The Lockdown Saving and Spending Continues! May Frugaleers continued

[LaneBoy]

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Unescorted have you got any info on what MHCLG are looking for in a cv? I've seen a job I quite fancy

£43 next on some shoes and shorty dungarees for ds.

Morning, we had a lovely day Ystd, the weather is beautiful and it feels like summer has arrived! We found a new place to walk the dog which is absolutely beautiful, can't believe it's only 20 mins from my house and I had no idea it existed 🤯 it was like walking through the Swiss mountains! Think forests, gorges and a shallow river.

The downside was the dog came back literally covered in ticks 🤮 we pulled 3 off him and I've found a few more dead ones this morning. At least the spot on stuff seems to be working now but it's unbelievable how many he had picked up!!

Today dd is going off to my mums and I'm going to get on with my assignment.

I owe my mum about £30 for shopping she picked up for us, no other spends planned.

Girlie that sounds fabulous.

Ooh going to see if I could use sourdough discard for toad in the hole? Haven't had it in the longest time. Might be nice for picnic lunch.

Yes we're lucky there too Em, we are both working and being paid and a lot of our outgoings (commuting costs, wraparound care and so on) have gone for now which is a good thing given how much we are spending on food!
I have helped the dcs to build a den in the garden using a lot of old sheets and towels and clothes pegs. Dd1 is just bringing out every single book and doll to play with in the den so a mess free activity has turned into one requiring lots of tidying up!

Girlie that sounds lovely apart from the ticks.

Rhs gardens are opening again so I've booked a slot for my birthday. Will be good to get out of the house

Forgot you are a June baby too wolf. Which one are you going to?

Life, Harlow Carr. I can't wait for Bridgewater to open in Salford as that'll be somewhere new to go within an hours drive

Very frugal dinner. All the green veg from the fridge. Tin of cannellini beans. Half jar of pesto. Stock. Stale bread chunks and a sad end of gruyere. Veg bake/summer stew

Ocado coming shortly. Veg box arrived at lunchtime so I was encouraged to attack some of the veg lurking in the fridge to make room

Nice wolf

sausages on the bbq for dinner.

dh has royally pised me off this evening so i am contemplating going into work for the full day tomorrow. not just the morning.

Do it em. You need the space I think

I’ve already said I’m staying for the morning and will head to the shop on my way back.

Essentially he’s thrown the “his money” in my face this evening. Apparently I’m wasting it because I’m using a credit card linked to his. And because it gets paid from the joint account. And I use it for things for the kids. Which I’d usually use my joint ac card for anyway. Or my credit card and then transfer the cash to my card from joint ac.

Twat.

Wow. Yes. Go to the office all day. Also means lunch alone!!!

Not quite the same as I’m not trying to balance actual work with home stuff but I’m abdicating all responsibility for DD1’s schoolwork tomorrow (I know it’s half term but she’s got some catching up to do) - will print off the maths tonight but DH is in charge (for once) of all the chivvying and support as it is driving me batshit lately.

We had a lovely evening picnic. Took a frisbee, football and tennis stuff, it was fab :)

Knob.

Still struggling with dd1 lane. Did going back to school help?

That sounds delicious Wolf!
A day away will be good Em, even if it is at work! Enjoy the peace and quiet.

Em stay for the full day. Then make a snarky comment about needing to earn "your own" money to clothe his children and tell him to fk off

Em wow non polite version of twat
Ex h used to refer to putting his share of joint expenses in as giving me money. See start of sentence

Is this hebe? I've fallen in love, love the little leaves which are silvery on the underside and the fact it's pale lilac as it's budding and then flowers white.

€33.64 Tesco on immac wax pot and strips for myself, swim shorts for ds, toothbrushes for both dc, milk and 2 Belgian choc choux buns went in for strong flour, they didn't have any and it was too late to go anywhere else

€11.50 on my takeaway carbonara and garlic bread dc away for 5 nights so I treated myself

I’m absolutely going to stay away as long as I can. It’s so frustrating.

He isn’t always like that so I don’t know what’s gotten into him. I pointed out to him last night all the things I’ve bought have been for us as a family or the kids. Nothing for me specifically (except my professional subscription which I renewed and the card was the only one I had to hand but I got that reimbursed from work and chucked the money into the joint ac).

I just don’t know what’s gotten into him. Yes he earns more than me but that’s never really been an issue before. But now we’re on lockdown and are 24/7 together maybe it’s highlighting some things. He got his pay slip last week and wanted me to look at it. I did and said “nice”.

