Two of the boys who showed us around GS open evening were from a really tough estate. For them, GS had been a life changer. It was not the GS 'fault' that their local comp was failing. We need decent comps and GS, working together. There's a place for both. We need great schools for all to attend.
The comps we can't get into have a huge price tag in the surrounding area. Those boys didn't have a chance to get in there, but GS afforded them an opportunity that the comp did not. An exception, maybe, but boys from disadvantaged do still exist in grammars. Not enough, you will argue, but those lives are still being changed.
If we truly care about and support ALL children - from SEN to high achievers - then yes, there should be all kinds of schools to cater for all needs and not deny any group the opportunity.
Utlimately, parents do do what's best for their own kids, whether their child has additional needs or whether their child has sporting, musical or academic tendancies, they may try to find a place for that child and be focussed on that single child. Why can't the average parent of an academic and 'geeky' pupil try to secure them a place at a specialist school that fits them best?
Polls are historically misleading - as we know, people say one thing and vote another. My background is working class and we always aspired to GS and nobody begrudged us that dream. At GS open evenings I've seen all socio-economic groups there in search of that dream. They may not end up there, but the aspiration is there. Don't be fooled that this is some m/c dream only. It's certainly not in Birmingham.
As PP said it's about more than results, ir's about a whole ethos and if my local comp provided that then of course I would go. But we're priced out, which is an issue in itself. GS is a lifeline for many (rightly or wrongly) and I'm nodding with you emphatically 2Striped, because we are in a similar situation and I'm trying to grasp grammar with both hands, for if we don't get in then not sure where we will be.
So for us, Utopia is a mixture of great comps and grammars without hefty price tags. I don't see why we couldn't have both in that idealistic place.