What to take to prison 2

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Not a great title but can't think of anything catching this time of the morning. Will figure out how to link to the old thread.

@generalh sorry taken so long to reply , life got in the way.

Is there anyone you can speak to or have counselling? Think you may need someone impartial to let loose at. Helped me a lot at the end. Your not bad parents. You are dealing with your lot the best way you can.

My daughter has made it to 22!
All those years I spent waiting for a knock at the door to identify a body. The phone calls from the custody sergeant. House searches , court dates and prison visits are all hopefully in the past now.

To everyone on this thread and those lurking for advice I wish you all a merry Christmas. 2020 will get better. X

Happy Christmas to you @drinkswineoutofamug. So glad things have settled for you after such a trying couple of years. My end things are still not good but I’m coping which is all I can do right now. I’ve not posted but still watch the thread to see how everyone is.
Best wishes to everyone!

Merry Christmas to all who have responded on this thread. Drinks - am glad to hear your news. Hope 2020 will be better for you Sammysees.
I am thinking o counselling in the New Year.
I am just hoping we can get through Christmas as best we can. It will be 100% better than last Christmas. Not ideal but the best it can be.

I have just spent the last two hours reading this thread and the previous one.

Wow, what a bunch of fabulously inspirational women you are. Restores my faith in MN.

I came on to say that far from inspirational I feel like an utter failure as a mother. However, my son has autism and serious mental health issues. He needs me. So I guess like all mums we have to be strong and carry on fighting for them. Thank you for your comment though. That must have been quite a marathon reading session you had there lol.
How is everyone else doing?

@Sammysees

Yes, took a couple of hours but was fascinating and inspiring. Puts small issues into perspective.

Hi everyone.
Think I spoke to soon about how 2020 was going to be a good year. We have had 19 days of shite so far.
Daughters gf is back drinking . Hopefully goes rehab ASAP. Due to her drinking they are looking at being evicted.
Due to the verbal and emotional abuse she gave my daughter. Well put it this way my lass ended up on a section 136 for trying to jump off a bridge and taking a walk down a train track. Taken to place of safety. Police were fantastic (sent them an email) they stayed with her all day . Took her back to her house and decided that definitely wasn't a place of safety and bought her here.
Gf has been arrested twice for drink and disorderly and public nuisance. I've tried the nicely nicely approach but you can't reason with an alcoholic. She is obnoxious and selfish.
I'm supporting daughter as much as I can but can't deal with the gf as it's all about her and my daughter didn't have a reason to attempt suicide. Again.
The police have done their best but she has yet again been let down by other services.
Not sure if you remember when she tried to hang herself ..... still waiting for help.
The overdoses .... as above.
She's been assess by the psychs as they had to to see if she should be sectioned. Had 2 days of the enablement team visit her to make sure her mh was ok. Now nothing , except a waiting list.
She's on meds , only given a weeks worth at a time.
Don't know how to help. So back now to waiting for a knock at the door.

And to myhandsareverycold we may be inspirational but fuck me , it's been blood sweat and tears for the past 7 years.
Thank you for your praises though.

Oh drinks, I’m so sorry to hear that. I can’t believe she still isn’t getting the help she so obviously needs. I completely understand the feeling of waiting for that knock on the door. I was there too up to a few weeks ago. Luckily (?!?!] my son has been sectioned and was moved from prison to a private psychiatric hospital. How long he will be there’s is anyone’s guess but he’s safe and that’s a massive thing for both of us right now. I’m shocked and appalled that your daughter isn’t getting any help. I hope you are ok and we are always here if you need to talk

@Sammysees it's so hard. And thanks. I'm so tired again and feel like I've been pulled from Pilar to post. I'm in my final year of my nursing associate training and not sure atm how the hell im going to cope. The gf is up in court on Wednesday for public disorder or something like that and definitely goes rehab for 4 weeks on Friday. I'm run down, full of a cold again and not sleeping well. I will survive.

I’ve not had a full nights sleep for about 5 years now. It will probably kill me in the end. That’s what it feels like anyway.
You will cope drinks. Because you are such a strong person. I don’t know you but right back to the very first thread your strength and determination shines through. Is your daughter back living with you now?

Nope. She's still with the girlfriend from hell. We have done rescue missions etc and she bounces back so after this weekend gone we have told her enough is enough and to decide what she's doing.

It’s so hard isn’t it? My son is 20 now but because of his autism he’s still a child in a lot of ways. Emotionally anyway. Intellectually he’s about 60! Hopefully if the gf is going to rehab for 4 weeks that will give them both time to think about things. You think they would learn from their mistakes wouldn’t you? I guess all you can do is be there to pick up the pieces.

I can’t believe it’s 2 years since you started this thread!

I know. Time flies when your life is fucked up

Checking in and sending hugs. All ok here at the moment but waiting for the hex to drop on my head at any moment.
xxx

Well it's been a quiet 2 weeks. The girlfriend left rehab after 4 days 😒 back drinking. My daughter has lost her job due to the gf behaviour. Had no contact and I actually don't want to contact her. Sounds bad but each time it leads to a drama and I'm so tired and mentally exhausted I can't cope.
Like I've said before I'm in my final year of training, I'm working on placement full time plus uni plus study and writing crappie assignments.
Hope everyone is plodding along ok.

Well it's only taken 40mins . Just after I posted got a call off daughter staying her gf is wasting more nhs time got admitted into hospital for another detox. Wanting money for food . Not a chance. So tempted not to go but my partner is taking some food into the hospital

It doesn't get any easier. Feel for you OP.

Trying to insure my son for contents only home insurance only to find as he is convicted of a crime he can`t have insurance. Not that he has anything to steal.

What! That’s outrageous. So basically not only are you punished by a court but for the rest of your life you are also punished by not being able to get insurance? Or a decent job? No wonder offending rates are so high.

Aviva and Direct Line both say other than for motoring offences, if you have a conviction you cannot get home insurance. They also monitor 'spent' convictions.

My girl has been sectioned. Finally. This attempt nearly worked and the powers that be finally listened to me.

Thinking of you drinking. x I hope your daughter is ok xx
My son is doing ok but am concerned what will happen if we are struck down with the virus. Am going over more than I have been making sure he has what he needs.
He has probation today and In have told him to go no matter how he is feeling as I don`t trust the system. He is feeling ok and has no signs of having caught it.
I work in a school so will bring home many germs. I will just have to keep my distance as I visit him.