If the Court orders 50-50 shared care…

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Can anyone give me real life examples of the likely timescale over which this is built up to? Current arrangement is EOW Friday-Sunday teatime, a midweek visit, half the holidays. Has been like this for 2 years and the children are 3 and 8. If ex wants 50-50 and the court agrees, what sort of staged progression to that are they likely to order? How fast / slow?

I wouldn't risk it either. My XH would have stuck at it no matter what and it would have been our DC that paid the price. It would also be really disruptive for the kids to change and change back, which is the hoped for outcome. I also wouldn't have done it because my DD was terrified he'd get 50/50. He's abusive and angry. It was all about his right to 50/50. He never once talked about the kids needs or even their relationship with him. They're his kids and he deserved 50/50, that was it. Thankfully he wasn't interested in spending any money or time on getting it and we never made it to court. I've not claimed child maintenance mostly because I'm too scared of him, but I also dont want him to have a financial incentive to push for 50/50.

I doubt he will last if he’s never done a school run, and assume he’s never sorted childcare. My ex wanted 50-50, no doubt to avoid maintenance. Didn’t even last 2 months. Within a year he had moved overseas for work. 10yrs on he tried again for DD who was 15 (DS was at Uni by then). It lasted 2 months again. Most kids don’t want to live out of 2 homes. Now he calls round to see DD and Dog, she won’t go to his house, and he does take her to school. But all life’s admin and clothes buying, uniform sorting, optician, doctors, dentist always fallen to me. And it usually does fall to one parent. I’d be ready to quiz him how he’s going to achieve 50-50, act like you’re looking forward to getting your life back a bit and can’t wait for it to start