘a centrist’). It makes me scared to talk about any of this.

I’m terrified for the future of our country, for my son’s future, for my elderly parents’ future, for our jobs. We are small, community minded people with small incomes. I spend a lot of my time volunteering in the local community. I feel like I should have been getting rich and hoarding money instead because it’s all going to be dog eat dog very soon.

I am losing sleep. I can’t concentrate at work. I find myself bursting into tears and getting angry for no reason other than a total; overwhelming fear of the future. I feel like my future has been taken away. Am i going mad? Or is it just the uncertainty? Or am I really part of an elite that can’t handle change?

For what it’s worth, I think the Eu needs to reform and the uk needs a big political shake up. But I think brexit is going to make all our problems worse, not better.

Does anyone else feel this way?

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bubblewire · 28/01/2019 11:25

Yes. Afraid and furious that it's come to this. But I think as long as we strike a deal, things will be bearable. I am very afraid of No deal, though.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 28/01/2019 11:27

9 out of 10.

megletthesecond · 28/01/2019 11:27

Livid and very worried.
I'm actually getting angrier tbh Blush.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 28/01/2019 11:28

Forgive me as I know little but I cannot imagine the government allowing a shortage of fruit and veg? Surely they will pay ridiculous amounts of import tax before it affects us? Am I deluded? X

HouseyMcHouseFace · 28/01/2019 11:28

I’m terrified of no deal and equally terrified that there are people out there who genuinely think no deal would be A Good Thing. Brexit with a deal will be shit for the country. Massive job losses, inflation, huge funding issues for NHS and education. But I don’t think that there will be the genuine chaos there would be if we left with a no deal.

Peridot1 · 28/01/2019 11:28

A bit. I’m not terrified. I’m just bloody bloody angry. And frustrated with the utter stupidity of it all.

I’m Irish living in uk and the Border issue incenses me totally.

I really don’t want to live here anymore. But my DH is British and won’t move. At least not to Ireland. Maybe to Europe. But DS is doing A levels this year so we are stuck till then anyway.

DH voted remain but would now vote leave as he is angry at the EU’s intransigence. We argue about it all so much that we have to just not talk about it.

bubblewire · 28/01/2019 11:30

@ItStartedWithAKiss241 I don't think the Government give a toss about ordinary people. All they want to do is keep the Tory party from imploding.

Peridot1 · 28/01/2019 11:31

ItStartedWith - it won’t just be expensive. That will come later. We won’t physically be able to get it in to the country initially. Everything is currently imported under EU tariffs which won’t apply anymore. Everything will need to go through custom checks. We don’t have the capacity to get trucks through customs quickly so there will be massive delays. Fruit and veg is very likely to just rot in trucks.

SalrycLuxx · 28/01/2019 11:33

Forgive me as I know little but I cannot imagine the government allowing a shortage of fruit and veg?

Of course they would allow it.They have confirmed that we will have ‘adequate calories’ not ‘adequate nutrition’. Malnutrition is already a growing problem in this country.

I’m not worried. But that’s because I’ve prepped to ensure I have adequate nutrition, medicine and loo roll.

I’m bloody cross though. This is a phenomenal waste of time and money.

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:34

itstarted i don’t think the govt has any interest in protecting ‘us’ (ie the general public) at all. 3 years ago I wouldn’t have thought they would ‘let’ a recession happen or that an MP be murdered by a british nationalist and nothing would change or that our govt would ‘let’ children of the wind rush generation be deported. I can’t trust the government to act in our interests anymore.

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Whatdoiwanttohear · 28/01/2019 11:35

Angry and depressed definitely .

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:37

peridot that sounds awful. I don’t understand it when people talk about EU intransigence. Why on earth would anyone expect the EU to harm its own prospects in favour of the UK? The while point of a trading bloc is that you get to set the terms of any deal.

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EverybodyJack · 28/01/2019 11:38

If the MPs allow NoDeal to happen, I will be very scared.

We wait.

SisterOfDonFrancisco · 28/01/2019 11:38

I'm scared more of the general turn to right wing politics, isolationism, us vs them politics evident in UK and all over the world. Brexit itself is a disappointing and sad event rather than scary. But I can easily relocate my family elsewhere if needed. Others don't have that luxury.

