Do you send your kids to school on their birthdays?

[charliecat]

My dds have the same birthday and this year I am planning on keeping them off so they can enjoy their birthday.
The alternative is sending them, them not having 5 mins to open their pressies let alone play with them and then with a heavy heart sending them off crying. Not for me.
If they got up at 5am and had chance to play I wouldnt mind but we barely have time for anything in the morning as it is so it would be chaotic...anyway...how much trouble am I going to get in for this? Do I lie and say they both had tummy bugs or what? What do you do?

I tell yuo what, I've got a class on Wednesday. I'm preparing them for their GCSE exam on Thursday. But I'll take the day off because it is may late Father's Birthday, shall I?

and funny how people who like school and like it for their children dont consider taking days off for birthdays.

I sniff a petty way of 'getting back' at school

I can empathise with the perceived problem but i don't have any sympathy with the solution, I think it is storing up problems in all directions..it's not about birthdays in the end

Off the point MB. Who said anything about taking time off to celebrate other peoples' birthdays?

Yes lockets I have had a look at Steiner and was fairly impressed. A little out of my reach financially though and also rather dogmatic in its own way I felt.

Incorrect nasal assumption enid.

Enid, the behaviour you are describing is horribly common. flicking the Vs to the school is a way of getting back at an insitution that made them unhappy as a child.

A very negative message to send to a child, very harmful

aw come on

you hate school

you resent the hold it has on your kids

its a 'good' way of clawing a bit of something back for yourself, no?

Um, I liked school as did my parents and siblings. We had the odd naughty day off. We did well.

I also knew school was important and never believed otherwise.

So I don't quite fit the picture painted here... but perhaps I am unique.

OK spidermama, so when it is my kids birthday I should be able to take the day to be with them should I? I'd take the day unpaid.

No. Those are totally your ideas and you know nothing of mine. Nice try though.

No Enid - we don't have all singing, all dancing birthdays either. Mark them and celebrate them sure, but it's just another day!

I'm a SAHM MB. You would have to weigh up your own choices.

It's never even occurred to me not to send them to school! As a child, it was the only school day worth going in on, my birthday. Besides, my Mother sent me with mumps, she wasn't having me home for ANYTHING!

I'm not quite as hard as her (few are0, but they'd have to be genuinely ill to stay home. Sam had a few days off his last school for a nasty bug, but that's it for the pair of them.
School matters, and though I have issues with their school, they mustn't know that.

"Birthdays are big family celebrations in this house with a few close friends.
I think they need to be marked as such. "

that was the one i meant..forgive me but i thought it implied each birthday involved family memebers and close friends

Spidermama, i think you'd prefer home school ..then these things wouldn't matter

what do your RL friends think spidey?

so if, further down the line your kids were due to have a lesson from a teacher the day before an exam, and that teacher took the day off to spend it at home with their kids, you wouldn't mind? Wouldn't be the tinyest bit cross? Wouldn't think me ever so slightly negligent in my duty to your kids?

I agree peachyplum. If I have any concerns about their school (which is an extremely good school btW) I would certainly take great care to hide them from the kids.

I agree, I think if you don't want your children in school and it doesn't suit them then find an option you are happy with - your viewpoint will rub off on your children and impact the teacher and rest of the class in the end.

MB - I don't know how you do it. Huge respect

Its easy GDG, I love it, it is the best job in the world, as far as I am concerned

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Nice one Cod.

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