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Elderly parents

LPA - can I refuse to be attorney?

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BatshitCrazyWoman · 17/12/2019 14:04

My parents drew up their LPAs nearly 10 years ago. I'm an only child so they made me attorney. Didn't really ask me .... I was pretty low contact with them - and really don't get along with my father. My circumstances were very different then - I was (unhappily, although they didn't know that) married to a high earner, didn't work as had a disabled DC. Parents lived an hour and a half away. I had a long, acrimonious divorce, was made homeless. All very traumatic. I'm coming out of it now. I work full time, long hours and an hour long commute.

My mother died about 5 months ago and my father is increasingly frail, and has fallen a lot - just been discharged from hospital with a care package. I don't visit - I'm low contact for good reasons (won't go into them here). The social worker asked if I had POA. I have realised that I don't want to be his attorney. I'm already running my disabled DCs life, including care and health decisions and finances, so I don't have time for a start. And I don't want to.

Do I have to do anything to 'resign' from this?

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Orangeblossom78 · 09/01/2020 08:50

Oh good. Yes most are OOTF or heading that way on that site, there is some good stuff about moving on and working on any stuff we have as a result etc.

I am finding my brother seems to be taking over a bit in my case, lucky I guess. More difficult for an early child. He is going to take on the P o A stuff and has an appt about it next week.

MereDintofPandiculation · 09/01/2020 10:34

I already know there'll be no inheritance for me I'm not the slightest bit bothered about that! Will you be happy to pay for the funeral or will you get him buried at public expense?

Actually - I think (and I may be completely wrong) that if he takes out a funeral plan (may need to be a lump sump) that's taken out of the financial assessment - possibly something to look into.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 09/01/2020 10:40

He already has a funeral plan.

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UYScuti · 10/01/2020 11:39

she is talking to social services about a safe guarding investigation into me for how I've handled her estate
😲 Fuck that shit
The horror stories on this thread should be a warning to us all 😲
I'm so sorry Annie that sounds very distressing for you 😔

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