How can I get my sil to stop using pampers and those hideous smelly orange nappy bags?

[alhambra]

that's it really. Gorgeous new baby, lovely family. Very right on in so many ways, so I was totally shocked to see them using VASELINE, PAMPERS and those repulsive orange nappy bags that do not biodegrade in 600 years. I didn't say anything, as thought - aw, they are still getting used to things - but then I thought, no somewhere along the line they have made a DECISION to do this. I really want to say something but a)obviously it's not my baby and b)I remember when I had dd1 and my sister tried to make me take all her old manky reusable nappies and I rebelled, although only to Moltex.

You can't.

Her child, her choice.

You can talk about your own choices, but you can't make hers for her.

To be quite honest,it is none of your business.

but it's WRONG!

buy her some of those biodegradable nappies and bags, for her to try.

after that, nothing you can do ! or should do !

You can get her to use Huggies and the lovely blue smelly bags with the teddies on like me!!

None of your business really.

How rude. Definitely none of your business.

It's wrong for you.

Her choices are not your business.

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Why is it rude?

or get her to use Tesco's own nappies (cheaper than pampers and much better) and the Bodycare Nappy sacks (also very cheap - 250 for 89p) like me

Its her choice and maybe as her first baby she is thinking "what ever makes life easier" right now. I didnt use washables with my DD but am planning to with this one.

It might be wrong in your eyes, but to be honest its not your baby, or your money, so her choice.

None of your business! If my SIL approached me with that attitude there would probably be one hell of a huge fall out.

However she used one life nappies on her DD1 (1 year older than my DD!) and I now use them on my DD2. I'm pleased she showed me how easy they were to use and I am now more aware of other things too.

It's their choice, you can dictate what you do but not what others do.

Do you shop at a supermarket?
Drive a car?
Grow your own veg?
Recycle everything?
Only buy Fairtrade goods?
Have a composter?
Breast feed?
Did you wean at 6 months?
Did you b/feed until 2 years?
Does your child ever have sugar?
Does your child ever watch tv?
Do you ever buy clothes that may have been made in less than perfect factories?

Difficult innit....?

I agree that the orange bags smell yucky, but it really is none of your business what your sister uses.

Maybe if you purchased your chosen preference for her to use (until her baby is potty trained), or offered to do a personal nappy laundering service for reuseables for her then she might look upon your interfering as a nice gesture??

I am all up for saving the planet, but when you have a baby, especially baby no.1 you are really caught up in trying to keep the poor cherub fed and clothed to really worry about what they poo into. Would they be better people if they were more eco-friendly but neglectful for example? I think washing nappies in those early days might have finished me off, sometimes there is just more important things in life.

Did you see that programme on Channel 4 about the Human Footprint last night? Gawd that was depressing. How much we all consume and chuck away.

THBM, I'd have smacked anyone in the teeth who would have been presumptive enough to buy their choice of nappies for me, and expect me to use them because they preferred them, thbm, and I expect any other (hormonal, harrassed, stressed, wanting-to-make-life-easier-for-now) new mother would do the same!

Give her a bit of time. She may intend to use washables and save the planet later; for now, she's taking the easier option.

Hmmm. This isn't me going "I am perfect" - although I do do pretty much everything on that list, and more, except for sugar, tv and clothing, but rather thinking "This is interesting, a couple that I thought were really aware and right on have made what I think is a really right off choice." As I said, I have not actually said anything, as I am aware she is not my baby! It's just that, when you have your first baby, that's often a time when you start thinking seriously about the future, and climate change, and all that. And I have had loads of discussions with them in which they prove themselves to be well versed in these issues. And they are very wealthy and not pressed for time. So it does seem, to me, to be a peverse choice. That it is THEIR choice, I don't doubt, but surely it's my duty to try and persuade them out of it?

If someone had criticised me in the first year they would have tipped me over the edge. TBH

It's your "duty" to leave them to do what feels right until things get easier - remember those first awful few months? You do whatever it takes to get you through - and for her, for now, that might include disposable nappies.

Maybe bring re-usuables/biodegradables to their attention, gently - I know I knew nothing of either when I had DS, but once they have the information it really is down to them to choose.

Me too, LGJ.