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Divorce/separation

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Why do men not claim more?

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AndTheWinners · 03/06/2022 16:52

Curious,

Reading threads on here it seems to be a theme going on

Relationship goes bad, the man moves out,
The woman who earns less gets stuck with the house with the bills and the kids

They then spend most of there life trying to get money off the ex husband who presumably has lots of his own bills to pay

I got divorced a year ago and I live with the kids in the family home paying the bills

I get no maintenance from my ex wife

She just comes and goes as she sees fit with the children

This arrangement seems to work well, wondering why more couples do not do it

OP posts:

SausagePourHomme · 06/06/2022 19:57

AndTheWinners · 06/06/2022 19:26

Well sod the lot of you

I think my ex wife has done well with the agreement

She gets to see the kids everyday and hear about there day

She gets to eat dinner with us, so gets family time

This Is a better arrangement than most people get

And it was do e legally and she did get advice

And thanks everyone for completely changing the topic of the discussion 👏

Oh we answered your question. You just don't like the answer

gamerchick · 06/06/2022 20:11

You need to stop telling people you are the main caregiver OP. You are anything but. Nice cushy little number you've got going on there. No idea what you were wanting from this thread.

NippyWoowoo · 06/06/2022 20:15

AndTheWinners · 03/06/2022 22:49

I can't help but wonder if a lot of the fathers go because that's what society expect

People thought that I would leave when the marriage broke down and leave her with the kids - I told them no and I was not leaving my kids

Just idle thinking about why it's normally the man that leaves

Have you tried posing this question to a mostly male forum?

WalkerWalking · 06/06/2022 20:16

So far as I can see, the only difference between this set up and when you were married is that she doesn't have to shag you any more. So maybe she has done pretty well with this agreement after all.

OverEggedPudding · 06/06/2022 20:25

*Well sod the lot of you

I think my ex wife has done well with the agreement

She gets to see the kids everyday and hear about there day

She gets to eat dinner with us, so gets family time

This Is a better arrangement than most people get

And it was do e legally and she did get advice

And thanks everyone for completely changing the topic of the discussion 👏*

This is a forum for women. You are welcome here, but we don’t suffer fools gladly and we don’t massage over inflated egos. If you think the women here are going to capitulate to men you are in the wrong place.

MoreProseccoNow · 06/06/2022 21:56

Just like Lundy Bancroft's Demand Man......

OhamIreally · 07/06/2022 13:59

This Is a better arrangement than most people get

Yep you've really done a number on her.

londonmummy1966 · 07/06/2022 14:20

Abusive man comes onto MN and explains how he is abusing his ex and then throws his toys out of the pram because the wimmin don't nominate him for dad of the year.....

movingon2022 · 12/06/2022 20:13

UserError012345 · 03/06/2022 19:55

Because the majority don't want to be tied down to the day to day endless fucking monotony of all the admin that comes with the kids. Not to mention the mental load.

It's easier to hand the money over and play Disney Dad.

Yes, this, excellent comment @UserError012345

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