He isn’t happy spending all his time at home. I think he isn’t happy that he’s been doing all the childcare while I carry on working. I think maybe he’s regretting his change in job role at work. Because if he hadn’t switched teams he’d still be working.

He keeps saying he needs to exercise but can’t because there’s no time. But isn’t making the time.

In my opinion he isn’t making the time for anything. His tax form needs to be submitted by 6pm on Friday. He hasn’t done it yet because he doesn’t have a computer. All he needs to do is ask to borrow mine. But he won’t. I’m not nagging anymore. If he doesn’t submit and gets a fine that’s on him.

We argued last night about our refund from BA. I’ve pointed out to him a million times that we are probably not going to get one because we cancelled. But last night was the only time he’d heard that apparently. And had a go at me for cancelling the booking without talking to him about it. This is where the money talk came from. I said I wouldn’t have spent that much without discussing it first so why would I cancel without discussing it? Apparently we didn’t discuss it. I remember discussing it but because dh doesn’t it didn’t happen.

I also pointed out that this sort of situation is how I come to conclusions that he just doesn’t listen to me or take anything of what I say in.

Em do you think he is still struggling with fatigue or just feeling out of sorts from the virus and can't face doing his tax? It doesn't explain his comments about money but I know when I've been very tired I just haven't been able to think about anything that requires too much brain power. Not making excuses for him btw his comment about money was out of order.
Happier I think that is hebe. I love it too, we have 3 in our garden. 1 like that and the other 2 have slightly pinkish edges to the leaves.

Oh Em I know you say he's not always like this but it does seem like a repeating cycle to me, he needs to pull his weight, end of. Enjoy your day at work.
Happier yes that looks like a hebe. When we lived in Plymouth hebes did well.
girlie one of the lockdown bonuses for us has been discovering local woodland paths we've never properly explored before. Local as in within a mile of the house & you feel like you're a world away from home. Boo to the ticks though.
wolf sounds like a proper use up tea. Harlow Carr is lovely. I took mum there for her birthday a couple of years ago. I hadn't heard of Bridgewater before, only 30 min drive for us if it's quiet so definitely on my post corona list. Did ds make carrot cake?
Lane I feel your pain, dd has got behind, only in physics though, but it's causing major stress.

Although things are slowly opening up, people's general mood seems very fragile at the moment. I came home yesterday & dd,dh and my mum were all feeling down. It's so hard.
Dh is hating working from home. His work are monitoring their working pattern, laptop use so much. They have to log any breaks they take and generally he isn't getting any break longer than 10 minutes all day. Prior to lockdown it wasn't like this and he enjoyed his days wfh. He thinks there is an agenda to get rid of his role from the organisation & I think I agree with him. So last night was spent working on an application for a new job.
As is usual for us now, no grocery spends since Saturday. Spent £30 ordering drops and wipes for ds' eyes but nothing else. Today I've got a PT session, then dd and I are going to do our monthly meat shop at the local farm shop & then go for a walk and call in on mum & dad. We're going to take a blanket so we can sit in the garden & chat to them. Later will be sewing I think.
Have a good day everyone.

Hope you are on your way out the door to work em. Some of that behaviour is inexcusable.

Lovely plant but no idea happier. I do love lilac though.

Voucher refund from airport parking which I doubt we will use so will have to look further at a refund. Unless we get away at Easter.

I need to stop bribing the DC with a walk to the shop to get them out the house. Was going to go somewhere else today but DH had the car for work. £11.15 yesterday.

North he made Rachel Allen's Banana bread in the end. Which is very nice, he's a good baker. He made a lot of mess doing it though!

Em Ive not been on the thread much recently but I remember distinctly many times over the years since your DS was born similar complaints from you about your DH not pulling his weight at home. Just another one who doesn't think this seems like a new behaviour from him. And yes the comments about money/finance are awful. Sending you and hope your day in the office gives you a bit of a break.

Did grocery shopping on the way back from dropping DD at nursery, spent about £21.

Em isn't making you believe something that happened didn't happen gaslighting? He has definitely done that to you before.

I'm slowly waking up, the dog had me up overnight needing the loo, think he ate more than usual Ystd....

Today I'm going to trawl the supermarkets for new clothes for dd, she has hardly anything for the hot weather and buying online is tricky for her. I can't wait until the shops start opening up again.

Feels like things are slowly getting back to normal here as people are out and about. I'm completely of the opinion now that things need to go back to normal with a small amount of social distancing and a lot of hand washing.