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Ethical dilemmas

Report neighbour committing benefit fraud

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Goldengoose1977 · 10/11/2025 17:29

Hi, I believe a neighbour is committing benefit fraud. She has a teenaged son that has been taken out from school due to 'ADHD' because he can't sit still in class.(Does however sit all day on his console). She is claiming DLA for him and also carers allowance. She does not need to give him any extra attention at all, He can dress, feed and wash himself like as well as any other teenaged boy. She also works 3 days a week so isn't at home all day anyway, So how can she be claiming to be a carer when she does nowt extra? Haven't decided whether to report or not, interested in other people's views on this. Thanks

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CrimsonKitty · 10/11/2025 18:50

I'm not saying it's right and not unfair for people to commit benefits fraud, but honestly the super wealthy in this country who are doing legal tax avoidance are so happy with people like you. There are far far far bigger fish to fry then looking at people like this, I assure you.

Happyher · 10/11/2025 18:52

You can still work and receive carers allowance. Her son will have been through a rigorous assessment for DLA and it’s unlikely they’ll investigate just because a neighbour thinks that he shouldn’t get it. What facts do you have that they won’t already know?

mamagogo1 · 10/11/2025 18:53

There’s a cap on what you can earn and claim carers allowance so she can’t be working 3 days a week.

Tcateh · 10/11/2025 18:54

The weekly earnings allowance for carers to still be legitimately claimed is £186 a week.

LadyKenya · 10/11/2025 18:54

She must be earning a pittance.

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 10/11/2025 18:55

No don't. Her benefits could be means tested. It probably looks like that from the outside but very few single moms are rich really. I highly doubt it she has as much disposable money as you imagine. The school and child welfare services will get involved if there's a problem schoolwise. Its good she's working anyway. She's probably doing what she can

Happyher · 10/11/2025 18:56

mamagogo1 · 10/11/2025 18:53

There’s a cap on what you can earn and claim carers allowance so she can’t be working 3 days a week.

You can earn £196 pw after deductions so she could easily be working 3 days a week

Nousernamesavaliable · 10/11/2025 19:00

You sound delightful 🙄. So she works 3 days a week, so not full time unless doing 12 hour shifts.... shes a mum trying to look after her child in any situation she can.
How about instead of judging her...you ask her how she is? Maybe if she fancies a cup of tea and a chat!
Be kind, most people are only a payday or 3 a way from needing help.
( oh and working people are entitled to claim too)

TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 10/11/2025 19:00

Id put your energy into the fathers who get off Scot free!

SwirlyShirly · 10/11/2025 19:01

I think, if I were you, I’d go the whole hog - write to the ADHD Team and question the boy’s diagnosis at the same time, since you’re clearly such an expert.

Sunshin80 · 10/11/2025 19:13

Why ask on here if your hell bent on doing anyway. Go on see how far you get with it, I doubt not very far at all!! You sound quite bitter and she sounds like she's just on the wind up with you. DLA is difficult to get and the fact that her son isnt in school would more than likely warrant medium / high rate care anyway as no matter who she chooses to look after him, the hours he is with her/other care giver is above that of another child their age. What he is doing then with his time is of no business but his mothers. Regarding carers allowance there is a threshold that she will have to be under and again is of no business of yours. The dwp and hmrc will know that. If I were you which im glad im not I would keep my beak out of other people's business and stop letting it wind you up as it is quite obviously also making you jealous which is the reaction she is probably going for. Believe me though working full time is probably alot easier than having a child with additional needs, that is said from experience

FindingMeno · 10/11/2025 19:15

Everything is shite atm for so many people but there's still nasty people like you, op, just itching to fuck someone over.
If you can work hard for every penny, just be glad that you can and you don't have to care for someone who has a disability.

EasyTouch · 10/11/2025 19:17

Goldengoose1977 · 10/11/2025 17:46

So you think it's acceptable to exaggerate your own child's condition in order to get handouts? As I said in previous reply my statements aren't conjecture they are from her own mouth. The reason he doesn't go to school is because 'He ain't going if his mates ain't there'. Her words not mine

Make sure that you can fight. Because if somebody allegedly " boasted" to you, without a care that they are allegedly committing fraud, they will not think twice to give you a good beating when said benefits are stopped and they have to pay them back.
Or is this one those convenient tales where the alleged benefit fraudster held a Mothers' Meeting to declare to all and sundry that she is on the fiddle, thus being unable to ascertain who dobbed her in when the DWP caught up with her?
I am sure that one of the main reasons why I have had an adulthood of quiet, but consistent financial reap is because I do not watch the pockets of others and made MY circumstances fit MY income , always leaving room for adaptability.
Pocket watching other people's pockets takes up too much time.
You could have already reported her instead of asking the permission of strangers, for example and you could have done it sooner.

Instead you have spent time marinating and projecting your dissatisfaction about YOUR circumstances onto your neighbour when you could have used that time marinating on how you could improve YOUR finances.

menopausalfart · 10/11/2025 19:19

You have to have evidence from the professional people in a child's life in order to claim DLA. It's not a case of being able to write what you like. The child's Doc would also be contacted. My DD gets it as she has DS with a severe learning disability. It's never a straightforward process and it's very thorough.

