Frugal friends follow each other frugally through Hallowe'en, COVID all welcome

[Happierwithouthim]

Here you go life

Aw @lifelongfrugaleer that’s really shit. Hope another buyer comes along soon as.

Just over £1 spent on milk today so that’s good.

Life that sucks... but at least you have not had time to instruct a solicitor. There is lots of activity in the market atm with stamp duty holiday coming to an end in March.

em 36 minutes good effort.

We had dinner with dd - via video link. She was propped up at the end of the table on my laptop,

Life that's so annoying hopefully you'll get another buyer soon.

Just spent 40 minutes on my iPad queuing to get onto the Tesco website for a Christmas slot only to find that when I went onto my laptop I got on straight away 😤 Still at least I got a slot.

I bought wine and Prosecco in the nectar double up. Let's see if it lasts until Christmas 🙈

Happier, Tayto the supervalue Christmas advert has just killed me

That's lovely you had dinner with dd Unescorted. How fabulous technology is x

wolf it is lovely but heartbreaking. I had to prepare dd after watching the news last night that we may not see grandparents this Christmas. Non essential travel is prohibited. We probably will get to travel but it's 100 mile journey and I don't want to attempt it unless we can do it.

That's fabulous use of technology unescorted

Another expensive shopping week. Luckily I didn't need fuel this week so am still £20 up.

wreck I dida huge shop on Sunday, like about 3 times normal cost yet I still need to buy bits for dc lunches this weekend

Ah Happier I hope they sort the rules so you can be together

House cleaned top to bottom apart from mopping kitchen abs bathroom floors which I will do tomorrow. Two loads of washing done. More ancient paperwork shredded.

50% of dinner is currently in the slow cooker and I'm sitting down to read a book

Walk with friend this morning

Overall still feeling very flat and blue but getting on with it

Ds has an anger management session later so might make myself scarce for that

Afternoon everyone
Been to Cadiff to Dd2 house to put together a side table, deliver stuff she has bought , get the recycling of the cardboard done and give the house a clean/check on it . She is staying here with us for another couple of weeks , doesn't seem much point in her even moving in before Christmas really It has put a bit of a downer on it for her but it is a small price to pay . She seems fine anyway so that is all that matters
Brilliant you had dinner with your Dd Unescorted that must have been lovely for you all
Happier I hope you can all be together for Christmas
Wolf hope you are better love & Ds session goes well ....it's pants having a cold and l don't know about you but l can't help thinking it is Covid & not a cold
Wreck food is so expensive it has really gone up great though that you are still 20 up on the week
Born bubbly & wine sounds great. Glad you got your slot
Em Dd did very well with settling to sleep , fingers crossed you get a win
Spent 17 in Lidl and 15 in Sains, bought a bottle of Disarano velvet for a Christmas present it is only £10 in Sains l couldn't leave it there for that price! Also bought some Mince pie wheats from there for Dd
apparently they are delicious and only Sains do them
www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/Product/disaronno-velvet-liqueur-50cl
www.sainsburys.co.uk/gol-ui/product/new-355373-44/sainsburys-mince-pie-wheats-500g

Well the anger management session went well. Not! Since that I've been called very name under the sun. I have new cracks in the walls I've just paid to have decorated to repair his last two years of distraction and I've been firmly told what a shit parent I am and how I'm the worst mother in the village. I so did not need this this week. I feel like I'm being fired on from all sides with work and this and all the other shit I have to deal with.

Plus ex has been given a house he has to move in pronto so it looks like I'll be living in a house with no furniture for Xmas.

Ffs

Oh no wolf I'm sorry things are so hard is there anyone ds can stay with to give you a break? Family? (Not exh). I know it's lockdown but I would argue that it's pretty essential you get a break.

Wolf you know you are not a shit mother. You are so committed, you love him even when he is being a toad. You pick up the pieces time and time again.
Am I missing something why does your ExDickhead get first dibs on the furniture? He is the one that pissed you about with a settlement. In the circumstances no one would think bad of you if it took much longer to organise it being moved to his.... alternatively let him organise it... that way it will be teh back end of next summer before you need to replace the sofa. In the meantime get a cat who sharpens its claws on furniture.

Today is DH's birthday - I may have spent a small fortune on making a birthday tea. Can I recommend using Teams meetings that you just sit and listen as the perfect time to whip up a birthday cake. 2 tiered coffee and chocolate cake.

Wolf l am so sorry 💐
Is there Anything we can do to help?
Unescorted is right re the furniture because you have to keep a comfortable roof over your child's head.
Unescorted happy birthday to your. DH and l hope you all really enjoy that cake it sounds absolutely delicious 😋

Absolutely unescorted I often bake while on calls.

