Family Court - HELP!

[FamilyCourt88]

I'm new on here and I've never posted before so I have no idea if I have posted in the right place, so a little help would be appreciated. I'm going through a tough time at the moment, on account of my dreadful ex-partner. We were together for 12 years and separated in 2020, up until August last year our daughter (7) went to his mum and dads house, where he moved into when we split, to spend time with him EOW.

In August 2023 she came home with a really bad hairdryer burn on her back and scratches on her face, from the same weekend at their house! They didn't let me know and I was mortified when I saw her back, she told me she asked for mummy all weekend but they didn't call me - Things didn't seem right as she had asked me several weekends before to ring her whilst she was with them as she missed me, when I did this they didn't answer...

He hasn't seen her since August 2023 and only just applied to court in January 2024 for 50/50... which has broken me, as he was never bothered about this before, not until he had to pay CSA.

Due to DV, police reported, sat on my chest so his dog could bite me... 😞the burn marks etc. - a solicitor has said he won't get that, which has helped calm the nerves a lot, I am still so very nervous for court on the 19th March

A lot more has gone on in between which I am happy to share, however my worry is, that whatever is granted, how do I force her to do something she doesn't want to do?? I have tried and encouraged until I'm blue in the face but nothing works... Since what happened with the burn and scratches she is refusing to go...

Again, I'm sorry if this has been posted in the wrong place - I'm at my witts end.

So who made the application? Him or his parents? Grandparents can’t just piggy back off his application. They would need to make their own.

I'm just shocked he's asked for what he has, in light of what he's done. 50/50 is insane! And not gradual is ridiculous

I expected supervised too! Not what he's asked for

He made the court application but I bet my life on it that his dad has written the Position Statement on his behalf, 100% as they have referred to them in it as well, that they will sort all child arrangements?? It's unreal

Sat on you so his dog would bite you... that's one of the most chilling sadistic things I've ever read op I'm so so so sorry that happened to you he is a psychopath

I hope you never have to hand her over overnight again but if you are forced to, I would send a phone, a spare phone and a panic button perhaps from the police if possible so that she can call for help if she neeeds it

@FamilyCourt88 how did today go? Are you okay?

It couldn't have gone any better... All in my favour and they even ripped into him because of his statement!! Over the moon!!

That's incredible news @FamilyCourt88! Well done you - tiger mama - and a huge congratulations :)

Thank you so much... gleaming over here 😀😀😀 I have the lives with order, no interim arrangement and waiting on Cafcass before anything happens! Not in court until July now! Xxxx thank you everyone!

That's fantastic news. I am so pleased for you! Thanks for updating us all.

That's amazing news! I'm glad the court saw right through his bullshit and did the right thing to protect your DD.

It was like a dream! And I know it's not done yet but from what they said yesterday I am very hopeful!! I finally slept for the first time in months last night... thank you to everyone for your help on this, I really appreciate it Xxxx

Just seen your update, fab news.

It's just a massive relief... and a massive f* you! And I wasn't even the one that had to say it lol!!!

Likely due to capacity and court deadlines, or potentially annual leave or the other caseworker is leaving.

I think you just named your child in your post x

Oh my god, how can I get that removed 😢

I'll click report x

Thank you, I can't believe I did that

I dont know if you can report yourself, I've reported too so hopefully gets picked up quickly.

Great outcome in court. I hope everything with cafcass goes well and supports your case.

Hello everyone... Nervous ladies, I have my S7 next week and I'm so worried... I know I shouldn't read into everything too much, but its scary to think they are 'dad-sided'

Hi ladies...

The DRA is looming and I was feeling anxious until I read his statement and other submitted documents and realised again he has not written his own statement! The same thing that got him in trouble the first time round... :-)
He refers in his own statement as 'Mr X' and 'Daddy' not... 'Me' and 'I' and there is nothing in there about DD, only throwing digs at me from our marriage. Which from my understanding is not what I am going to court for????

I am hoping they see him for what he is, a nasty evil man... his dad has also provided a statement which is and once the case is over I will take them both to court for Slander and Deformation of Character.

My statement is solely based around DD, I have not slandered him once...

Fingers crossed it goes my way xx

Yes, it should be all about DD. Well done. I will be thinking of you.
They will see through it.

Either way remeber this: you have made sure you are 100% prepared
You are telling the truth
You love your DD
You are protecting your DD

These are facts. Stay calm 😘

@BlackStrayCat thank you so much ❤

I'm just scared because she is so reluctant to go and see him, she had cried and begged me to not make her and I'm worried that I'll be seen to break the court order, if contact is put in place, if she doesn't go... and I know I will probably get shot down for saying this on here, but I do encourage contact, it's just hard when you flesh and blood are begging you on their hands and knees.

I'm just so scared! She trusts me, how can I force her crying?

xx

Yes, it is terrible.

For now though: you have to just worry about this step. Step by step. (It was the only way I could cope)
Put everything else out your mind. If not, you will catastrophise.

They have already agreed with you! Once it takes that route, there generally isnt any way back 😘Think how positive you were.

You are living in a hyper vigilant state, anticipating the next horror. You are therefore naturally thnking the worst, I know how it is. I really do. But it is not real x

I will not jinx it, but I am confident!

Make sure you update!!!!