Do I need help
My wife of 42 yrs died in June aged just 62
We had worked together 24 hrs a day seven days a week for 42 yrs.
As you can imagine I’m finding life unbearable due to my loss, not only coping the loss of my wife but with an unbearable problem now occupying my mind every waking day. HER PARENTS who,I believe are now over 80 yrs. old but in no way infirm.
We lived abroad for the 42 years of our marriage in France where she contracted Cancer four yrs ago.
For all of this time we had a wonderful relationship with her family, never a cross word or any falling out. I considered myself another son to her parents.
They had visited us in France and other countries in Europe almost every yr for 40 yrs often making more than one visit per yr. We looked so forward to each visit to have once again family around us.
Six months before her death I was obliged to contact her parents to ask them to phone their daughter as it was many weeks since any contact between them.
For the last six months of her life they made no visits to see their eldest daughter, no phone calls as to the current condition of my wife. They obtained updates through my wife’s younger sister who did in fact make several visits to be with her.
Although being mobile but with some health problems there was no suggestion by them of a visit to their dying daughter.
Again I made contact suggesting Train travel as well as Air travel with assistance as their daughter needed to see them one more time before her expected death.
My wife’s only concern was not to worry her parents with any truthful news of her condition.
Finally my wife died asking just the one time where were her parents.
The fact that her parents never made the effort to see their dying daughter has been making me absolutely paranoid looking for answers which have never been offered to me by any member of her family consisting of the parents, two brothers and a sister, as to why her Mum and Dad never visited or showed any visible concern to me or my son.
To this day never offering any condolences to me and never having any direct contact with me.
This situation is now taking precedence in my life and it shouldn’t be while trying to mourn my loss, I am continually looking for answers which are not forthcoming.
Am I being excessively paranoid, initially I was in contact with her sister after my wife’s death but now nothing for weeks.
Should I seek professional help.?
Please excuse my using this platform but wasn’t happy expressing my problem on other media outlets.