Has anyone chosen to be the non-resident parent after separation?

[bubbyen]

Has anyone given the kids to the dad and decided to be the NRP? I would do this if it was an option but he wouldn’t have them so sadly it isn’t. I know it’s controversial but I would happily be the NRP. Has anyone done this?

Yes, interesting how the more freedom and autonomy women gained through the law, education and employment, the more intense mothering became.

I'm sure correlations are complicated but using childcare obligations as a way to trap and disempower women is likely one factor.

I don't agree with this.

Maternal hormones from pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding reinforces bonding and as more mothers are the primary caregivers, children are usually more attached to their mums. Of course children are emotionally attached to their fathers too, especially if they are actively involved with their caregiving.

I dated someone once who had his kids 100%. Didn’t work out romantically, as he had no time
as their mother never saw them, an odd phone call. He is doing a great job, raising 2 girls, but i’ve never known any other father have their kids 100%. Yes people do judge women more harshly.

And yet you had 4 of them!!

A lot of the time parenting does come naturally but not always and possibly not most of the time. This assumption makes life really hard for women who find some stages of parenting don’t come naturally, they are made to believe that they are failing in some way as a woman. They may be exhausted, mentally incredibly stressed, love their children but cannot cope with all the mental load it brings. They don’t hate their children, they probably feel they are failing, they may genuinely believe that they are not the best parent for them. Judgement like this only adds to the guilt.

And seemingly makes moaning about her lot 'her whole personality'!