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Would you have Sex with Husband while Divorcing?

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Clarita12345 · 21/02/2015 23:30

Would have Sex with husband while divorcing?
I filed for divorce in September but we still live in the same house for financial reasons...!
We have been separated On & Off for few years before I decided to divorce him.
He has been cheating on me for few years with girls who work in our business and I have been trying to keep my family together (3 kids: 15, 11 & 2,5) but it got to a point where I cannot tolerate his behaviour any longer.
he brought a girl who worked for us twice home to spend few days with him while I was away with the kids.
The 1st time in July and this is what prompted me to file for divorce. He said it was wrong to do it but he did it again in Xmas while I was way with the kids.
Our ex-employee keeps asking him to move out but he cannot afford it and is reluctant because him and the little one are so attached to each other. So they keep breaking up giving her time to think if she can accept this situation of us living together and wait until we divorce. She lately asked him to stop seeing me or talking to me when they move in together...so he refused asking her not to start controlling him from the start.....
Anyway, Mr has been taking his stress on me, he shouts at me, he says bad things to me, he also says that I shouldn't talking to him unless it's regarding the business or the kids which I am doing anyway....I don't answer back or get into any arguments with him anymore, I am tired myself, I feel so lonely and sad but I have to keep strong for the kids and for my son who is staking his GCSE exams this year.
He suggested couple of months ago to have sex and only sex, no feelings, no commitment, only sex until I find a new partner and he has found his soul mate as he was still dating the ex employee but I declined it and last night he wrote to me accusing me for turning a blind eye on him and not supporting him as I can see how stressed, sad & lonely he is and sex gets him in a better mood...!
I replied back asking why would he want to have sex with me since he hated me so much....still no reply back.
Thank you

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arlagirl · 28/02/2015 08:21

Hell no

Ledkr · 28/02/2015 08:28

Oh my goodness!!
No.
At least you know he won't change his behaviour for his "soulmate" and is still a mysoginistic controlling wanker!
Get some good kegal advice and get him out ASAP.
If that doesn't work Id leave. I'd rather live in a tent in the local park than put my kids through that!

UmizoomiThis · 28/02/2015 08:30

next time he talks about support laugh and remind him part of the positives of divorce is you never supporting him in anything again for rest of his life.

pilates · 28/02/2015 09:31

Clarita, he sounds awful and you will be well rid. He has ground you down so much over the years, that you are questioning quite logical things. Stay strong and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Coconutty · 28/02/2015 09:46

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