#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome! Thread #6

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Hi everyone

Just checking in, I have been popping in on the thread and trying to keep up with where everyone is at

I am posting cos I need a kick up the bum! We need to get on the egg waiting list with the new clinic but I am really putting off doing it. I think it's because I know this is our final chance so once we start that will be it. But I am know I am sabotaging our chances further by delaying things I am not getting any younger

I am posting here so now I am accountable for actually doing it!!!!

Calz, I'm having a laparoscopy (keyhole surgery) to check for endometriosis. So nothing major, but general anaesthetic scares me... Even though this is like the 8th time i would've had it...! Thank you for your wishes 😘

Pickle my hotmail was down too!!

TTC3 bless you... I know it's scary, but take the plunge and do it! You won't regret it

The funny thread from yesterday has been deleted by MNHQ... why oh why??? 😭

pez I take 600mg if q10 again and I get Vitastore brand - I think from Amazon - only about £10 a bottle of 60 capsules.

stork yep GA for EC.. but think I prefer to be knocked out if the pain I felt during hycosy is anything to go by...

I talk to my eggs too pickle

shoes I hope you are not going down with something

pickle you should charge them interest

Made it to Brussels... knackered!

Definitely ordering from Amazon next time kwick, thanks for this

Do it TTC3, it's a big step but we're all here to support

Good luck tomorrow Caution, will be thinking of you

It's 21:40 and I'm in bed, exhausted. I have a scan to check on the growth of my dear follies tomorrow first thing (yes, I talk to them too ), let's hope the meds are doing their job!

Glad I'm not the only one that talks to my eggs :) kwick

Good luck for tomorrow caution, what time do U have to go in for?

Hi ttc3 nice to hear from you :) get on the list lovely, you don't know how long it'll take to have a suitable donor. I'm sure once u bite the bullet and are on the list you'll feel a bit better

I'm off to bed, fingers crossed for better night sleep and Day tomorrow

Good luck for today Pez & Caution

Kwik Thats a great price on the Q10 thanks for the tip

I can't seem to sleep tonight. Anxiety overload about money and choices and not knowing what the future holds. Also annoyingly ran out of OPKs and when my amazon delivery showed up I was back to low. Only didn't test on 2 days so wasn't a huge loss but annoying. How quickly after you get the solid happy face does it go back to low? Good news is that it proved I ovulate early (all done by cd12) bad news because there will be less lining to help implantation. Any suggestions on that?

Have good days ladies - so glad I found this group!

Phoenix - did you already get a smiley face this cycle? If not, keep testing. You may not have missed the surge.

Caution - all that waiting and today is finally here. I'll be thinking of you today and hope it all goes well.

Kwick - I think it was just the after effects of the osteopathy making me feel nasty. Apparently it can do that!

My wonderful parents spent yesterday working their way through my to do list so things feel a little more under control now

Good luck today caution

Pez hope your follies are a good size 🤞
Let us know :)

Caution good luck, let us know how u get on

Shoes glad your parents have done lots on ur list, that'll help ease ur mind :)

Phoenix 4am seems to be my worry time at the mo so totally feel for u lovely.
Agree keep testing- what cd are you on now? Is it next month u start or May?(sorry can't remember where we r all up too)

Hope everyone has a good day xx

Thank you everyone. I'm just in my room now (having it done at the private hospital on the NHS) waiting for the nurse to find out more info, such as surgery times, when I'll see my consultant and anaesthetist etc.
I'll let you all know! X

Good luck caution xx

Good luck pez xx

Hope it all goes well caution.

I'm booked in for my egg collection this Friday! Four injections today (Gonal F, cetratide plus the two triggers) and then none tomorrow! My pincushion like abdomen will be delighted. I have several follies over 20mm in each ovary, so no wonder I can feel them, my boobs feel huge (I look like I'm wearing a bra with padding AND chicken fillets) and I and a bit weepy, but generally excited that things are moving!

(posted too soon)

Hope your scan goes well Pez.

I was listening to some music in the car on the way home and Fleetwood Mac's Don't Stop Thinking About Tomorrow came on. It made me think of you all and the times when we are struggling to keep positive but boost each other and rejoice in everyone's decisions and successes. It felt so hopeful and positive (and made me cry - told you I was weepy).

www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/fleetwoodmac/dontstop.html

Yeah I feel a bit weepy these days too - I think it's because I haven't cried since the first failed IUI back in January. I have been holding up for too long, next time I cry I won't stop for days!!!

