Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Education

Join the discussion on our Education forum.

Original poster

Parents from private schools

893 replies

freakazoidroid · 15/12/2011 08:57

We are considering private school for our dd. She is already at the nursery of the school we like and is due to start in reception in sept.
What I am worried about is the community of a private school. If she went to our local primary it would be more like that.
Can anyone please say what their experiences are? Have you made good friends with other parents and socialise with them?
Also we are not loaded and do not have a massive house and lots of nice holidays. In fact holidays would not occur much if we go private.
Will this hinder my dd at school as she gets older with her friends, will they pick on her for not having the lifestyle?
Thanks!

OP posts:
amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:09

It is so difficult to discern where ideology (and smugness) ends and real life begins with your posts, Seeker.

It must be great to be great to be you, and to have everything sorted except for small matter of 11+ failure

seeker · 18/12/2011 18:11

Eh? What on earth did that post mean, amerryscot?

belledechocchipcookie · 18/12/2011 18:11

Lets stop winding each other up, hey Wink

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:12

Nice, amerryscot!

bellede It's more a case of 'she has a toy which is socially divisive and to which I am ideologically opposed, and so I have no respect at all for her decision to buy it', really.

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:13

For you, let it mean whatever you want it to mean. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable and superior. We can cope. We might even lend you a file fore your elbows, lol.

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:14

For

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:14

Christ, you're vile, aren't you?

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:16

From you, that is surely a compliment. :)

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:17

Oh no - far from it. That was a revolting thing to post, and you are an unpleasant woman.

And oh look, we're back to the kinds of parent you'll find at private school!

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:18

Tough. At least I am not a hypocrite, and do not support hypocrites. Let my yes mean yes,

belledechocchipcookie · 18/12/2011 18:19

Goodness Elaine, have you no respect for a parents right to choose what's right for their child? Hmm I think you're the one with the problem here. Maybe you need to see the other side of the coin and appreciate that it is OK for others to make decisions which you would not make yourself.

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:20

I have no respect for the choice to go private, no.

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:22

Then whatever view I hold will leave you reviled, Elaine. How sad.

The problem is that the majority of families in the independent sector have already been let don by the state. Why twist the knife? That is very dark.

Everlong · 18/12/2011 18:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

seeker · 18/12/2011 18:23

Amerryscot, please will you explain in words of one syllable, and with examples, what I have said to upset you so much?

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:24

I don't do monosyllables.

But if I did, they would begin with "H"

belledechocchipcookie · 18/12/2011 18:24

So you have no respect for me then. You're clearly not listening to anything anyone has to say on this thread are you. I have better things to do then spend any more time on here.

Oh, ds gets a full bursary. I don't pay for his education. I don't own my own home or drive a car. When you said private schools are not accessible to all, you were wrong.

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:25

You haven't upset me, btw. You can sleep easy tonight.

Tanith · 18/12/2011 18:27

Elaine, given that you have helped to totally derail the OP's thread, despite her pleas to keep on topic; you have posted a spiteful and irrelevant comment directed at her and her children personally; and you have forced her to abandon this thread and go elsewhere - and all you can say by way of explanation is that your comment wasn't the best thought-out, I think you're a fine one to talk about vileness and unpleasantness, don't you?

Plenty of parents use the state AND the private sector. I probably will myself. DS has a bursary; DD is about to start at a state school. It really isn't as clear cut as you seem to think.

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:30

Oh, can everyone have a bursary then? Super!

Tanith that was one comment - I have tried quite hard to explain how I feel about private schools in several other posts.

belledechocchipcookie · 18/12/2011 18:32

Hmm You should apply Elaine, maybe they will be able to teach you some mannars.

seeker · 18/12/2011 18:32

I presume you are calling me a hypocrite again.. I realise we are going over old ground again, but please tell me what I could do that in your eyes would not be hypocritical.

ElaineReese · 18/12/2011 18:34

Can everyone have a bursary?

(it can't be hyprocrite, she said that if she was doing words of one syllable it would begin with h. Horse? Hound? Hun?)

amerryscot · 18/12/2011 18:34

Easy - go independent.

Let a child who actually passed the 11+ have the place. It's only fair, as you have said in the past.

IndianOcean · 18/12/2011 18:37

Hang on a minute - even if Seeker's position could be proven in some objective way to be hypocritical (and I am hypothesising here, I do not know enough about the intracacies of grammar area schooling systems), I have read on this thread in fighting and sniping between 2 'private school' parents (happygardener and Alfredprufrock) which they apparantly continue accross numerous threads, very personal comments about Seeker's child, personal insults by private school parents.

I do understand that many parents resort to private education when something between their child and the local state offer does not work well. I know parents who have turned to private education when there has been some crisis with the child in a state school. One of my friends removed her child from an independent girls school because of intense bullying around a disability, and she is now thriving in a happy and successful state school. I know of excellent practice around anti-bullying in state and private schools, and hideous bullying in both.

It was horrible to say that Seeker's chils not getting a grammar place was 'chickens coming home to roost'. I think Seeker has been bullied on this thread.