Catsknowbest · 10/11/2025 19:19

Goldengoose1977 · 10/11/2025 17:29

Hi, I believe a neighbour is committing benefit fraud. She has a teenaged son that has been taken out from school due to 'ADHD' because he can't sit still in class.(Does however sit all day on his console). She is claiming DLA for him and also carers allowance. She does not need to give him any extra attention at all, He can dress, feed and wash himself like as well as any other teenaged boy. She also works 3 days a week so isn't at home all day anyway, So how can she be claiming to be a carer when she does nowt extra? Haven't decided whether to report or not, interested in other people's views on this. Thanks

The requirement for claiming carers allowance is the provision of 35hrs a week or more regular substantial care- so obviously her working does not prevent this. As you do not live with them, and, hopefully, have not set up a series of surveillance cameras in their home you know absolutely nothing about his condition over a 24hr period nor his actual needs. Also, I believe your post is purely for the purposes of goading people, and you need to get a life. In addition, if she didn't work at all I have no doubt you would have popped lazy in there somewhere too.

Catsknowbest · 10/11/2025 19:21

Goldengoose1977 · 10/11/2025 17:42

I think it's unfair that someone should be getting over £600 a month for DLA and carers allowance by exaggerating her son's condition. I have to work 5/6 days a week to make ends meet, meanwhile she has had 2 foreign holidays this year. For the avoidance of doubt she isn't a single mum, she has a husband to share the parenting responsibilities who is also working (cash in hand i.e not paying tax, not contributing anything etc). This isn't conjecture, I know all this for a fact as she has openly boasted to me about how much she gets and how she doesn't do anything extra to warrant a carers allowance

Its absolutely incredible how much you know about these people. You literally must be bugging their house.....🤔 and for the avoidance of doubt I truly do not believe she has actively boasted about all her personal details in the way you suggest.

PInkyStarfish · 10/11/2025 19:21

Just report her and they can decide to re evaluate her claim or not.

Branleuse · 10/11/2025 19:23

Bootlicker much?

Hereforthecommentz · 10/11/2025 19:25

Goldengoose1977 · 10/11/2025 17:29

Hi, I believe a neighbour is committing benefit fraud. She has a teenaged son that has been taken out from school due to 'ADHD' because he can't sit still in class.(Does however sit all day on his console). She is claiming DLA for him and also carers allowance. She does not need to give him any extra attention at all, He can dress, feed and wash himself like as well as any other teenaged boy. She also works 3 days a week so isn't at home all day anyway, So how can she be claiming to be a carer when she does nowt extra? Haven't decided whether to report or not, interested in other people's views on this. Thanks

I think you don't know anything about this child. My brother had severe adhd but he could go fishing for hours. Children can hyper focus on things they are interested in. This child could really struggle at school and the school setting may not suit his needs. DLA doesn't mean they can't clothe themselves there are three different levels of dla low med and high and two parts to it a caring part and mobility part. For all you know she gets the lower part. My child had anorexia we got low rate Dla because she needed extra help and watching to make sure she ate food and make sure she wasn't exercising and self harming. Just because you see this lad playing computer doesn't mean you know anything about his needs. Our neighbours certainly wouldn't have known our child had a serious mental illness from seeing her in the street. I think you are being bloody nasty.

Catsknowbest · 10/11/2025 19:26

AlisonLittle · 10/11/2025 18:35

I probably wouldn't actually report it, but if your asked just tell the truth. My brother actually claims 3 carers allowances one for his disabled son which is genuine. The other two claims are for my parents, my Dad is actually still working. When my brother went to Greece for a week my mum and dad stayed at his house to look after his disabled son.

You categorically cannot claim carers allowance for more than one person unless using fraudulent details about yourself and even then it is virtually impossible. I've been a benefits specialist for over 10 years and I absolutely know this to be the case. He may be claiming carers allowance and one carers element of UC but the CA would be deducted from the UC.

gamerchick · 10/11/2025 19:27

AlisonLittle · 10/11/2025 18:35

I probably wouldn't actually report it, but if your asked just tell the truth. My brother actually claims 3 carers allowances one for his disabled son which is genuine. The other two claims are for my parents, my Dad is actually still working. When my brother went to Greece for a week my mum and dad stayed at his house to look after his disabled son.

You can't claim 3 carers allowances.

surprisebaby12 · 10/11/2025 19:29

None of your business!!!!

RosaMundi27 · 10/11/2025 19:29

You don't know the exact circumstances of why and how the mother was given benefits. You don't know exactly what level of care and support she provides. You don't know what his precise needs are. Mind your own business, seriously.

DrowningInIt · 10/11/2025 19:29

You can get benefits for depression and if he’s on his console all day then sounds like he’s got issues but it does seem his mother is enabling him to do nothing and not improve his life which is the real issue
reporting him won’t stop his benefits though

Ihopeithinkiknow · 10/11/2025 19:29

I claimed Dla and carers for my son as he had Cystic Fibrosis and the amount of medication and treatment day and night was insane but of course to anyone that didn’t live in our house they wouldn’t have seen that would they. Keep your beak out