Not taking kids on holiday

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Has anyone decided not to take their children on holiday as a single parent? Even more so with the recent tragedy in the news about the two young children on holiday it’s just kind of confirmed it even more to me that it’s a bad idea and I don’t feel id be able to safely watch them on my own. (I know they weren’t single parents but still) how do you get over not going on holiday again? It’s already been 15 Years since I last went abroad and the uk is definitely not the same (sorry)

Nice you are able to but my kids have sen so I wouldn’t feel safe managing them alone on holiday with so many dangers.

Well I’m asking if anyone has decided NOT to and you still answered 🤷🏻‍♀️

The two children that died in Spain is tragic, it wouldn’t stop me taking my children on holiday though.

If you manage here, you can manage somewhere else, you just need to be vigilant around things like water. If they won't understand the dangers of pools/the sea, don't do that type of holiday. DD has a disability and you need to explicitly teach certain behaviours and responses that may not otherwise be understood or acquired.

They wouldn’t be interested in a city break

I take mine on my own or I go with friends and their kid(s). It's much more fun than used to be with their dad.

Doesn’t sound like it would be a barrel of laughs even if their dad came along 😅

Why would he? This is the divorce / separation board

Single parent of a child with SEN here and we did loads of holidays plus travel with my work (and yes I watched her like a hawk with water stuff). Please don’t let this tragedy put you off lovely times with your kids.

I don’t have just one id probably consider it if I did as would only be one to watch

Not so much that I’ve made the decision to never go but I haven’t in years (since infant stage). Mainly because DC has SEN and would be an absolute nightmare travelling/near sea/swimming pool and would not enjoy a city break. And any accommodation would have to be very specific to suit needs. I know I wouldn’t enjoy it and DC would likely not either.

I think that if youre really nervous about it, then you don't have to. Lots of people don't like holidays and lots of people can't afford holidays and lots of people just can't make it work.

Maybe when the kids are older and you don't have to watch them as closely, you might change your mind.

This is one of those threads where everyone will disagree with op and she’ll still say she doesn’t want to take them

in which case don’t

Not asking if people agree with me? Asking if anyone else has decided not to?!

My kids are older they have Sen and haven’t got easier with age I would say worse if anything

I have 3 boys, 2 with SEN and I take them all over the world.

Yeah I’ve got 2 children with sen and wouldn’t consider not travelling with them. I sometimes regret it but things may as well be crap in sunnier climates rather than crap here.

In answer to your question some people choose not to take holidays and I don’t think they are wrong for doing so. Just do you :-) Could be for many reasons they are choosing not to go on holiday and all reasons are valid.

FFS! Stop using a tragedy as an excuse for not wanting to take your kids on holiday.
Personally I think of you're not safe enough to look after them on holiday you're not safe enough to look after them full stop!

Single parent 3 with SEN and have been all over Europe and USA! Going to the Carribbean with them next year too

Things can happen any day at any time any where. Its really OTT to not go on holiday "incase" something happens. You could get hit by a bus tomorrow. However if you dont feel like you can look after 2 kids safely then its upto if you go or not. Nobody on here can make that decission for you. I like to take my kids place and let them enjoy their childhood. I wouldnt be letting them swim in the sea though, its about making safe choices all the time whether at home or on holiday. How do you go about your daily life with 2 kids if you feel like you cant keep them safe? Why is it different in a different location?

Aside from the massive drip feed about your child having SEN, the attitude here is a bit wild.
"How do you get over not going on holiday again?"

well how do you know what parenting your children will be like another year or two from now?
If you have tiny children you may choose to get away somewhere in the UK instead, not uncommon.
Children are not tiny forever. A year or two from now and your situation (yes even with significant SEN) will look hugely different to what it does now. That's what happens when children grow.

My two children have SEN and before my second child was born (when I only had 1 child so not the same admittedly) I did take my son abroad a lot solo, but we also travelled all across the UK solo too - just me and him. I found a new partner a few years later and had a second child.

If I were to become a single parent again now, I wouldn't be able to manage abroad holidays by myself with the two of them as they both have SEN and need high levels of individual support daily. If I went on a big family holiday with my parents and siblings and their children I think I could manage it but even with two parents we do currently struggle in airports and on the plane nevermind when we get to the resort.

If you have any family support I'd try to do a group holiday if you're really missing the abroad holidays, but I don't think you're unreasonable to not want to do abroad holidays especially as a single parent to two SEN children.

I'm a firm believer in giving things a try if you think it'll be manageable, but also a firm believer in knowing your limits.