Should I report concerns about teacher socialising with pupil and parent?

[Jblingsmum]

My son dumped his girlfriend. So i asked him why. He said he didn't really want to chat about it but he did open up to his dad. He said that his girlfriend and her mother spend a lot time with a male teacher from school together. Football outing and meeting for the odd coffee together. Hes told her she needs to speak to the head teacher. Shes saying she wont. So he dumped her. I cant have my son mixed up in this. It doesn't feel right at all. Im sure this shouldn't be allowed.
If I report it. Its going to look like him.
advice needed

A teacher has a social life? Who knows!

A teacher has a life outside of school and you want to report it? How strange.

Wait… so the teachers don’t all live at school?

Definitely this!!! You need to let your son know that women and girls do not have to do what men say. We are our own people with thoughts of our own.

That's an interesting clause, because paragraph 2 effectively defeats paragraph 1 - why, because although the school has put it in the T's and C's to try and cover itself, there is nothing in the law or the teachers standards that would mean its enforceable.

I don't understand ... what has anyone done wrong? The teacher is perfectly allowed to be friends with/in a relationship with the mother. It sounds like your DS is jealous as he suspects his \GF with the teacher or some such? What would you 'report'? A teacher is friends with a mum?

Jesus, is your son Chandler Bing? My sister in law taught both my kids at secondary. She was the only teacher for that subject, it was the only local school suitable for my kids. What would you have had us do? MIL also taught my older DC from a previous relationship for a year. The only issue was she wasn't allowed to invigilate or mark her exams.

He said that his girlfriend and her mother spend a lot time with a male teacher from school together.

What's the missing info?

yes 100 per cent this

There seems to be a lot of threads about people not wanting teachers to have lives recently.

Errr, this is batshit, there’s no issue here.

And sometimes they even end up with their own child in their class! This happened to me for one hour a week. I taught the primary year my child was in, and once a week I taught the other class- their class. Nobody cared!
But I guess you could headline this as 'teacher sees pupil extensively out of class..... '

What is the issue here?

Why is your son saying she needs to speak to the head teacher? You’re either missing important information or you’re overreacting

Yes, it's quite the thing!

Weird thread

Frankly, that's a load of rubbish. What about teachers who have their own kids at school? Loads of those at our place over the years.

This is a plopper thread.

Does that mean the OP won't be back?

Can you explain what the problem is?

Exactly!

OP, your son was in the wrong and controlling. Why on god's green earth would a grown woman not be able to be friends with someone who works at the school her daughter attends? Why can't her teenagr daughter go out with her own mum and her mum's pal!

Usually yes.

No, because it is senseless.

I don't think the OP will be back though.

Yes, that's exactly what I thought.

Well it's up to him why he dumped her.
And why are you saying 'you don't want your son involved in any of this'? In any of what?
There is no safeguarding concern.

Teachers are allowed to be friends with whoever they like. If he dumped her he may not want to disclose exactly why to his mum.
It's definitely none of your concern who his ex and her mother choose to socialise with.

Did he think the gf and her mum were having an incestuous threesome with the teacher?!

Regardless it really is not your business.