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What to take to prison 2

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drinkswineoutofamug · 25/04/2018 08:21

Not a great title but can't think of anything catching this time of the morning. Will figure out how to link to the old thread.

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Groovee · 17/04/2019 18:21

Fantastic news @drinkswineoutofamug so happy to read that x

generalh · 17/04/2019 22:23

I am also Tiny Temper but lost log ins on my laptop. This is fantastic news x

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drinkswineoutofamug · 18/04/2019 10:14

tiny aka generalh!!! How are things going?

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generalh · 18/04/2019 11:47

Drinks...ok. He has moved from the terrible room he was placed in. He has been a victim of robbery due to his vulnerability. We are waiting for bail back and where we go from there. I see him weekly, sometimes more if things need to be done regarding bills etc. He has his own flat in a safer area but he is still vulnerable.
He realises that he did something wrong but I know he didnt realise the consequences He will never live at home again but we willl support him as he is vulnerable. If he wasnt then he would be on his own.
I don`t cry about it now but I worry all the time.

tinytemper66 · 25/04/2019 23:04

Has been released under investigation and will be contacted by the DC who will let him know when he as to return for further questioning, if at all.

tinytemper66 · 22/05/2019 20:41

He will be charged. Awaiting a letter for magistrates court but don't know the charge or what will happen. Awaiting advice from solicitor. l am so overwhelmed. He is ok.😥

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drinkswineoutofamug · 26/05/2019 16:54

Oh tiny I wish I could help. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

I've not been about much, busy studying, working and dog walking. My daughter is finally doing ok. Working and the local authorities are now back working with her.

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tinytemper66 · 17/06/2019 21:29

Was told today it will go to crown court. Was a shock. Feel so sad. He is so vulnerable and I fear he will become hopeless and be attacked and robbed again. He needs to be punished for his crime but as he is so vulnerable I am scared for the future.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 18/06/2019 09:22

Do you have a court date yet?

Hopefully they will take into consideration his needs when , god forbid, he's sentenced . I really hope it doesn't come to this.

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tinytemper66 · 19/06/2019 14:09

Not good. Gone to crown and may have a sentence of 12 months. Waiting for psych assessment.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 19/06/2019 17:34

The psych assessment should hopefully highlight any issues which should be taken into consideration. Can you have any input or your family doctor?
Is he on remand at the moment or at his home?
I feel for you. Brings back such horrible memories.

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tinytemper66 · 19/06/2019 18:38

Not at home but we support him in a small flat. Thanks x

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drinkswineoutofamug · 17/07/2019 21:06

How are things @tinytemper66 ?

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drinkswineoutofamug · 24/07/2019 21:10

Daughter has had letter to say probation is finally over. Hopefully this is the start of a new beginning for her. Thank you to everyone who has supported me through these testing times and kept me sane. A lovely bunch of vipers Thanks

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generalh · 25/07/2019 22:02

I cant seem to log in on tiny temper account but suffice to say things are not going well. CPS want to send him away for up to two years. Barrister was shit. Judge pissed off with the proceedings. Son has to have psychiatric report before next hearing, which is when I am away on holiday. Feel awful but we need to go on this holiday.We have worked hard for it and we have supported our son. Being in court or not wont change outcome. My mum will go with him.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 26/07/2019 07:57

generalh hiya, yes go on holiday. You also need to think of your well-being and that of your husband. How is your husband after his last health scare?
It doesn't matter if you are there or not, the outcome will be the same. Learnt this over the years.
Why was the judge pissed off with proceedings? And how long will the psych assessment take?
Enjoy your holiday and keep in touch x

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generalh · 27/07/2019 22:00

Barrister couldn't find answers in notes. Psych report done yesterday and feels that although has learning difficulties he can follow procedure, which the solicitor believes he can`t.
[Some dates have changed in case someone recognises me.]
Have to write about him, which looks like long paragraphs of rambling at the moment.
Want to show probation that he is vulnerable.
What will be will be. x

Wishiknewthen · 30/07/2019 09:41

General how are you? Did you sort the report? It must be so so hard.
Sending you strength x

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drinkswineoutofamug · 05/09/2019 16:49

@generalh aka @tinytemper66 how have things progressed with your son?

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generalh · 05/09/2019 20:34

Pleaded guilty and has to wait for sentencing which has been postponed 3 times now. We even turned up for court one day only to be told it was cancelled.
Hope it will be all sorted next week. Maybe a suspended sentence but we have to wait to see what judge says. Probation recommending suspended sentence.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 21/11/2019 11:09

@generalh , had a name fail , how did it go with your sons sentence?

All still good here with my daughter.

generalh · 24/11/2019 10:04

suspended sentence; still living at flat on own. Managing ok. No issues since the beginning of October so things going in right direction.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 24/11/2019 10:55

Thank god for that! How are you and husband doing?

generalh · 24/11/2019 19:05

Doing ok. Christmas will be much better than last year but still not the way it was. Thanks for asking x

generalh · 15/12/2019 20:14

It has been a year since he was first arrested and I have a feeling of dread and gloom. I can`t get rid of it. It is like it is sitting on my chest. Life will never be the same and without us supporting him from where we live and to where he is, he would never manage to exist but is the best we can do. I feel like an awful parent on times especially with all his disabilities but for us this is the best we can do.