Morning everyone 😀
Thank you all for the MumBob love ❤️🤗
Yes l think it's a permanent state of affairs . My siblings are vile about it , really really horrible. Causing rows with Mum on the phone , brother ringing her up 2 weeks ago drunk and telling her that 'Bob is not my Father , only one father l have , l'm not ringing or speaking or visiting you again. I've finished with you' . Mum was very upset over it all as you can imagine. Mum has been at Bob's for 6 months and he has used the excuse that he doesn't want to visit her at Bob's he wants to see her at her own home. The truth being he has hardly visited my parents at their own home and he lives a stone's throw away from her and 6 miles from Bob. He couldn't even be bothered to visit my Dad at home the day he died while we were waiting hours for the ambulance, he's always been drunken ,foul mouthed, aggressive , violent, selfish and boastful. He's been spoiled by my Mum and Dad , forgiven everything, given everything and this is the result. A monster.
My sister has visited Mum 3 x in 6 months. She lives a stone's throw from Mum and 6 miles from Bob . We live 6 miles away from Mum and 16 from Bob. My sister & her DH called in last. Saturday. She despatched her DH down the garage with Bob and set on Mum. She questioned Mum about her money, how was l paying the window cleaner and the gardener. I had 200 pounds off Mum for my birthday and l have been using that because it was too much. She gave the others 100 so l used the 100 for that and therefore had the same as them. She previously to this has been in complete control of Mum's money and it has been hard for Mum to spend her money as she likes. My sister has coersive control over her really. I realise that now. She provoked Mum about Bob and my Dad and Mum lost her temper and told her to never come to Bob's again, here comes her DH & Bob from the garage , my sister changes completely icily calm and normal do that Bob and Her DH don't know anything, this is what has been happening all the time. When my Dad died l paid for the death certs because we needed about 8 and l didn't think it was right for them to pay for their own death certs , l did the same with my Mother in law it just didn't seem right to me so l paid for them. My Mum wanted to help her friend who is dying, go on holiday for probably the last time so we decided to say Mum had paid me the death certs money so she could give her friend the money to stop any rows. I think it was about £120 in all . I am NC with my Brother and sister . I have been since l realised the strangle hold my sister had on the family. It's been very difficult for me and l have felt so sad and missed her and guilty because l blamed myself but l just couldn't put up with it anymore and l really think my DH would have had a breakdown over the continued pressure. I gave my job up (early retirement) to look after my parents , my Dad died a year after and my Mum is now with Bob. We go every day to look after them 32 mile round trip. I can't believe how awful my siblings are and l can't even talk to them about their behaviour because they provoke me and then l get angry then l am the crazy aggressive person . I went fully NC and blocked my sister on all Social media 2 weeks ago , previously to that l left messenger open in case l needed to contact her over Mum. Since lockdown l realised she doesn't care about Mum , had washed her hands of any responsibility towards her and l don't need to keep communications open. Sorry to bother you with all this but it's very cathartic to vent thank you everyone so much , am off to MumBobs in a few mins , hope everyone is ok and the DC are ok in school 💐