Woah wolf hold on there. You are far from the shit mother. You picked up the pieces when h did what he did. You were there through all the crap that was associated with it. You are the one safe constant for DS, unfortunately that means you are also the safe space when he lashes out.
As for the furniture er fuck off H. He gets a share but yy to him not getting it all.
I agree can you get a break this weekend. Can DS go to family?

Stick a prawn right down the back of a piece of furniture wolf . But yes, surely if you don’t arrange/pay for the furniture moving, then it won’t be going anywhere going by past experience. Sorry you are having a shit week . Is he off to ex’s tomorrow?

Oh Wolf, you are so not shit. You are amazing and dealing with so much. I expect the anger management has stoked difficult feelings for ds and he's lashed out. I know it doesn't seem like it now but it will be helping him long-term to work through it. I hope you get some rest this weekend.

Great idea for dinner Unescorted!

Dh often bakes or cleans the kitchen whilst on work meetings!

Top up shop plus a few bits for the xmas box today. £46. Got home and realised I forgot to get anything for Sunday dinner so I either need to pop out again tomorrow or it is freezer tapas which doesn't feel very Sunday dinner-y!

I took him to his dads. Not ideal but better than him causing more damage

He refused to eat the dinner I spent all afternoon making.

Exh is supposed to get the household contents in the financial deal he's spent 9 bastard months not signing! There's a bit of me that's just wants rid of all the stuff to speed up the getting rid of him

Yes not ideal but DS needs to not be there just for a bit. Has he signed finally? It will certainly be better to have the cuts tied, except for DS obviously.
Can see why your want rid.

Ok self care tonight. Try and rest and look after you

wolf oh mate. Not good. Sending love your way. You are no way a shit parent. You know this. Ds knows this. And he doesn’t mean it. You know this too.

Dd woke up at 4. Then again at 6. So not too bad....

We went to the zoo again today. So much fun. Me ds and Dd. Dd hissed at the snakes. Growled at the bears. “Ooohooooh” at the gorillas orangutans and other monkeys. Laughed at the lemurs and got so over excited by flamingos.

I saved two butterflies. They were on the floor in the butterfly room and were about to get stomped on by T-Rex ds. So I picked them up.

Also nsd. Dm gave me £10
To buy the kids something at the zoo gift shop so whilst I spent it wasn’t my
Money...

Oh wolf, sending unmumsnetty & uncovid hugs your way. Definite need for self care tonight. We're all here for you.
unescorted sounds like a lovely dinner with dd. Glad she will likely be home for Christmas. Happy birthday to your dh
Bad luck on the house news Life. It's such a roller coaster.

Slightly better week at work. No spending apart from a few Christmas presents which are budgeted for. Did virtual clubbercise with dd tonight & then a blow out of pizza, chocolate brownie & cider delivered from our favourite pub. First time I've done clubbercise, it's like 10 different 1980s aerobics classes in one, with added glow sticks!
Dd has dyslexia assessment booked at the end of the month. Dparents are paying...£600...eek! Spoke to lovely lady on Tuesday who considered adding in an autism screen, but discussed it with someone else who said no need, all my concerns about dd could be explained by a type of dyslexia. Fingers crossed.
Ds' new laptop & printer arrived today, he is pleased with it. All the assistive software is preloaded, he just needs to do the training on how to use it all now & then crack on with the essay that is due in a month!

Em bless ds he's so cute, well done for saving the butterflies

I've stopped picking up other little jobs during work calls since I moved my office upstairs out of the kitchen. That was a slight unintended consequence of the move

Unescorted virtual dinners with dd sound like a fab idea

North great news on progressing the assessment for dd and ds getting the assistive software he needs

Was hoping for a lie in this morning but no joy so I've been lying in bed with a cuppa and the internet

Morning. Dh has gone to the gym. I’m going riding when he comes back.

Then probably going to go get lights for our tree outside.

wolf I hope you had a restful evening. My job can be dull sometimes, but the rage I feel over poorly drafted contracts has it advantages.... the agreement says he gets the furniture, but I am assuming that it is silent on how it gets to his. If that is the case leave it to him to organise. When you want rid you notify him that you want rid and give him a reasonable time to collect... then if it is still at yours arrange to have it put outside your house.

We may have drunk wine last night. I feel fuzzy after so long.

Christmas officially starts this year.... normally it is left until I finish work and teh kids break up. Even then it is really low key. This year is going to be glitz, sparkles and enough lights to rival Blackpool. I need to make a Christmas cake and a pudding - not that I like eating either, but others do. I have a nagging feeling that I am late on this task... but hey ho.