Putting my child in a private school

[DaisyRaine90]

Can’t be the only one who started their child in state school and had such a bad experience dealing with the head teacher that we’re putting her in private instead? I wish I’d never put her in state school at all 😔 Grew up on socialism, but damn these schools are so bad. I already moved her from state to private nursery last year and it’s happening all over again x

I moved my daughter from state to private, OP, and I think you should do the same if you can afford to. I do think your expectations are somewhat unrealistic, given the number of children in a state school class, but in a smaller group I think you and your child would be happier. I've never looked back, to be honest.
See what's in your area; many private schools will accept entry at any point if they are not full. Good luck with it.

I already moved her from state to private last year . My bad, only three changes for a four year old in a year.

Oh hold on, you are moving her again, so four changes.

Is this the thread of the "Tiger Mother" by any chance? It is just so demanding and ambitious for a 4 year old. Suzuki violin does start young and beloved of Tiger Mothers.

I would never want my child to be in a class of 8, as one poster describes. Way too small for friendships and working partners if there is a large disparity in intelligence. Yes, it is noticable at 4/5. Small classes do not make for excellent teaching. Excellent teachers make for excellent teaching and private schools do not have a monopoly on them. Your child may well not do so well if the teaching is staid and poor. YR classes always have TAs these days and the children have more than one adult with them in the classroom. They are asked to do tasks and complete them. Or at least the focussed children will complete them. Others will play becuase they are not yet ready to focus and learn in the same way. Have you asked what table based activities she does if she has a partner? This suggests to me she is not playing all day.

If the teacher says your child is making progress, although I guess you only had a settling in meeting, then why do you not believe the assessment? What do the SATS results look like at the school? Are other children effective learners? However, if you want to go, do so. It's your money!

Three in a little over a year 🤷‍♀️ doesn’t matter how many times you try and make it more than that it just isn’t. She has been going to nursery since she was 2, and has been in 3 settings so far (will be 4 once she starts the school then no more changes until she’s 11 or 13 I hope).

The teacher did not say she was making any progress. She said she was happy at school and wanted to learn.
That is not the same thing.
They have free flow not activities.

& yeah I’ve read the Tiger Mother book. I don’t see the problem with a little bit of that tbh.
It’s called balance 😊

I would rather be called a Tiger Mother than fail my kids 😂
& by failing them I mean letting them be average

She's only just started reception. Would you not give it a bit of time?

I only have one screen name though 😊

As I said, it’s already done. She has a new school place and no longer has the old one.

By failing them I mean letting them be average

Hope the new school works out though genuinely

@DaisyRaine90 you are failing your kids by not having their best interest and happiness at heart I'm afraid.

I do have my children’s best interests at heart.
& their happiness.

We just obviously disagree on what that means

Most people use happiness to mean “joy.”
Happiness in later life comes from learning mastery and having what you need in life.

Joy can be found every day, whether you are pushed or not.

My argument many comments ago is that children should be taught efficiently so that they have time to have fun too.

I work in the public sector. I imagine the HT is delighted to have dodged a bullet.

I always wonder at people who go through life falling out with everyone, and being constantly disappointed but never reflect that they are the common factor.

*Delighted to have dodged a bullet
*
😂

More like delighted to not have to do her job properly.

@DipsyLaLa22 sadly her dc are getting dragged through it also.

No common denominator.

I’ve fallen out with one person, the HT 😂
Because I tried to have a conversation with her

Surely if you work in the public sector you know the effects of cuts on services and over population
But please, tell me how marvellous the public sector is 🙄 and how we are never allowed to challenge it because it is public

Why should you have to pay someone to their face and not through taxes in order for them to do a good job.

Also why does the private sector out perform the public sector in absolutely everything it does??

Well, that's not exactly true is it OP? You've said yourself on this thread that you feel people often try to bulldoze you and don't listen unless you shout.

If you're finding you have a repeated problem with others, maybe it isn't the others that are the problem...

Good luck OP. I'm not inclined to argue with you as my time would be wasted.

You seem like rather an angry person and like to feel superior to the rest of us.

Good luck in the new school.

As I said because I’m young, small and mostly polite people think they can bulldoze me.

They can’t.

If you think I’m superior maybe I am seeing as how you could not even compose a rebuttal 😂

And they've told you it's because you're young and small (I'd dispute the politeness), have they? Or are you just assuming that?

I'm a petite person, I get through life just fine without having to shout to be heard - or be rude to people. There's more to it than your size ime.

How do you know if I’m polite or not?
Exactly you don’t

How do you know I have not been told that?

I can’t think of any other reason I would be talked to like a child?

But please if you can think of a justification for patronising grown people, I would love to hear it 😊

I get the feeling you like arguing with people? I could compose a rebuttal. I'm just not inclined to. I'm not interested in wasting my afternoon arguing with some random online stranger.

Have to say OP having read most of your responses you’re going to have problems all the way through school. Private or state.

Good luck and I’m glad I’m not your dd or the poor sods that’ll teach her over the next few years.

Fair enough. I don’t argue with people in real life. I’m on an anonymous Internet forum having a debate, not arguing for the sake of it.

But if your going to start something you should finish it surely??

I can’t think of any other reason I would be talked to like a child?

Maybe because you behave like one

Oh I think I get a pretty good sense of it on this thread, somehow!

I think you get talked down to/ignored because you come across as not listening to the views of others - based on what I see here. You can add argumentative, stubborn and unable to see when you are wrong to that, too.

But yes, isn't it just easier to blame it on discrimination cos you iz smol, amirite? So let's do that then. 😂😂😂

I doubt very much that HTC spoke to you like a child, but you do clearly have a persecution complex.

Your behaviour here gives people a very good look into what you are like in real life Daisy, and that is not a pleasant person. If the HT shot you down it is probably because you were telling her how to do her job. And quite frankly based on the things you have said here you haven't got the first clue about teaching.

It is your poor dd I feel sorry for in all of this as you are going to make her life a living hell.

Just remember when you go frog marching in to the new private school to throw around your wildly incorrect accusations that they don't have to take your money and will think absolutely nothing of kicking her and you out