Not taking kids on holiday

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Has anyone decided not to take their children on holiday as a single parent? Even more so with the recent tragedy in the news about the two young children on holiday it’s just kind of confirmed it even more to me that it’s a bad idea and I don’t feel id be able to safely watch them on my own. (I know they weren’t single parents but still) how do you get over not going on holiday again? It’s already been 15 Years since I last went abroad and the uk is definitely not the same (sorry)

You keep coming back so you bore off?! Not all Sen children CAN learn to swim? You bore off 😂🙄🤦‍♂️

Oh god here we go with the SEN again

you have stated explicitly that even if your children did NOT have SEN, you STILL would never take them abroad because of the “dangers”

Yes because I don’t feel confident taking the abroad alone, my comment was specifically about them not being able to swim (done lessons) now kindly move along 👌👍👌😔🙄😣😪

So no need to keep ramming on about SEN

You don’t want to take children, with or without SEN abroad. Ever. Because of “dangers”

Do they even want a holiday?

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So do it! Don’t let your fear of “dangers” abroad stop your children from experiencing it. Otherwise they’ll be fearful of “abroad”, and the cycle will continue

I feel so bad not being able to take my child on holiday. I can’t even afford 2 days away. For the past 3 years we’ve not had a holiday, she wants to go abroad and in a pool but I just can’t afford it. I work full time and don’t have any spare cash at the end of the month.

If you can get to any of the haven sites, they often have 4 days trips (fri-mon) for around £100 and only take a £30 booking deposit and can pay monthly. I know it's hard when you've no money left at the end of the month but may be something to save towards over the next year or two. They have pools at their sites too so might be a nice compromise?

all those encouraging the OP to take the kids abroad…. Does this really seem like a person who is going to be able to manage it?

I don’t say that cruelly but this is an adult who hasn’t travelled abroad in 15 years and would not travel abroad with any child, NT or ND because of all the dangers. looming out there.

I just can’t see the Op coping with airport security, getting to the hotel, enjoying the holiday. It would be… awful I suspect

I'm a single parent with 2 DC. We have recently just returned from a holiday where I pulled someone elses drowning child out of the pool and there were two parents with her. (She is thankfully ok but it was very touch and go for a while).

If you're nervous thats absolutely fine and you can definitely choose not to go. But just because you are on your own doesn't make you less likely to notice your kid is in trouble.

You definitely dont get a break though (maybe when they are in bed!). See if you have some friends that would like to go with you?

Being alone would prevent how much you could help though.

Can you swim op?

Yes I can but that’s not the point I was making.

How serious is your children’s SEN? (Although you wouldn’t take them away even if NT)

I don’t want to mention that as seems to get a lot of people angry

No op, it doesn’t

you have explicitly said that your children’s Sen is utterly irrelevant to your decision to never take your children abroad.

The reason why I’m asking is that many children with SEN can learn to swim.

It’s all a bit pointless though this thread isn’t it. You will never take your children abroad. NT or ND…. It makes no difference. You have an abject fear of “danger” abroad and you will never take the risk.

it seems a terrible shame given both you and your children would like to. However… I actually think that you’d struggle. Going on holiday is a bit of an endurance test and you need to have your wits about you - ever without children. And I think you sound as though you’d be thoroughly overwhelmed and scared. So no - it would not be safe for you to take your children abroad. I agree

So this thread can die out then no need to keep commenting really is there? And yes certain posters were getting extremely angry over it

This is quite angry sounding to me oh god here we go the SEN again!!

And accusations of “ramming on about it” it was literally the second comment can hardly be classed as a massive drip thread pages into the thread, anyway time to move on no need to keep bringing up my thread

I get a nanny on holiday 100€ a day to help me.
I'd also do kids club or get together with another single mum if needed

Maybe try camping or centre parks haven butlins type trip

Fair enough OP. Not quite the same scenario but there are a huge number of activities I just can’t do on my own with my 6 year old this summer because we now have a baby too! Our kid swims pretty well now but still needs an adult close by, in the water with her. I can’t handle a three month old baby and the 6 year old in a pool at the same time - it’s just not physically possible or safe. So this summer swimming is only happening when a second adult is available. If your kids need one on one attention in situations with open water or can’t reliably follow instructions that would make the activity safe for you to supervise with the two of them then of course not putting yourself in those situations is reasonable!
Holidaying abroad means different things to different people. If the main attraction for you would be staying in a place weather and access to pools and beaches, then it sounds like there’s no point because the support you need to do those activities with your kids wouldn’t be there.

No need to have even mentioned at all your children having SEN surely as has no bearing on your decision to never take your children abroad?

I think you make a wise decision. You haven’t been abroad for 15 years and you sound a very fearful anxious prone person… worrying about all the dangers outside of the UK. I don’t think you or your children would
enjoy.

However, I would very much urge you to do… is to not go on about “dangers” abroad as being the reason why you aren’t taking your children abroad despite you saying they want to go. Otherwise they too will grow up fearful and anxious about foreign countries

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