ok weirdo mumsnet men do you htink you kwn oany men who dont lok at pron

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cos i am rue they dont exist

NBG, 'why do men need to look at semi-naked pics of ...'

It's a fantasy thing. Some men (and women) have fantasies that do not include their DP/DH/DW, that doesn't mean that they don't respect their partner, or don't find them sexy. Some people need/want a little more to push their buttons.

E.G. say someone has a fantasy thing for, I dunno, golden showers but they know their DP isn't into it or that in RL it prob wouldn't be their bag either, but the thought turns them on. Porn is an outlet for people to explore fantasies that they may well have no intention of experiencing in RL.

nbg, i think men are more visually stimulated than women

Sugarmatches WHERE did she mention you specifically??!

DP says he has only ever discussed prn with a woman - one of his nurses- she likes it he doesn't

he wonders why you think it is odd that he doesn't???

anyone?

how many pussies do you have Mellow? I have 3 - one old and 2 very young and adventurous

Right I see your point but my point is that if your in a relationship then surely that is something you would discuss or do with your partner?

I'd be gutted if I thought my dh was using pictures of other women to get off or for his "fantasies".

(LOL at thought of Rhuby (Rhuby Rhuby Rhubeeeee! ) "trying to convince people she is nice"!

Not sure that's really her style! People do tend to like her on the whole.. but I have never seen her try to actively convince then!

(Sorry for talking about you as if you're not there Rhubarb )

I suppose porn/wanking is like junk food. It's not as filling/satisfying as a proper meal but it bridges a gap, gives a quick shot of (taboo ? norty ?) pleasure.

I've said it before on here that I know 100 % that dh neither uses porn nor masturbates, but for that you just get laughed out of Mumsnet... I do find that annoying, why not just accept that not all men are the same?

NDB, yes quite.. and in the same way, it can be addictive and some men don't know when/where to stop.

I'll admit NOA, I only think it's odd because every man I have ever been with (and it's a fair few has looked at porn)

Personally, I have never been with a man who doesn't.

Plus, dh works with a few who look but their wives don't know.

I know it's a huge genralisation, and I don't mean it really

Very true shiny.

But each to their own. If couples are happy knowing that their partners use porn then fair enough.

I still dont get it though.

"I'd be gutted if I thought my dh was using pictures of other women to get off or for his "fantasies".

I'm not gutted at all. I read erotic fiction, I don't pretend dh is the leading man, so I guess he does not feature in any of those fantasies.

Because of this, we have a very active and adventorous sex life.

I'm not gutted he looks at porn at all. It's no threat at all to me.

S'alright, I don't mind being talked about!

Although MellowMa's pussy is far more interesting a topic!

trying to work out where rhuby mentioned sugarmatches

have i missed something?

Re- discussion

Why ?

Essentially, I think masturbation is separate from sex (although obv the 2 cross over) and so I suppose I feel that a person, an adult individual, should have the right to a degree of sexual privacy (should they want it). I don't feel the urge/need to discuss all of my fantasies with DH and vice-versa, mainly because neither of us would necessarily WANT the other to fulfil those fantasies. Fine, if you (by 'you' I mean generally, not just you NBG !) and your DH do discuss and whatnot but each to their own.

No lou33, you haven't. I mentioned that there is another thread in active convos raising the same issue as this one, and that there was a poster on that thread who seemed to have taken offence to me.

But this is being construed as a dig at that person who will not like me even posting this explanation. But just so you know.

My DH doesn't look at porn, ANYmore. Finds it boring at 56.

So northener, if you have a "very active and adventurous sex life" then why does your dh look at porn then?

oh cheers rhuby

who is sugarmatches anyway?

Dunno, I'm going to steer clear now of anything that could be taken as any kind of dig against any Mumsnetter on that other thread that may or may not be in active convos.

Actually it's been a funny old day, I had to put up with some nasty abusiveness from some of the teenage pupils I support too. Not a good start to the week really.

Back to the thread though, I do wish everyone would just accept everyone else's lives. What does it matter who uses porn and who doesn't? What difference does it make?

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NBG if he was here I'd ask him. I'd suspect it's because he enjoys it and I don't object to it.

Porn is not the work of teh devil, it can really put you in teh mood and sometimes you pick up some tips

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