Some of you may remember me from a few years ago...Dad on end of life, Mum had a thing for his companion carer which became reciprocal a few weeks before my dad passed away in 2021. She was up and down emotionally for the following year and I reported the situation to social services, his employer and the police. Investigations happened, they claimed they had become close friends, played it like it was all grief driven on my part. He got a slap on the wrist and a couple of training workshops and went back to work before retiring in spring 2023.
Since then he has been visiting my mum fortnightly. He is now 69 and my mum 86. I've tried to let it lie as she seems on an even keel with the arrangement (my main concern previously, aside from his lack of professionalism/taking advantage, was the impact it was having on her mental health) but...
...she has made it clear their relationship is sexual and has disclosed some of the things he has been asking/suggesting they do 🤮. She doesn't seem bothered, more curious.
She has also told me recently that she has left him money in her Will but refuses to disclose how much, which caused quite a row between us. She's entitled to leave what she wants but I'd just like to be forewarned so I don't get a nasty shock at an already challenging time.
He is no longer working although apparently has started volunteering at a home for elderly people with dementia although I don't know the name of it (nothing to do with my mum but I have to wonder at his motives).
He is so clearly a wrong 'un, but there's nothing more I can do is there?
I've been wanting to relocate for a few years but holding fire because I'm the only family she has but I'm about to turn 50 and really don't think I can deal with this anymore on top of having to work two jobs to stay afloat as we live in a fairly expensive area...