What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Morning . Feeling flat this morning. I feel , reading a post that a visitor on here left I have to explain . It's all a set of shitty circumstances that left the perp gf laughing and my DD with 3 months suspended sentence.
The gf attacked my girl with a knife. Smashed her flat, kicked down doors, stabbed doors . My daughter in her moment of panic grabbed another knife . The gf then ran. So DD ran out of the flat to find help, found police, who searched her. .....
She told police she had been attacked, what had happened. Nothing done about assault on her or criminal damage to her flat. When this got to court the police had some how managed to twist the statement saying the injuries my girl had, she had done to the gf. Lucky for us yet again I had taken photos. Want me to trust the police? In frustration she kicked a copper that night.
She isn't an angel . I will never say otherwise. She's a stupid girl, wrong choices . My advice to a dv victim don't try to fight back . This is what happens. The frustration knowing that shit for brains is walking the streets.

drinks you don't have to explain anything on here.

You've got support as long as you need it.

Another saying explanation needed.

The support is here for you to help you through this - as you support your DD.

Thanks, just having one of those days. I was never expecting people to wish her well. I wasn't expecting this amount of support. But yes it could happen to anyone of you. I have tried to help her not to go down this path of self destruction etc . To spit at someone, anyone is common assault. You can be fined or imprisoned for it. The last incident she was being kicked by fwexgf in the face, caught on cctv. She then managed to restrain fwexgf and that's how she got arrested. Charged with common assault. This she is pleading not guilty too hence trial in march.
Just having a low day.

Just read the thread & wanted to add you're doing an amazing job. Really hope things turn around for you both soon 💐

Of course it can happen to anyone. No ones future MH is guaranteed or future situations they find them self in guaranteed.

Sometimes when you've had a bad situation and made a bad choice it's really hard to get on the right path again until you've been down the wrong one until the end.

That doesn't make someone a bad person.

drinks - please, please don't feel you have to explain you or your DD on this thread.

Such a shame that a supportive, insightful thread has been derailed by a complete and utter twerp.

Sorry.
I've sent her a letter with a book of stamps in it.

drinks I really really wish you could just ignore the minority on this thread and take strength from the huge majority who just want to support you but I know how hard that is when it's the negative comments that hurt.

Most of us realise we have no right to judge you, that any one of us (including those wearing judgey pants ironically) could find ourselves where you are and that you don't owe anyone any sort of explanation.

I hope the continued support for you and concern for DD are helping to redress the balance for you and that your day has picked up a little from this morning. There's masses of understanding and empathy for you here, I hope you won't let the odd negative post spoil that for you

I know. Just having a woe is me moment. I have sorted some more stuff for her, knickers , pjs and what not. It's hard to ignore the negative but I hope that one day those people, as you put it don't end up in my situation. I really appreciate the support that everyone has given me. I'm just off to give myself a kick up the backside to snap out of it.

Hi Drinks, it's been great to see all the support on here for you. When I was in your situation I bottled everything up as I wrongly thought people would judge and ended up making myself ill with stress. Later on when I did open up people were mostly lovely as they have been on here. This situation isn't something you have caused or could have stopped and you are doing your best during a heart breaking time.

So sorry for your situation
"There but for the grace of God go I"

Drinks I could so easily have been in your situation a couple of years ago . My DD avoided it by the skin of her teeth. I can honestly say it was the darkest , loneliest place ever, 'worry' doesn't even begin to cover it. i totally lost the plot myself and ended up having a breakdown.

'There but for the grace...' indeed.

There's people that knowingly break the law and then there's those that find themselves in a situation that goes pear shaped and it spirals out of control.

I sincerely hope that things turn around for you and your family xxx

Morning drinks

Just checking in to remind you there is support here. I cannot imagine how the next few months of uncertainty are taking their toll.

Also add (and repeat what I've said) - no one knows what the future holds. We are here to hand hold and support. Please try and ignore and don't read the judge posts.

I could be where some of you are or have been in years to come.

My Ds has ASD and is only 12 ATM. But he's vulnerable and can be violent. He can't communicate very well socially. I do all I can to protect him. But I know the realism that I can't always be by his side.

We do all we can as parents. And that's all we can do.

Such a great, supportive thread ruined by one complete arsehole. I'm sure said arsehole is rubbing their thighs with glee at managing to cause upset. Quite a sad life really.

You don't need to justify anything.

You're doing so well, i can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.

Morning. I good today. I sent an email to her last night. And booked some visits . Amazed everything is now on line.

Hope you are both feeling some happier and things are getting sorted for her medication

I am today carol. Thank you

yournotkiddingne it's really hard and worrying time, especially when they hit teenage years. Fingers crossed your son takes the right path.

Sorry I haven't replied to everyone

Glad to hear you are feeling more positive 💞

@drinkswineoutofamug

Hope you're ok today xx

I'm good thanks , visit arranged for Thursday .
Loving the email a prisoner I can peck her head! It's like she never left home!

Thanks for your kind messages

Drinks I've been following your thread with interest; I was in court 7 years ago for an alcohol related offence. I was lucky and got a suspended sentence however it gave me a huge kick up the arse and here I am 7 years later married to a lovely man with two gorgeous children and my own house.
My mum was like you; devastated and disappointed in me but she never gave up on me and we're still very close now.
to you and your DD, hopefully she'll come round and change her life for the better after this.