Really good progress on your follies late!

Mine are fine too, it was cool to see the meds are actually doing something. My right ovary as usual is a lazy bastard and only has one follicule at 12 and other smaller ones. My left ovary on the other hand, wow! I lost track of the count but I have at least 5-6 at 12 and then more at 9, and some smaller ones. It's too early days to say how many might reach maturity but I'm hoping for about 10. First injection of Cetrotide tonight and next scan on Friday.

Now I feel bad for calling my right ovary a lazy bastard - I don't really mean it right ovary, please don't take offence and keep on growing the follies ☺️☺️

Good luck Caution

Thats great news Pez

Feeling exhausted today. I did get the flashing smiley face - just not the solid one. I'm pretty sure I can tell its dying down due to the fact that I'm not quite as much a cat in heat my body feels different.

Phœnix, temping will tell you if you've ovulated. In case you want to consider for next month. Worked every time for me and helped me understand my luteal phase and check for any defects.

phoenix my sympathies- I hate night time worrying. Hope you got some rest

shoes that is wonderful- I do not want you being anxious. You need to nest!!!

Hope all well caution

late that is great!!! Just hang in there a few more days!
Love that song 🎶

Still no sign of AF....

Stuck in Brussels waiting for train to Paris.

It is a year today since my first BFP with IVF was confirmed with a Beta test.

I'M ALIVE
That was my biggest worry haha, that I wouldn't pull through the anaesthetic... Irrational, I know, but I'm alive, (kind of) well & home!!

Basically, they found endometriosis... Don't know what stage, all he said was "it wasn't overly bad, but there was enough". He's taken away what he could, and he also found a 3cm cyst on my left Fallopian tube too, which he also got rid of. I'm sore, got bad shoulder pain from the carbon dioxide they blew me up with, I feel like my pelvic organs have been bashed about with a hammer 😩 The morphine & paracetamol they gave me through the drip must've worn off cos I wasn't this sore before!!
Very pleased it's over and done with and that I've got answers... He also told me "it's an optimum time to try for a baby, given your age and your situation now" - so who knows, I may even bring my plans forward slightly!

Hope you're all well, & thank you for your well wishes today 😘

caution so glad things went well. I'm glad you have some answers and can put this behind you. Time to move forward!! How exciting.

Late. I had a similar moment with queens " we are the champions...and we'll keep on fighting till the end" so pleased I have all you guys xx

Good growing late and pez ⭐️

Kwick. Sorry no blasted AF and today must be tricky enough with all those memories of what could have been

Phoenix I only had the clearblue test that you get a smiley face not that and the flashing ones so not sure whether flashing comes before solid or after. Love ur cat on heat analogy hehe

Pez. Well done for apologising to your right ovary, hopefully she'll behave in the end

Well day wasn't as horrific as yesterday but seriously emotional wreck and I've not felt like this in aggggeeeessss! I said to myself this morning that these bleak days will be worth it if get a baby at the end. Very nearly rang this morning to book a counsellors appointment at the clinic but couldn't bring myself too but will if this continues. My friend said to me today-"you don't need to see them what are they going to do saying your crying cos of your hormones and that's it....." didn't like to go into they are specific counsellors for what I'm doing and even tho it may well be 'just' the hormones but if go to the dark cloudy place again without asking for help then I'm pretty stupid when I could have just asked for a bit of support and I'm not just crying it's just making OCD thoughts and anxiety worse but related to specific things so still stuff to talk about 😕 I've never 'liked' counsellors it's not like I'm asking for attention but I've fought so hard to stay well so I can do this I don't want the last hurdle leading up to it be the thing that stops me 😔

Caution how did u get on today?hope ur not in too much pain

Doh crossed posts .... glad ur alive caution.... ooh yeh bring things forward, always good timing after 'scraping' to try and get pregnant.... do it, do it

caution so glad you made it!
For shoulder pain try peppermint tea.

pickleno shame or harm in counselling- it is good to talk.
I do not want you to go to dark place again - I am here for you. You are such a lovely person. You can & will do this - but it is ok to ask for help along the way.