The vast majority of people who voted remain just want to get on with it now actually - it’s only a tiny minority of hardcore remainers ( many of whom are living abroad so have their own agenda in all this ) who want to frustrate the Brexit process, or stop it altogether - the vast VAST majority just want to get on with it yes - most definitely.
This is actual bollocks.
The vast majority of remainers (as well as, I suspect, a significant number of previous non-voters and a surprising number of leave voters) would vote remain tomorrow in a heartbeat.
Since we've been told that remaining is definitely not an option and we actually have to go through with this insanity, a lot of people have simply become resigned to it. That is not the same as wanting to get on with it. It's simply not seeing that we have any other choice.
There is a big part of me that - as other people have said - wants it to be hard Brexit and a total and utter disaster. Because nothing else will convince some people that Brexit is and has always been a terrible idea, and that it is not possible to "make a success of Brexit", in the same way it is not really possible to make a success of turd-polishing. It's just something you shouldn't do if you have any sense at all.
If we crash out of the EU without a deal, I believe that, as a British person living in France, there will be a period of severe disruption for me. I may find myself temporarily unable to work for as long as it takes for my employers to sort out a visa for me. I may find myself temporarily without health insurance. I am young and fit and healthy, but it is probably a reason to delay trying to conceive for a few months, because I don't fancy being in the early stages of pregnancy in a foreign country and not covered by any health insurance policy. I would also have to hope that I wasn't involved in an accident or didn't suddenly become ill. I may find myself temporarily unable to travel between France and the UK because there is likely to be severe travel disruption and there is also a question mark over the validity of British passports to travel to and from EEA countries after Brexit. I would have to stay in France and not travel until the uncertainty and disruption was resolved. And if there was a family emergency back home, I might not be able to get there. In the longer term there is a risk that my qualifications obtained in the UK might not be recognised. I am trying to become registered in my profession in Ireland to mitigate against this risk. The worst case scenario is that I would have to take new qualifications in France, but I think this is unlikely. I have moved nearly all of my money out of the UK and plan to move the rest out shortly.
Long story short - for me hard Brexit probably means temporary disruption and a few years of annoying paperwork until I'm eligible to apply for French citizenship. I am not worried about being chucked out of France because I am married to a French man and employed on a permanent contract, so I will be eligible for both a spousal visa and a regular work visa if I need one.
If I ever move back to the UK, which I would like to do at some point, I would wait until I'd got my French passport, wait until the worst of the fallout from Brexit was over and things were starting to recover a bit, and try and time my move so that I could buy a nice house dirt cheap.
I believe that the consequences of hard Brexit would be annoying for me but ultimately far less severe than they will be for anyone who actually has to live in the UK, whether they voted leave or remain. And in the long run I could actually benefit from it financially, if I wait out the worst of it here and then return when the country has taken a battering and everything is dirt cheap.
But when I think about the other consequences of hard Brexit, I just can't wish that on anyone. I don't wish it on my friends or family who live in the UK, even the ones who voted leave. I don't wish it on my father who has a chronic illness and needs a lot of NHS care and medication. I don't wish it on anyone already struggling to make ends meet who will really suffer if the price of food, utilities and fuel go up. And I really, really, really don't wish it on anyone living in Northern Ireland. Those people weren't even a footnote in the referendum debate, and now the hard-won peace and stability where they live is under threat.
Nobody deserves hard Brexit, no matter what they voted for or how stupid and pig-headed I might think they are.
So that is why I am still hoping for a soft Brexit. And no, some people will feel betrayed, in the same way that a toddler might feel betrayed if you tell him he can't eat sweets until he throws up. But it's better than the alternative.