What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

@drinkswineoutofamug we are all here to support you, I'm so sorry you're going through this xx

Thank you buckbeak

You sound like a fantastic mum, I'm so sorry that you are going through this

Just read this thread from beginning to end and I really hoped it was a happy ending for you OP. You should be so proud of the love and support you have given you daughter you sound like an amazing mum

I'm sorry this is the outcome. You've tried so hard.

Oh no, you have given her so much. You must feel drained.

Just found your thread and I'm so sorry to see your recent update op.

I don't have any advice but am thinking of you. How awful sad for you all after it seemed like she was on the right track.

I've had 2 hours sleep. She is back here. Court next week. Drugs ruin everything. I'm getting her an emergency appointment Monday for detox and MH issues.

Contact POPS. They could probably help. www.partnersofprisoners.co.uk

I spoke to POPS last time. They weren't much use tbh. Told me nothing I didn't all ready know from what posters on here had told me , but thank you for the link

I was hurt to read somewhere else that posters believe , some of us with recurring problems come back to mn, because apparently family and friends in RL are sick and tired of hearing our problems.
Thank you everyone that has given support , words of wisdom.

Can't imagine how you feel. I hope you get her in to detox and it goes well.

I'm sorry that things haven't worked out well for you both.

You could not have done more to support your daughter but sadly she has to put the work in herself as well.

I was hurt to read somewhere else that posters believe , some of us with recurring problems come back to mn, because apparently family and friends in RL are sick and tired of hearing our problems.

That's what mumsnet is for, to make parents' lives easier. Who cares that some posters don't want to read about it? There are literally millions of threads here that I hide, sometimes I go down active threads and literally hide half of them. But that doesn't mean that those posters have no right to ask about their family problem, or the nicest socks from m&s or whatever. Friends will give advice but they know you and might give advice based on the fact they still want to remain friends with you, but here it is more impersonal (I'm not sure if that is the word I mean but can't think of a better one) in the sense mumsnetters give advice based on the situation only. Your friends may be too close to the trees to see the forest whereas we are sitting on a hill half a mile away and have a different viewpoint to them.

Just came across this post and didn't want to read and run! So very sorry to hear all the problems you have been having with your DD you are such an incredible mum and she is extremely lucky to have you take care of yourself and I sincerely hope your daughter gets her life back on track. 💐from one mother to another xx

I remember this thread from when you first started it and it just popped up in my active conversations. I'm so sorry it's gone pair shaped and hope you get some help next week

Thank you. Enid I get what your saying. My friends in RL are so supportive, one called me incredible this morning. It just feels like an never ending nightmare and people must get sick off it. I'm sick of it.

Aww fuck! so sorry she's relapsed. Went through similar with my youngest brother, 15 years later, I can't believe it all happened. He's a wonderful husband, father, son and brother.
There is hope - I'm sure you know, it has to come all from them.
If love could cure the addicted, there wouldn't be any
There was times I just couldn't have my brother around me - BUT I never stopped telling him he was loved, and he deserved to treat himself better.
It's all so fucking awful; I can't say I know what you're going through
(I was only a sister ) but watching my Mam was fucking awful.

She can recover from this. You have all my good wishes

How are doing OP?

Court tomorrow. She's resigned and packing

Well she's gone. Didn't want me to go with her.
Everything is laid out on her bed ready for me to pack if needs be. She said she will use her 3 minutes to call me tonight. Said no , I will see her later. She gave me a hug, told me she loved me. And I was a legend bringing her coffee and banana cake . I will update you all when I know

Take care of yourself today

Untypical MN hugs lass.

Thank you for your messages of support , they mean a lot .
I don't know what to do with myself. My house is spotless , I've even T-cut my skirting boards 😬
I'm just drinking tea and smoking. I can not concentrate on anything else.