Watching 8 month old at wedding on baby monitor?

[SpudMama321]

Hi all. Looking for advice. We are due to attend a wedding this weekend and our babysitter has pulled out. We are staying in onsite accommodation, but in a different building to the wedding itself which is a 3-5 minute walk away. She usually goes down between 7-8pm and sleeps through.

My question is - do you think one of us needs to stay with her all evening. Or, assuming the WiFi works well, do you think we can watch her on the baby monitor (which is a ring camera with an app on our phone) and go back to the wedding? I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding (her opinion is we shouldn't do this because it's not in the building itself, I think) but I'm not sure I necessarily agree if we have the ring camera and a constant live stream. A 3-5 minute walk is a 2 minute jog for my husband. I am so torn! Will I just get a gut instinct when we arrive whether it's okay or not?

One of you will have to sit and watch the monitor almost constantly which means you'll miss the wedding anyway and may as well have stayed in the room. How quickly do you think you can realistically react to something happening on a monitor at a loud wedding reception, leave the reception, take the lift or stairs (or go to another building it sounds like??), unlock the door and get to your baby? Not fast enough. Maybe a 7 or 8 year old I would do this but not a baby

I went to a wedding with a 4 month old and 4 year old. We took ear defenders for them and they both fell asleep whilst we danced away. Holding them I might add. It was a great night. Leaving your precious baby alone is shocking

Struugling to believe you are even considering this

Of course it’s not ok.

Of course this is another fake post. Is the weather affecting some people or something?

Surely this is a joke:( and not a funny one at that.

I can't even believe you are even asking the question. How old are you, 12?

Christ absolutely not. What are you thinking???

Of course the venue isn't going to agree to this plan.

In the event of a fire, you would not be allowed to enter the building where your baby is, which they are trying to evacuate. It would be criminally irresponsible for the venue to agree to such a plan.

Whether you ignore that and do it anyway is of course up to you, but you have to take sole responsibility for the decision because anyone who agrees with you that it's a reasonable plan will share the blame in the event of a disaster.

I have done something similar in a quiet hotel restaurant (not a wedding) where I was just eating a meal solo and listening to every breath my baby made in my headphones and ready to run upstairs instantly if needed (as an overnight stop when driving to see family at a distance longer than I can manage in one day). I would not do so at a wedding as it wouldn't be possible to direct enough attention to the baby's wellbeing.

7 pages and no op. Tedious…

I think the person you spoke to at the venue was absolutely correct in their opinion. It's a big no - it wouldn't surprise me if they have warned other staff to keep an eye on your family in case you try to do it.

It's middle class child neglect. "Oh but they were fine. Tucked up in bed all alone whilst we drank champagne and had a great time". I am confident lots of people behave like this but it is neglect nonetheless.

I find the majority of parents overprotective nowadays, but good grief, you can’t do that. What if baby was sick and started choking, how quickly could you get there?!
A baby monitor is for keeping an eye on them while you’re downstairs in the house or a different room, not in a different building.

Erm what?

Either take them with you or stay with them...

They’re not downstairs. They’re going to be in a different building. Nothing short of neglect.

What is wrong with people?! Or is this a joke?

You should probably take some parenting courses as not seeing the issue with this means your child is likely at risk of neglect in other situations too.
Reassess your priorities. Deciding to have a child means their needs have to come before you wanting to have fun.

No way!
Buy her ear defenders ..put her in pushchair and keep her with you.

No way! You must be crazy. Say the building catches fire?! Anything could happen. Ridiculous idea. Get another babysitter or keep her with you in the pram with headphones.

Madeline McCann springs to mind. No way would I do this 🙈

I am a super relaxed mum, amazes me how risk averse many are on here, I definitely would not ever do this
beside the obvious risks you wouldn’t enjoy yourself glued to a monitor, and can you imagine how much all the other guests would judge you

For the love of whatever existence, this is a prank post right?!

Is your amazing baby monitor gonna be able to save your baby's life if heaven forbid something happens in the '3-5 minute walk'. Get a grip. You CANNOT leave a baby on their own!

The wedding venue are probably gonna be watching you like a hawk now too 🙃

I cant believe this is real

This absolutely 💯 has to be a wind up!

(And if it isn’t, then fucking hell!! What on earth are you thinking?? 🤯🤬)

I just rang the venue to check on the WiFi situation and they said we can't put her to bed and go back to the wedding

Yes, that's because she's a baby and not a muffin.

This has to be a wind up, no one in their right mind would do this