gelatinous, I don't know how you can claim to be against a system, and then support it actively by trying to get your own kids in.
It is no different from being against the existence of private schools, but then sending your own kids private for "personal reasons".
It is just a bit hypocritical. And not many people are tolerant of hypocrisy.
Outraged, I don't agree, I don't think she would have started this thread in that case.
Also, my heart isn't really bleeding for a parent of a child who is obviously capable, bright, top of his class. He will surely do well. He really will.
But I do agree the UK education system is not great and IMO often lets down the brightest kids as well as the really weak ones.
One of the problems I have with the system here, is that from age 5 or so kids are streamed in HA, MA and LA, and once you are in LA, the expectations will be very low. My DS, at age 6 in his SATs was already "written off" by the school as he would not make level 4b by y6 anyway, and he started doing worse and worse, and he is not the only one. Children are put into streams/tiers/comp-grammar/ etc much too early, and there seems to be no chance for a child who doesn't "switch on" until a later age. parents of HA children rarely question the system, even though their children are often held back.
I wish schools would have a good level "minimum" expectation for ALL children, it is too differentiated and you are labeled HA/MA/LA way too soon with disastrous results.
I agree with seeker that the current system is not fair. And it is frustrating too.