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Donor conception

For anyone with experience of sperm or egg donation to share support and advice. Please remember this board isn’t for debate about donor conception.

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Waiting2BAMummy · 02/08/2019 19:13

So it appears I posted the 1,000 message on our previous thread and now it's closed so I've opened us a new home!

@TimeIhadaNameChange
@LanieM87
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Waiting2BAMummy · 20/10/2019 18:46

I haven’t @GreatestShowUnicorn I did read a post from someone who had and got pregnant on their first cycle but then I googled it and it said that it can do more harm than good if you use it and don’t need to. It has similar properties to clomid doesn’t it?

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 20/10/2019 20:04

Yes @Waiting2BAMummy similar to clomid can help extend luteal phase, make ovulation stronger and mature more eggs.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 21/10/2019 16:38

@Waiting2BAMummy - fingers firmly crossed for you here. When's AF due?

The scan was fine. Some measurements took a bit of hunting for but she managed them all in the end. I didn't find out the sex (didn't want to) and though DP had a look he said she moved too fast for him to be able to tell (not that he really wanted to know either!). One colleague is most pissed off with that as she's desperate for me to have a gender reveal, but she'll just have to wait til the wee one is here! I can't think of anything worse than a big gender reveal - it's not my thing anyway, and I'd be mortified if I were one of the people who gets told the wrong news! Plus I know that if it was a girl I'd receive a heap of pinkiness pre birth which would not be fun.

I did manage to see the consultant whilst I was there (rather than having to take time off work when she's over here) and I'm so glad she did pop round as she was thoroughly confused as to why I was seeing her and couldn't see any reason for it whatsoever. I mean, I'm pleased I don't have to be under her care but I would have been really narked if I'd lost a day's pay to be told that!

@Pinkfamily - I'm still not convinced about my EDD, but since there's only a 5% chance of the wee one coming on that date I probably shouldn't worry too much.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you too - hope it works. I know what you mean about the small vial - especially in comparison to the size of the container they come in (assuming it's similar to the Cryos 'box')! You do only need one to be successful...!

I seem to be past the nausea (famous last words) but I am shattered all the time. Most days I have an afternoon nap, which feels pathetic, but needs must. Currently not helped by the cold I seem to have picked up. I'm not complaining though, it'll be worth it in the end!

Waiting2BAMummy · 21/10/2019 17:17

Thanks @TimeIhadaNameChange AF is due Friday or Saturday. Have been having some poking type pains low down but then AF type cramps have started today so kind of feel like I’m out.

Glad everything went well with the scan, I would want to know but I wouldn’t tell anyone else. You must be getting so excited now, so happy for you.

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 21/10/2019 18:36

Just being nosey, how many of you are same sex couples, single, etc?

What methods are people using known donor, clinic, etc?

For my daughter I used a 10ml syringe during My last few attempts I've used syringe or moo cup can't work out which is better.

Waiting2BAMummy · 21/10/2019 19:33

I’m single @GreatestShowUnicorn using a ‘fresh’ donor. I have been using soft cups, I tried the syringe the first time and made a complete mess!

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 21/10/2019 20:18

@Waiting2BAMummy how long have you been trying? How'd you find your donor?

Waiting2BAMummy · 21/10/2019 20:23

My first attempt was November last year and have tried for 9 of the past 12 months. I met my donor on co parents and he’s awesome!

How about you @GreatestShowUnicorn?

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LanieM87 · 21/10/2019 20:50

Hi Ladies.

Hope all is well, not long of your 2WW left now @Waiting2BAMummy @Pinkfamily I'm keeping everything crossed!

Welcome to the thread @GreatestShowUnicorn it's really great that you've had previous success with donor sperm! I'm hoping to try again next month with frozen!

Waiting2BAMummy · 21/10/2019 21:32

Too long @LanieM87!! I was all strong and decided I wasn’t going to test until Sunday (AF is due Friday/Saturday) but now I’m dying to!

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LanieM87 · 21/10/2019 21:46

@Waiting2BAMummy haha I think I'd be totally tempted if I was you!
It's so hard to know what to do for the best isn't it?!

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 07:38

Absolutely @LanieM87 I really want to test but really don’t want to see a BFN! It’s some how easier for AF to arrive than to keep seeing those start white test strips. AF type cramps started yesterday too so kind of feel like I’m out.

Is it Sunday yet?!

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Pinkfamily · 22/10/2019 08:41

Hi ladies,
Writing this while laying on a sun lounger!!! @Waiting2BAMummy I thought being away would take my mind of it....but I keep seeing pregnant ladies or babies in prams so it's not been easy! What test are you going to use- so many to choose from. I did want to get an early detection test but now I'm thinking to try and hold out till Sunday (day I'm due) it's so difficult isn't it, I do feel as though I've had some period pains today 😔 how are you feeling?

@LanieM87 i honestly can't fault SellmerDiers as they were happy to answer my endless questions and the fact that they arranged pick up so no stress at all, just wish it was a bit kinder to the pocket haha!! I'll have my fingers crossed for you next month for sure.

@TimeIhadaNameChange how far along are you? I'm not sure if I'd want to find out what I'm having, but definitely wouldn't want an over the top gender reveal (though of course all this may change when/if I get that BFP) definitely nap as often as you need to, it's what the body needs.
Hiya @GreatestShowUnicorn welcome to the thread ☺️

Pinkfamily · 22/10/2019 08:43

Sorry @Waiting2BAMummy I just saw your last post as I posted this and saw you said you might wait for AF instead of test! Only five days to go 🙄

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 08:48

Longest five days of our lives @Pinkfamily!

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 22/10/2019 12:52

@Waiting2BAMummy I found mine on coparents as well & my daughters donor on a now dead site.

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 15:21

My resolve is waining.... might test tomorrow....

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 22/10/2019 18:53

How many of you are ttc on your own? Who have you told your ttc?

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 19:26

I am @GreatestShowUnicorn, the only people that know are my best friend and my donor!

How about you?

I’ve had really bad AF cramps today and they’re not usually this bad until the day before or day of AF could it be a sign or am I absolutely clutching at straws?

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LanieM87 · 22/10/2019 19:49

I am TTC on my own @GreatestShowUnicorn I've told my parents and my best friend. I really don't want any pressure so I don't want to tell many more until I'm pregnant (hopefully)

Fingers crossed your cramps are a good sign! @Waiting2BAMummy

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 20:10

Thanks @LanieM87

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Pinkfamily · 22/10/2019 20:46

I'm having a sort of pinching feeling on my lower right side....but also had a bit of crampy feelings today. I honestly felt more positive at the beginning of 2ww and now not so much.

Waiting2BAMummy · 22/10/2019 20:49

I’ve been having pinching feelings too @Pinkfamily. I really wanted to be strong and wait until Sunday to test but think I might take one of the IC stick tests I have tomorrow morning

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GreatestShowUnicorn · 22/10/2019 21:30

No one knows well I told two friends I'd tried a few months back and that it hadn't worked, but they don't know I'm trying again. Not sure I'll tell anyone until after 12 weeks if it works, as I'd like to tell my daughter first but won't tell her until then.

Pinkfamily · 23/10/2019 07:29

@Waiting2BAMummy I think it's a good idea to test today, I think waiting till Sunday would have been a big ask! Is an IC test the early detection ones? I'm thinking I might be able to hold out till Thursday/Friday....
@GreatestShowUnicorn I have told my two best friends, everyone else will find out at 12weeks!!!