TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF - weight loss spin-off thread

[witchmountain]

A few of us on the donor IUI/IVF thread have got some weight to lose, and rather than bore everyone else we thought we'd set up a spin-off thread. So, if you're doing or contemplating donor IUI/IVF and also have some weight to lose, join us here, newbies welcome.

I guess we do introductions/goals? I'll start, but obviously share whatever you prefer in your intro.

I'm witch, froze some embryos last year with donor sperm which are waiting for me to save up enough to fund a career change post baby. I'm fortunate in that I don't have loads and loads of weight to lose, but enough that I could so with some supportive friends to do it with.

I don't really like the idea of dieting per se, I think my aim is more around establishing a healthier relationship with food. I read Fat is a Feminist Issue years ago and I probably need to re-read it again now - it's about women's relationship with food. I'd recommend it, or a much condensed book by the same author, Susie Orbach, called On Eating.

My weight has fluctuated over the years, but the band it's fluctuating within is only trending in one direction. This is almost the heaviest I've ever been, I'm too fat for my fat clothes, and my thighs are getting in the way of each other. In BMI terms I'm a little way into the overweight category, but I carry it all on my stomach so I'm quite a way over the recommended maximum waist measurement. I have been offered a seat on the tube and on one occasion asked if it was my first baby

The numbers aren't the be all and end all - for me that point is that I am at this weight because I don't prioritise sleep and activity and compensate with carbs and caffeine! And for some other more psychological reasons which I'll get to, but this is already the longest intro in history.

I'm going to take Saturday as my starting point:
5'9"/1.75m
12st10.5lb/81kg
BMI 26.4
Waist 36"/91cm
Targets, let's see, but I'm guessing somewhere south of 11st/70kg - I'll head in that direction and see how I feel. I'll never be right at the bottom end of the BMI range, I'm broad!

Eating wise - I'm cutting back on high glycemic index carbs and trying to get some more protein in. I know I feel better and less hungry when I'm not struggling from one sugar rush then crash to the next.

Not a good night - an upset stomach but I cannot fathom what from... unless now I cannot handle cheese 🤔

I put 2lbs on this week! Seriously racked off-so just had a kebab ☺️not sure that was the best idea 🤔

😂 mandy that is how is goes for me too 😬

Have to be good this week but thought fuck it today! How did ur FET go?

FET on Monday 😬

Good luck x

Wine gums are non-fattening right? 😬

I think as sweets go they’re pretty good. Jelly is probably best

Also celebrations are 2syns each! 😋

Hello real posters, I’ve reported all the irrelevant spam, i.e. everything from this morning, so please either ignore or also report yourselves.

So I did weigh myself yesterday and I’d lost another 3lb. Was thinking I might not have lost any because I overate a lot more over the last four weeks - down to numbing emotions, or eating loads of carbs and needing real food to balance it out later, and also a few meals with a friend where I consciously ate beyond full. So, averaged 2.5 lb a week the first four weeks and just under a pound a week the second four weeks (was also the first day of my period yesterday so I guess I might have been lighter otherwise).

Feeling like I’ve reconnected with it a bit more this week, so let’s see how the next four weeks go! Reminding myself I only really have three questions to ask myself: am I hungry; what do I really want to eat; and am I full yet?

Meant to say, one of the reasons I wanted to try eating like this was because I didn’t want to pass on my relationship with food to my hypothetical children. I do t think you can avoid that unless you sort your own relationship with food out. Would really, really recommend the Josie Spinardi book for that purpose.

There’s also one called Intuitive Eating which is like a longer, dryer version of the Josie book (and ma well have been a source for it), but it does have a specific chapter on raising kids to have an uncomplicated relationship with food.

Thank you so much Witch - I was not sure they were spam when I saw them this morning but I was very sleepy!

I really want to not pass on my shite relationship to food to my children - I have the book on my wish list :)

Congrats on the loss witch. I have tried to be very good this week...so far anyway. Fingers crossed for weigh in on Saturday

I lost 3lbs this week! 🎉 and I've broken through the next stone below barrier! Haven't been there since I was in my 20s. So chuffed- hope everyone else is doing well x

Oh well done Mandy!

And thanks for the congratulations. I don’t know how far back you read but I’m using a book which takes you off any diet whatsoever and you eat exactly what you want, but only when you are hungry and you stop when you’re full. So in one sense it’s not hard, but in another it is quite a learning curve!

@Mandy002 great job!!!

I put 1.5 lbs on 😬

Witch I have heard of that diet before, do you find it's working? No diet has ever worked for me before- not even SW...amazing what the right motivation will do eh?!

Kwick I would take the gain as a good sign...I always put on at the right time of the month so if your lining is getting thicker and heavier that surely means good things for Wednesday right 🤞🏻😁

Well verdict is in...gained 6.5 pounds over the holidays #gutted! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh shite @Mandy002 I have not weighed myself as I am afraid of similar findings

@kwick I went to SW on Saturday so I could get back on track...knew it wouldn't be good news but didn't quite think it would be that bad 😩. How are things going with you?

I weighed myself this morning: 14st 8.4 lbs... last recorded weight at beginning of Nov = 14st 9lbs...of course today's is a morning reading and the November one a pm reading but I am going to use this as a morale boost to get back on the SW wagon!