My dad is dying, sit with me?

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Just that really, had another stroke, end of life care plan in place. Got him transferred back from hospital to the nursing home where his pain is being managed and he's comfortable.
He's fighting this every step of the way but is slowly deteriorating.

I'm here on vigil all night so I'd appreciate some company....

Much love to you and your family. ❤️

Ah poor you. This will be ok. If it is is time then it is his time. He will know that you are there for him. Watch and be with him in his last days. That's all you can do and it is enough. Bear witness. Be yourself. Take care.

You sound like an amazing daughter

Thank you all, it means a lot.

I'm sat here thinking about how he was when I was little. We were thick as thieves me and him. We both loved cars, would spend hours doing stuff to his. I used to be given the job of cleaning spark plugs

You are amazing. How wonderful for your Dad to have you there.

There's no easy words. Saying goodbye is hard and all you can do is be and be with him. It's ok to take breaks too. He's lucky to have you at his side. Sending virtual hugs x

It's beautiful you have fond thoughts of him. It can be very hard to let go. 💐

The nursing home have given me the run of the place, have fed me (tons - three course meals twice today) and everyone keeps giving me hugs.

It's obvious they care so much for dad. They're all just lovely people.

Lovely memories.

Talk to him about your sparkplug days.

It sounds like a lovely home he's in, wonderful that you are there with him too.
I remember sitting with my grandfather all night after a massive stroke. I think the most peaceful night I've ever experienced. He was mostly asleep but we played his favourite classical music, read extracts from favourite novels, read parts of childhood diaries and I felt sure he was happy, right till the end.
Do you have any favourite / funny memories?
Thinking of you this evening. Take care.

Im here for you, just keep talking to your dad, he can hear you. So sorry you are going through this.

I'm so glad you feel he is well cared for. That will have such a positive impact on your grieving afterwards.

Agree with MrsMozart. Tell him everything you can about you childhood. All your favorite memories. Will bring him a lot of happiness to know how happy he made you xx

Thanks all. Talking about the past is making me cry. This wasn't the death I wanted for me, not all dragged out like this.

I miss him so much already

Bless you. My Nan had a stroke three years ago and has been in a home ever since. It's a lovely place and it makes it so much easier knowing that she's being well looked after.
We've had a few times where we've been told that she wouldn't make it through the night, but each time she's fought on. TBH, it would be fairer on her to just give in, it's heartbreaking seeing her like that.

Hope you're doing okay, rest when you can.

Cry if you need to.
Sending hugs x

I am so pleased to hear that the home where he is is so very caring - both my mother and my father died in the same residential home where they and we were cared for with dedication and love. What a huge relief this must be for you.

My gran was unconscious for several days as we waited for the end - then suddenly she sat up in bed full of strength and said "I must get home now." It was astounding.

How wonderful that you are by his side tonight. I wish for a peaceful night for you both.

Sending hugs

Sending you love, been through the same myself xxx

I can handhold OP I'm on a night shift so will be up all night

Hand hold for you here. You’re doing a very special thing, you know, being there for your dad. I’m sure he can sense your presence and your love. I hope he is comfortable and peaceful right now? Make sure you have some breaks, get up and walk around. Get a drink,, maybe sit with a blanket to snuggle into and read, or reminisce, or just be there for hi m.

It's hard. It's difficult. BUT, I'm grateful I was able to be with him but it lasted for much longer than anyone anticipated.

Sending a handhold and hug. I was in your shoes in February and stayed at the nursing home 4 nights and was with my Dad when he passed. I got a lot of support on Mumsnet on a particularly difficult night. It'll be a comfort to you later that you were able to spend his final times with him. Thinking of you xx