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What to take to prison 2

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drinkswineoutofamug · 25/04/2018 08:21

Not a great title but can't think of anything catching this time of the morning. Will figure out how to link to the old thread.

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Rubygold4 · 21/11/2018 16:40

Sammy, this is very tough on you, he's making progress, it may be small now but the important thing is that he is moving in the right direction
you will get through this

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drinkswineoutofamug · 28/11/2018 11:46

Got no real update. She's doing well. Off drink for nearly a month. Ex gf has moved away. set of supportive friends. Complying with probation. Boring really.
@Sammysees how's your lad doing? Is he getting the help he needs?
Off to watch fantastic beast 2 with my girls and a spot of shopping. Life is finally good atm 🤞🏻

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tinytemper66 · 01/12/2018 18:30

A shit day today. Just as our life is going back on track. He has done something that could jeopardise his freedom and he doesn't seem to care. I don't know if t is him or his disability that makes him unempathetic.
Won't go into details on here but if Police are contacted he could be back inside.
Feel like a wounded animal. Spent most of it in bed so I wouldn't have to face him. 😞

Sammysees · 01/12/2018 19:56

OH no tiny. The lack of empathy is definitely in part due to his autism but to what extent I don’t know. I’ve asked myself the same thing many a time about my own son. I hope you are ok and that whatever has happened works itself out for the better. Flowers

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drinkswineoutofamug · 03/12/2018 13:51

I'm so sorry tiny . I hope your son hasn't contacted that girl. I understand if you don't want to say.
Is he still on licence? Or is it only probation?

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Weezol · 08/12/2018 15:24

Just passing to drop off Brew and Cake for all those going through the mill x

tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 14:26

He was arrested this morning. Not going to say what for as I am heartbroken and don't want to our myself. It is al over social media were I am but I have come off FB so won't see it although friends rang and told me.
I came home from Church to find it all unfolding,
Upshot is my husband and I have said no to being the RP and no to bail back here. He sent listed to us and the shock of prison hasn't registered.
I don't know what the next steps are but at the moment we are not dealing with him or it but the authorities.

Sammysees · 16/12/2018 15:39

I’m so sorry tiny. I honestly feel your pain. Things not too good our end either and sometimes I wonder how I find the strength to get up in the morning. I hope you have plenty of support but I guess you are feeling completely wiped out at the moment. Let us know if there is anything we can do Flowers

tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 17:27

Thanks.
They want to release him tonight but we have said not to us and to let social services deal with it.

Groovee · 16/12/2018 18:24

Hugs @tinytemper66 x

tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 18:46

Thanks x
I don't know what more we could do. Christmas is a can of worms now. I don't want to think about it but I have another child to think about and my small extended family too.

Sammysees · 16/12/2018 18:59

Do you think he realises what he’s done? I’m clutching at straws maybe but he does seem to be vulnerable. Maybe he doesn’t understand?

tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 19:25

I think he realises now but not consequences.
I always thought I would defend my child to the hilt but sometimes you can't.
I am devastated and heart broken and so is my DH.
We are awaiting a call to see what they are doing with him but have been adamant he isn't to be brought here.

Sammysees · 16/12/2018 19:55

Oh tiny. Of course you are devastated. I have no words to make anything better but my thoughts are with you.

tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 19:59

Thank you x

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drinkswineoutofamug · 16/12/2018 20:41

Tiny I'm so sorry. I hope he realises what he's done. Love to you and your husband. It's so hard to say no. You're a stronger woman than me xx

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tinytemper66 · 16/12/2018 21:32

I feel very guilty though although I know it is the right choice.
The police sent a social worker here to persuade us to take him but we did stand firm together and said no.
They were keen and eager to lock him up last time and had no concerns then -this is what I said to the SW. E have never been supported by social services so now they have to deal with him.

Sammysees · 17/12/2018 11:27

Do you know whats happened to him tiny? Have been thinking of you.

tinytemper66 · 17/12/2018 12:03

The police just rang my husband and said he was taken by social services to temp accommodation for the night and SS are trying to find him a place.
Once we know where he is we will take clothes etc.
I am struggling with what he will think of us at the moment.

Sammysees · 17/12/2018 15:53

Maybe this is the shock that he needs? Although to be fair I thought prison may have done that. I’m sorry you are going through this. No what you need a week before Christmas. Or anytime come to that.

tinytemper66 · 17/12/2018 16:41

It is what it is... a bloody mess! Thank you for responding xxx

Sammysees · 17/12/2018 17:34

We are all in a bloody mess too. My son has stopped eating for the 2nd time in weeks. Worried about his physical and mental health. Have just been told trial will be next March so a long way to go yet.
I hope things settle down for you soon. Take care of yourself x

tinytemper66 · 17/12/2018 18:06

It will be next year now obviously with the date we are at now. X
It will be a custodial sentence. 😔

tinytemper66 · 17/12/2018 18:53

Hugs to you to Sammy xx

Sammysees · 17/12/2018 18:55

It may not be. Usually they will remand you in custody if it will be a definite jail term. I think your son will have had a massive shock with you no longer enabling him. Have you seen him? I have to say - you are a strong, brave lady. Hats off to you!