What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Sorry to hear you aren't well, Drinks. I'm guessing your body has been trying so hard to keep everything together and now it knows it can relax a little. I've heard of teachers getting ill right after term finishes for the same reason.

Hi Drinks,

Just been catching up with your updates.

I work in supporting women leaving prison. We provide accommodation for women.

I read your updates on job centre etc. The importance of your daughter's Responsible Officer cannot be understated here. With regards to the proof of address, they can write a supporting letter confirming her address. Our women face many barriers due to not having ID on leaving prison. However, we ensure they get a copy of their birth certificates.

As she is residing with you, her RO will not be pushed to write supporting documents. On her licence paperwork, it should state her address.

If the ex has a restraining order against contact, then indirect contact from associates can be dealt with separately. I am not to sure of the situation as I came late to the thread.

Has your daughter's RO got her involved in any groups or activities?

Hi all. I'm a lot better now. Nothing that a few days off didn't cure.
Her benefits are now sorted but won't get paid till June. I shoved the letter they sent to my house as proof of address! They excepted it.
The probation guy was actually nice . She did an oasis (?) risk assessment and they have signed her up to do a WISE course . It's for women run by women. They do relationships, money, housing , substance misuse etc.
She's had advice for drinking and a plan put in action for her. Advised her what to do with her debts from her old flat. And advised me on what I can do to help support her.
She no longer talks about being there. No longer asks for permission to get a drink/ have a bath.
She comes in at the time I set. And as I fret keeps me posted on where she is. I may be ott but my nerves are on edge .
What I would like if anyone can answer this. I don't have the paper work in front of me as she carries the release licence with her everywhere in case she gets stopped by the police.
It says the 3 months licence ends 7/7/2017
Extended licence 19/04/2018
What's an extended licence and what's the difference?

Hi Drinks,

Good to hear.

With regards to the licence question, there are effectively two licences.

The short licence is her sentence licence. As she served half her time in custody, she is now serving the remainder of her current sentence in the community. On the expiration date, she has then successfully completed her sentence.

The extended licence means her supervision. Since 2015, all custodial sentences of a day require a 12-month post custody supervision period. It was brought in following the privatisation of Probation. Therefore your daughter will be required to meet the terms of this licence until April 2018.

If she committed or breached the sentence licence (July one) she would be recalled to prison until the end of this licence.

If after July, she breaches the extended licence, she would be on a 28-day recall. She would serve 14 days of this recall.

HTH.

Thank you so much. Makes much more sense .

Most welcome.

I am a former offender, used my experiences as a 'wrong un' to support other women leaving prison. I think you are amazing in how you have supported your daughter through this time. Outcomes for many women are very different whom do not have family support. Many feel prison is their support and end up back.

Keep well and strong.

Not sure why I lost this thread back in march but drinks I thought of you and your daughter today and I'm really pleased to read your updates!

Glad things are improving.

Hi all. I've not much to up date really . She's doing her thing. Goes probation , goes job centre , does her courses .I have told her that she takes the piss and she's out. She replies what you would see me back in prison? Yes if it teaches you to grow up and take responsibility. So she hasn't pushed me again.

She's had a night out and made it home without the help of Cheshire constabulary .
But the police did beep and wave when I last walked with her to probation
I no longer take her as she knows where she's going and she's an adult and I'm decorating .

Hi Drinks

I've not been on for a while but have often thought of you.

How are you and DD doing?

X cat

Hi cat, she's doing well and starts college next week.

College got cancelled due to not enough people on the course. Daughter doing ok applying for jobs get stuck when we have to give the reason why she left her last job but have to be truthful I suppose

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she can find something, drinks. How's the decorating going?

Nightmare. Done 4 rooms now on to my sons

Thats awful about the meds not given by police

I have only just read all of this thread months after it was started but I would like you to know that it has been one of the best examples of a mother's love that I have ever read.

I hope that your DD is doing better now and I wish you all the best for the future.

So glad to see the update and that she's out and doing well

Hi Drinks!
Hope you, DD, and the decorating are ok!
Has there been any progress on the college/job front?

Hiya, no new news. She's applying for jobs and the college fell through as not enough people on the course.
It gets a bit difficult on application forms when it asks the reason why you left your last employment. She's been truthful , maybe that's the problem. But lying gets you nowhere. She's applied for 11 jobs in 2 weeks.

Oh no, that must be really knocking her confidence, has she spoken to the jobcentre about this?

Also is her conviction one that will be "spent" after a certain length of time.

All the best
Thinking of you both

Long awaited update.
Her sentence is done in 7 days. Just the remaining 9 months licence.

She's received qualifications from the prison in her math and English, they arrived the other day.

Job hunting been difficult, she going to sign on to some agencies tomorrow, advice of her probation.

Looks well. Put on healthy weight. She's here next to me eating peanut butter crumpets .

All is good 😊

Well done on those certificates and for finding a positive target in the situation.

I'm so glad she has you. Onwards and upwards

hello Drinks, so very glad to see your update. I've thought of you often.

The time seems to have passed very quickly, but that's easy to say from my perspective looking in. Glad she looks well - it does take a while to get rid of that unhealthy prison pallor. Please give her my best wishes that the future is rosy all around and to you both.

Someone please help me!
My sister just got released after 3 years bof prison...
She was abused and harrased by both guards and other inmates..
She can't get the horrors and bad memories of her time out of her head.
She is usually a very social person but she is now tends to stay away from other people. Is there anything I can do to help my sister? Please I need help!

Well, it's all gone pear shaped. The love and support I have given . All thrown back in my face.
Issues have been building recently, the lies. I found out she was using again.
Today I was assaulted by my daughter. Nothing huge.
She is at the moment in police custody. I don't know if she will be released or held until Monday and sent back to prison.
To be called a cunt in front of your work colleagues, to be blamed for all her wrong doings.
I am physically ok. No damaged done. My back is a little tender now from our scuffle.
Mentally though, it hurts. I have friends in real life I have spoken too. This may be the beginning of the end. Ball is in her court.
Again, I love her, just not what she's become.