What to take to prison

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Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Fantastic news, Drinks. I imagine you're all relieved.

She'll be supervised by the CRC as her sentence was under 12-months. This is the privatised element of the Probation Service.

What a journey for you all. It's been a fascinating read. I'm really rooting for her to successfully complete her sentence and then you can all move forward.

I hope you'll keep this thread up to date with progress.

I remember reading your thread when you first posted, and have just caught up. I'm glad she's home and that she's managed some courses etc. Hopefully this will be the turning point.

You are a wonderful person, your daughter is incredibly lucky to have you on her side

@Mc180768 yep I will be still keep updating you all , we are beginning a new journey

I eat this thread when you started it but then lost it.

So glad she is home. You must be so happy and relieved.

Fantastic I hope things get easier for you now & your daughter gets herself on track and stays away from the ex.

She sat in her room alone last night. Ate her tea in there. She said she was fed up of people asking questions all the time. She's staying in today.

I think that's to be expected drinks, from what clients have told me, there's an end point, a goal to aim for when you're serving, then the elation of getting out. And then a bit of a cold shower effect when you no longer have that "getting out" goal and there isn't an end point and release was the first step not the last in sorting this out. Good luck for both of you

I wonder if it's also that she can? She had a choice. In prison she had to follow the rules. I'm sure being able to choose where she can eat her meal is nice.

I'm sure it will take her time to adjust.

@CiderwithBuda she ate in her cell in there. So I suppose it's the norm. 😔
Now she's out she's told me what she saw. People trying to hang themselves and having their faces slashed just for owing baccy . She didn't want me to worry. Nobody should have to witness things like that wherever they are.

@LauraMipsum . Exactly how you described it. She hit a wall about 7 last night. I'm giving her space and as much as I want to mummy her I am also carrying on as normal, if you understand what I'm wittering about.
I too had the elation of her release but now it's the what next? She has no tag, contrary to what her solicitor told me. Has a list of restrictions long as your arm. And it's not the ex trying to give us shit. She's be warned to stay away. It's the ex's new girlfriend. They just won't fuck off scuse my French .

Drinks can you speak to her solicitor about the contact from fwexgf's new gf?
And let police and probation know aswell. Block her on everything you can.

None of you need this shit right now :(

@SailAwayWithMeHoney I really don't know , the solicitor has done his bit. He only gets paid legal aid for when she's in the shit.
The little bitch is messaging all her friends but not my daughter saying she's going to come here and start shit. So I suppose no contact breach isn't being broken .
I knew something like this would happen.

Ah. Maybe she needs that norm for now.

She will needs lots of time to adjust and get over it all.

Report the ex's new girlfriend to police. She is obv being egged on by the ex.

Just seriously don't need this right now

I agree with Cider, inform the police. Ring 101.

If she's making indirect threats, they may be able to warn her off at the least?

Has fwexgf been told not to make indirect contact via a third party?

I'm trying to find the letter .

The letter states that the solicitor has written to XXXX informing her to have no form of contact.
That's it.
No 3rd party mentioned

It might be a stretch but they be able to lean on third party coming under "any form" of contact? But I'm no sure.

Sorry can't be of more help

That's ok. I will email them anyway and contact her case worker who I have a good relationship with.

"No form of contact" would ordinarily mean direct OR indirect contact - that includes getting a third party to contact on her behalf. Hope the caseworker is useful.

Morning all. Everything has been fine up to now. No dramas. She's been going out , coming home before the curfew I set. She's stopped asking permission to do things . Have a brew, snack, bath. Simple things. I'm surprised how institutionalised she became so quick .
Her support worker is coming this morning and she has probation induction tomorrow, which I'm taking her to as it's in a different town. Had problems trying to sort benefits due to lack of proof of address but that's a different thread
If someone else told me of the difficulties of being released I wouldn't of believed them. It's mental . If an ex prisoner doesn't have a good support network they are screwed. It's a joke. I emailed her solicitor but no reply, his job is done? No more contact though off fwexgf new gf . Time will tell.
I will keep you all updated.

Glad to hear DD is home. Hope the ex goes away soon. If she turns up just dial 999.

Apparently according to job centre signing on is more important than going to probation.
We were like errr no

That's awful from the job centre

Weekly update . Everything fine. It's just me now. Hit a wall again. Blood pressure bit higher than it should be , dizziness . Keep being told to go off work but I work for the NHS and they're knobs when it come to sickness .