Dd heard us having sex

[Rowie00]

My DD is 9, she heard partner and I having sex, cringe for us all. She was mortified and was crying. I comforted her and apologised. I obviously need to talk to her. But how and how much do you say?

I was older than your dd when I heard my mum and her partner having sex and I cried too! I thought my mum was being hurt (she was pretty loud). It was the moat unpleasant thing I witnessed and I would hate my children to go through it.

Me and my old best friend once climbed over her nans gate to surprise her ( aged about 10). Back door locked so we went to look through back window to check she was ok.
The curtains were just slightly to short.
Low and behold, nan there on all fours giving her "elderly companion male friend " a bj AND another elderly couple also going at it in the same room.
THAT is etched on my eyeballs. I know it sounds unbelievable and whenever I'd told anyone they cannot believe it.

I heard my parents having sex once when I was older than your DD and I did find it weirdly upsetting, even though I was old enough that I definitely knew what sex was. The thing is that even if you know the mechanics, actually hearing it is a whole different beast and can be very uncomfortable.

But take comfort OP - I got over it quickly and was absolutely fine! My parents didn't know so we never spoke about it. It was just one of those things I tried not to think about and before long I did stop thinking about it.

I once heard my mum and her young partner having sex. I was 11 and didn't know what was happening. Mum was moaning an awful lot and I thought she was being hurt. I cried too so can see where she was coming from
maybe.

Tbh, it is a part of life. As I got older I recognised what it was as I'm sure my children will (they have disturbed us more than once).

I never heard my parents having sex as a child but then again the house was reasonably big, their room was a long way down the hall from mine and the walls were thick.

However, aged 16, my boyfriend's little sister walked in on us having sex - she was 9 at the time. She was a very innocent 9 but we asked her what she thought she had seen and she said she didn't know, so we left it at that. We both felt (and still feel) awful about the fact that she had walked in, but she hasn't mentioned it since.

Kids react to these things differently.

It’s upsetting to see people close to you in a new light even if you really know what everyone is like. Imagine catching your grandpa masturbating or a favourite aunty doing drugs. It’s upsetting and a surprise. But she’ll get over it.