My Mum never asks, enquires, seems interested in my life

[paganmolloy]

She will ring me up to tell me stuff as soon as she hears about it e.g. my brother dropped in for a visit or other brother called and he is doing such and such, that an old friend phoned her. She will also say 'other things to tell you' and it will be really mundane stuff as she works her way through the list she keeps, just to tell me. She will never ask about what I'm up to. Best example is when I get back from holiday and ring her. First thing she says, every time "Is that you back? Nice time?" then it's bang, straight into what information she can give me about anything.

So in light of comments since I first posted, what I would like to add is this – I am a highly sensitive person and I am very respectful of others and I would never do anything to deliberately hurt or upset another person. However, people play on this, they see it as weakness and act indifferent and like they don’t care because they know I won’t say anything. I did start to stand up for myself with my own mother and it got me nowhere, she just shouted back at me and blamed me for everything. I realised that with some people, they have narcissistic traits and they will do whatever they can to blame the rest of the world rather than take responsibility for their own actions. You cannot change them, it is ingrained in them (they probably have their own hurt and abuse stories and trauma that they’ve never processed and so the cycle continues). You need to say no more, and either walk away if you can, or, have limited interactions and behave like a grey rock i.e. show no emotion and give nothing away of how you’re feeling.

There plenty of clubs but my mam wont join them. Then puts pressure on one friend to meet up and that friend has her own family.. the elderly can be very selfish. Same what can u do for me. No interest how kids etc