Father asks kids to list Mother's faults, and emails these to Mother

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Mother and Father are living apart. Father gets kids on Tuesday evenings and alternate weekends.

During the last weekend visit, Father asked kids to write down all the bad points about Mother. Then he emailed that list to mother.

-Can mother now take legal action ?

-If so, what is the charge ?

Thanks

Message back saying you know what your faults are & you acknowledge them. Then ask the kids to list his faults & email them to him

Hi I'm sorry you're experiencing this, it's awful I've been through it too. I agree with people who said focus on how your children are. It's the effect on them which is needed. But I'm sure you wouldn't but not lots of questions.
I can also share that grey rock ignoring completely anything from him which is aimed at getting to you is absolutely the best response.. I've stuck to that religiously and I can tell you the things he's said have been pretty horrendous but he's never had the satisfaction of enjoying my angry responses and getting in arguments. He gaslights anyway so it'd be futile and messes you head. Good luck with your children. Big hugs xx

Why on earth are people saying rise above it? It's emotionally abusing the children. You don't "rise above" that you deal with it by doing something to protect your children from it

I'm curious to know what OP did in the end.

Because they have encountered this kind of abuse before. Lots of people are advising tactics that you might give when dealing with narcissistic abuse.

Awaiting the date for the court case relating to the original email containing the list of bad points about Mother.

Thanks