Blessthekids · 28/01/2019 11:39

I am very worried. I did contact my sibling who has just had a baby and tell them to stock up on baby medicine, food and supplies just in case. And I am fast coming to conclusion that I need to do some stockpiling too. The more I look into it the more I think our Government is deluded. Apparently you can't just take on WTO trade terms as a default, the other countries have to agree to let you join. Words regardless who says them will not prevent mass disruption, only actual planning and action will do that but there seems to be very little of that from our Government. They just think that every country, company, human being in the rest of the world will make an exception for us.............

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:39

SalrycLuxx what about prescription meds? My doctor will only give me 2 month prescriptions, so I can’t stockpile. And it is already taking the pharmacy longer to process the prescription which suggests that stockpiling further up the chain is already causing a problem! It’s a fucking nightmare. I feel like I’m just waiting for the world to fall apart

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Calvinsmam · 28/01/2019 11:40

Has anyone watched the Fyre Festival documentary on Netflix?
All the way through I was thinking ‘this is exactly what’s happened with Brexit’
They had a great media campaign but had no plan to put it into action, then even when they could see the iceburg didn’t start turning the ship as they all thought it was too big to fail.

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:40

sisterofdonfrancisco I wish we could relocate but we can’t. We are stuck here. It’s not my country anymore.

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LadyGAgain · 28/01/2019 11:44

WTAF are we doing? I am furious and I wish I could see a way of stopping this utter madness? No one is listening to little old me. Or you. Or you.
This is a shitstorm. And nothing will be better afterwards other than the egos of the 'brexiters' who voted for this fucking nightmare in the first place.
And if I see one more post from expats who live in EU countries who "voted to leave so we must leave" I will fucking SCREAM.
Twats.
I'd almost feel better after that rant if the situation wasn't still so utterly hopeless and sad. (And yes, scary).

Clavinova · 28/01/2019 11:47

www.cityam.com/272264/were-not-stuck-brexit-blues-would-have-you-believe

Something to cheer you up op;

The wall of noise in the Westminster Big Top is impossible to avoid. Yet the various scenarios of impending doom are not the reality that our economy and our country faces each and every day ...

The comfort here is that when our airwaves are filled with the voices of extremes, it doesn’t reflect what is going on in reality.The nation marches to a steadier beat than the histrionics might suggest

So here we are, stuck in the middle with you. We got the feeling that something ain’t right. And if you’re wondering how you’ll get down the stairs...

...Don’t worry. Cast off the feeling and sing to a different tune

Because we’re not as stuck as the Brexit blues would have you believe

TooTrueToBeGood · 28/01/2019 11:49

Forgive me as I know little but I cannot imagine the government allowing a shortage of fruit and veg?

Does the current government give you any confidence that it has the faintest idea what it's doing?

Surely they will pay ridiculous amounts of import tax before it affects us?

The Government won't be paying any extra import tax. For starters, the Government doesn't have it''s own money, only what it takes from taxpayers or borrows on our behalf. Second, it will be our own government that sets the import taxes, though they will have very little room for manoeuvre there, before we get our hopes up. The end result is that imported produce will be a lot more expensive. So whilst it might be available (assuming it doesn't rot waiting to get into the country) it may well be unaffordable for a lot of people.

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:50

So I guess it’s not just me then!

But then the question is - how the hell do we cope? I don’t think we can stockpile enough supplies to get through this - I don’t think it will be a temporary situation that we can wait out: I think the recession is going to last for at least 20 years. I think every part of our lives will get worse - worse food, medicine, health care, public services, communities, infrastructure, even public debate. And that’s even in the best case scenario of a managed no deal.

So how do you cope?

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tennisracquet · 28/01/2019 11:51

I'm utterly terrified.

I found this Suzie Orbach piece in the Guardian very helpful on the weekend.

"... reactions to Brexit suggest that it is being experienced by many as a trauma, with intrusive and repetitive thoughts emerging from a severely disruptive or damaging situation. Disbelief, fear and the wish for it all to be a bad dream are common features of trauma."

www.theguardian.com/books/2019/jan/26/which-way-next-how-to-cope-with-the-psychological-uncertainity-of-brexit

HorseDoorBolted · 28/01/2019 11:52

I also wonder if I’m overreacting. Occasional stress dreams, general feeling of intense worry.

I used to think I was so lucky to be born in the UK, and while there are obviously worse situations to be in I now feel stuck here and ashamed of our country. The politicians don’t give two shits about their constituents, that has become painfully obvious.

You’re not alone OP. Unmumsnetty hugs.

onegrapeshortofabunch · 28/01/2019 11:56

horse that’s exactly how I feel. Thank you

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