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I think I might have just ruined their lives

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:33

Dramatic but seriously i think i've fucked up big time.

DS (twin 1) has not settled at his school at all and has played up every morning since term began and complained he wanted to go back to his private school which wasn't very good and was extremely expensive so when my marriage broken down we moved him to the local good state school where he has been miserable ever since. I've also got remarried and had another set of DS twins much to his disgust.
So to the point of the fuck up, this morning whilst trying to force him into his uniform I thought stuff this you can go back to MH (the private school) well he was dressed in minutes and genuinely utterly delighted, they took him back in an instant, well they would wouldn't they.
Two major problems, we can't afford it, I'll find a way but really we can't afford it and I now have to split myself in half to do two school runs.
I don't think there's any way back from this is there - I have to de register him tomorrow - the school will hit the roof but he did smile for the first time coming out of school today.
Somebody please reassure me i'm not completely nuts.

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nutcracker · 09/10/2006 22:45

Ok so are you going to stick with the private school now ??? What if you find after 6mths you just can't afford it ??

cece · 09/10/2006 22:45

sorry I misread, thougth he had only just started at the state school this Sept

It can take some children several weeks to settle into a new school.

nutcracker · 09/10/2006 22:46

I don't think any one is being harsh. We were asked for our opinions.

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:46

Hormones, 5 week old twins that's all i can say in my defence, lisalisa i hope you're right. Have applied for a weekend job today, trying to think what we can cut back on too.

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PinkTulips · 09/10/2006 22:46

do they offer an installment payment plan. i went to private school for secondary and it was possible to pay in four installment through the year.... spread the burdan a bit.

and definetely get ex-h to pay for at least half of it

soapbox · 09/10/2006 22:47

Sorry Cece - wasn't picking you up on it - more to explain my own response - i.e. that she couldn't take him back out of the private school as he had given the state school a good crack!

hunkermunster · 09/10/2006 22:47

Keep him off both schools tomorrow and talk to him properly by himself about the choices you face.

That way, no snap decisions you might be regretting tomorrow night and hopefully he'll have a better understanding of the situation.

Or maybe not. I don't have a 9yo so have no clue if this is appropriate.

hunkermunster · 09/10/2006 22:47

Oh blimey, just seen you have 5wo twins.

Sell him on eBay.

lisalisa · 09/10/2006 22:48

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:48

Yes he's been there 2 years and hates it.

Also haven't told DH yet, ex h's maintence would cover the fees, that's a good point hadn't thought of that.

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hairymclary · 09/10/2006 22:48

hideehi would it be possible for him to get a scholarship at all?

cece · 09/10/2006 22:50

Good advice hunker.

So the new twins are only 5 weeks... It must be very stressful for you can see your reasoning. What about the other kids at the state school though. Isn't it a bit unfair he gets to go private when they don't? I had a friend who was very bitter because her brothers went private but she was sent to local comp....

Don't want to add to your burden but this could have wider ranign implications..

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:50

Not until he's 11, i am praying he'll want to go to the grammer with his brother then though.

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:51

I know DD has lready started whinging, other DS2 couldn't care less DS1 is quite sensitive.

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PinkTulips · 09/10/2006 22:51

iirc she already said the other kids are happy in the state school, would imagine after 2 years they have tonnes of friends and its only the ds thats miserable.

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:51

I know DD has lready started whinging, other DS2 couldn't care less DS1 is quite sensitive.

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:51

I know DD has lready started whinging, other DS2 couldn't care less DS1 is quite sensitive.

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Original poster
Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:51

I know DD has lready started whinging, other DS2 couldn't care less DS1 is quite sensitive.

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:51

I know DD has lready started whinging, other DS2 couldn't care less DS1 is quite sensitive.

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collision · 09/10/2006 22:52

What will DH say?

Mine would hit the roof.

I do think you have been a bit hasty though.

Hope it all works out for you.

PinkTulips · 09/10/2006 22:52

whoops, x-ed posts. misunderstood earlier

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:53

I think if it had made life easier he'd say bugger the cost send him, he'll be pissed off that he will have to drive him to school but it's not far, i think he'll be ok once i have the weekend job, he can't really complain can he ?

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hairymclary · 09/10/2006 22:54

what will you do if the others kick off and decide they want to go there too?

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:56

Stick my head in the gas oven

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Hideehi · 09/10/2006 22:57

This what i meant about ruining our lives, one child is going to hoover up all the disposable income, one way or another the others are going to miss out now. i know it won't kill them but it's going to be hard.

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