How much do you sacrifice to send Dc to private school?

[VeryTiredMummyOf2]

I have 2 Dc, just want to know what people give up? And is it worth it?

I think send them to state school if you have any money left over why not have lots of holidays or let them do horse riding , golf, football etc and build their confidence in something they want to do and be good at.

Don't be worried sparkling you sound like a lovely caring mum. Also don't under estimate state schools be they in posh or less posh or 'deprived' [according to ofsted] areas. My ds at a primary in so called deprived/ disadvantaged area. He is loving it and so far doing well both socially and educationally. Not noticed any lack of confidence yet!!

There is nothing wrong with educating your children the way you think suits them but if you think paying for it will guarantee a certain outcome you will be disappointed. Love your children and encourage them it is enough really

I am in the process of looking round different High schools for DS1 (Yr8) as he isn't happy where he is. Now I'm thinking if I hadn't left school at 16 I would be looking at totally different schools?

The whole 'school' thing is very much in my thoughts at the moment anyway so having a bit of a downer in general I think. Plus DS1 isn't very confident.

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. However don't beat yourself up about decisions you made at 16- they helped shape your life and make you the person you are today. We can all regret but pointless and upsetting exercise [I know due to recent rose coloured fantasies about my past/ what could have been!].
Good luck with your ds and school decisions. .

But then you don't sound very confident. I left school at sixteen and can afford a private school but will choose not too my dh wanted to send my son private and some comments on this thread proves my point although he did think meeting a prince was a wind up.

You sound like a great mum and I am sure your ds will gain confidence.

If only I hadn't read this thread.

Stop beating yourself up sparkling!!
Really private school is not necessarily the best way forward- it really isn't!

Thanks East. I can live without the DC meeting royalty I think.

We know that sunflower but there are so many on this thread that think private is so much better it's sad really.

I agree eastnorth- sad and somehow insulting..

Sunflowers you are right, only reading some of this thread it seems to be the only way.

DS has friends that go to private schools and friends that go to the local comp and he gets on with them all just fine. They are all into the same things PS3, football, rugby etc. I don't see the ones that go to private school as being any more confident TBH.

Exactly sparkling, your son sounds popular that's the main thing in life that's all I want for my son and I want him to be happy.

It's not sad or insulting for people to make different choices to you. It smacks of massive insecurity to suggest it is.

I do other parents the courtesy of assuming they are doing their best. Please show the same courtesy to me.

Now I'm thinking if I hadn't left school at 16 I would be looking at totally different schools?

I'm sorry but yes that is true. And that's the point Xenia is trying to make, you'd have a choice, you wouldn't be making do with what your given. You could still actively be choosing state schools as Noddy is and the point she is spectacularly missing is that, she has a choice in the matter. You don't.

I would have moved for a good local state school if private was the only choice I suppose. Me having a choice is nothing to do with being privately educated though.

Lordy, Lordy here we go again...

BTW my 2 brothers went to state and my sister and I private. Having a private education didnt make my brothers less able to make serious decisions as adults. That came from who we are and how we were brought up. You can give a child all it needs at home by talking and engaging with them and school can fill in the gaps

I really don't know what to say.

Give up and eat some Easter eggs Sparkling [busmile].

If I had made the right decisions at 14 the DC could have had massive Easter Eggs.

Did you miss my post Heswall? I left school at sixteen and have the choice of sending my child to private school or not.

Well, now you mention it my DC do have massive easter eggs.

Sparkling you do the best you can. Do not be brain washed into thinking if you had extra money your child would be a different person. My mum retierd from social work last year and said that in her 10 years on the substance abuse team at least 8 out of 10 of the people admitted were from privately educated upper middle class backgrounds. My dp cried every time he got a chance to phone home for the whole time he was boarding He was at the top military boarding school in the uk and left at 16 to join a band all the military drumming worked I suppose. family friends daughter recently committed suicide as she felt she couldn't live up to the expectations of her education and background. Life is life for everyone

Oh dear me now we have the private school = drug addiction and suicide stereotype. Yawn.