I work hard, earn a reasonable income. I rarely use the NHS, pay directly for my dentist and optician, use very few services I don't pay for directly. My net contribution to the State is likely somewhat higher than what I get back in terms of direct service provision and State financial support. The State is a parasite, sucking up my money which I could spend on things I care about, instead of throwing it away on Trident and train company subsidies (which I never use).
So, should I leave the UK and go live on an island by myself and reject the State completely?
Tax, which is essentially what our EU membership payment was, is the price each of us pay to be allowed to take part in the creation of financial, social and cultural wealth . It's value can't be measured by adding up what we get back directly in terms of services or goods. It's value is also measured in terms of stability, security, a sense of cooperation, access to markets, protection of rights, cultural diversity and so on. But mostly the value of the State is that it allows me to make more money by being a part of it than I can make on my own. My overall financial gain hugely outweighs the tax I pay.
This is what we are losing by leaving the EU - we make more money from being in the EU than we pay to the EU. The same is true of immigration - we make more money from immigration than we have to pay to support those immigrants. All that stuff about needing the EU payments for ourselves for education, housing, the NHS... it's pure misdirection. All that stuff about needing to get rid of immigrants for the same reason is also misdirection. EU membership and immigration pay for themselves, and there's plenty of money left over to improve our own lives. The fact that successive UK governments have pissed that money away is not the EU's fault.