Gordonstoun vs shrewsbury defiant high iq girl

[ByRedTiger]

I have a defiant and high iq girl with high functioning asd and adhd medicated. Which school is better?

Depends where you live! Scotland is remote! Is this child being “sent away” for the school to do the heavy lifting? Not a recipe for success in my view. You have to really want Gordonstoun and dc need to sign up for its regime.

We are overseas so the difference is the same to us. What is dc? Yes. Sent away for reset

DC is a MN term for child. So you are sending your dc away and expect the school to parent them? Recipe for disaster. Neither school, nor any school, should be used for that and it sounds like a punishment.

Sent away for reset? Are you for real?

Yes didn’t you know ? ASD and ADHD are optional lifestyles .. that just needs a ‘reset’ ideally by sending the child away to a boarding school in another country from her parents. Ideally one that can scare the autism out of her.

Whats that sound OP ? Ah it’s the 1850s calling, they want their outdated harsh ‘spare the rod spoil the child’ attitudes back.. good grief.

If considering Shrewsbury School I would recommend Wrekin College, about 15 mins drive away. I know nuero diverse pupils who have thrived there and gone on to have fulfilled lives. When we looked at it for our children recently (affordability ruled it out, though it is cheaper than Shrewsbury) the focus was very much on supporting children, whatever their needs, so the ethos continues. Shrewsbury is not bad, just a bit more traditional in that respect. Good luck in your search.

Is she into the outdoors? Gordonstoun excels at that.

If you’re hoping for a reset, then your daughter has to be onboard or it won’t work at all. Which school does she want to go to?

If she’s sent away somewhere that she really doesn’t want to go, she will find a way to get herself expelled and you will still be on the hook for the fees.

What do you mean by 'defiant'?

A dc really has to sign up to Gordonstoun. The king wasn’t happy there! It’s meant to be very outdoorsy and it’s remote.

Gordonstoun isn't remote. It's a mile from a village and about 4 miles from a large town.

I used to teach younger children of Gordonstoun teachers, in the village school.

gosh a recipe for disaster, how about you get your daughter some support? Not send her away, poor child

"Reset" isn't going to happen by sending your child away, OP. That's throwing money at her issues and hoping for a magical answer.

@RaraRachael It’s remote in terms of international airports. Aberdeen is the closest. That matters if you are an international child. Most people think Inverness is remote in the circumstances!

It's only an hour from Inverness airport which has good connections to Luton and Gatwick.It's no further time wise than some in England would be from Heathrow or Gatwick.

Some people are making it sound like it's hundreds of miles from anywhere.0

Perspective rather depends on your starting point. If you are used to the transport options of central London for example it will seem remote by any stretch of the imagination, village or no.

How have you narrowed your choice down to those 2 schools?

It’s not close to direct flights in an out for most international students. There’s the issue of guardians and where they live. Many boarding schools are not necessarily around London but are not a flight away. It’s a very marmite choice and travel arrangements make it remote. I cannot see why anyone south of the border would choose it quite frankly.

I had a defiant ASD/ADHD child and a mainstream independent school would never work. It has taken 2 years in a quiet, small supportive school with therapy, low demands, quiet time at home and a lot of gentle support. Education had to be stripped back and the nervous system allowed to recover.

Academic work has never been a struggle and they’ve always been working well ahead so we hope they may be able to access a mainstream independent by 6th form.

'Reset'. Have you tried turning her off and back on again? That should return her to factory settings.
Really hope this is a frustrated parent asking a not-really-genuine question.

I hope this isn’t real. I have a similar child and I get it’s frustrating but you can’t send them away because it’s difficult.

I think that the structure of a boarding school is highly beneficial to a child with ND. But only if they are onboard with it and want to go. I would be looking at schools in the SE though for ease of flights.

Gordonstoun is not remote.
Duffus, Lossie, Elgin, Forres, Kinloss are all very close.
Inverness, and its airport, is close.
Do people honestly think civilisation doesn’t exist up here

They've been watching the film "Brigadoon"