Frugal Friends Finding Financial Freedom In February

[Wolfcub]

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Welcome mum

What has happened wolf? Is he okay?

£32.50 spent today on tickets to sea life centre and snacks. Had to try and distract the LO’s away from the gift shop, that they put right at the end, so you couldn’t avoid it. £3:50 for a pen!

Nothing has gone wrong he's just being an ass. Apparently h's house is much nicer than mine (believe me it won't be), he wants to move in with his dad and never come back because he can't fucking stand me. Nothing I didn't expect when he went this morning but exactly why I was unhappy about it happening

Wolf you so don't deserve that. He is only an ass as he feels safe with you. 🌷🌹🌼

I’m so sorry, you don’t deserve that as @Accidentalaccountant says, he is only acting like this because he feels safe with you. It still hurt though❤️

I echo this thoughts wolf. No doubt h will be Disney dad too as he doesn't have to do the routine stuff and discipline. DS is safest with you, angry and confused so acting out.
for you my lovely

Big hug to you wolf xx

Wolf they lash out at those they feel most comfortable with, you've been there for him all this time while h was unavailable to him. Neither you or ds had a choice in this, h had presumably in whatever happened & he made the wrong one turning yer lives upside down.

Big hugs wolf, and echoing what others have said, ds feels safe with you and will act out, but with the knowledge that you will still have his back, always.

Wolf, that must have felt really hurtful. The others are right, he feels safest with you.

Fairly lsd. £6 on a half term trail thing we did (£2 per child) and £11.49 on a top up of fruit, salad, cheese and yoghurt in the local shop. Supermarket would have been cheaper but we were passing the shop on the way home and I decided to.just get it over with!

Sorry I did a classic post and bugger off ….

Wolf it is tough being a parent & the better parent you are the more they don't appreciate it. It would be easier if you gave him nothing to push against, but that is not in his best interests. He just can't see that yet.

Lane hope you are feeling a bit better /on a more even keel.

happier you sound so much happier - which is so well deserved.

In answer to earlier questions it was an impulse buy but one I am glad of because it means I can have my own car back. The bumper will be an insurance job unfortunately. Fortunately we get group insurance through work so the premium won't change.

I won a bottle of gin and a Mumsnet mug on the lurkers thread..... I must have been in a good mood when I posted.

Hopefully I will be about a bit more … we have finally got the food bank stores something like. When I started there just after Christmas it was all over the place. Me and the other stores person have been putting in about 10 hours a week to get it something like. If it means we don't lose our pickers / delivery people it will have been worth it. If you ever donate to a food bank add anything to the collection except soup. We are sending ours to a soup kitchen about 40 miles away because we have too much.... and none of the soup kitchens / other food banks around of us need it either. Apparently a soup excess is a national food bank thing.

Wolf saw this & thought of you

Busy few days here. And I’m Le tired now.

Work has been full on. But all good.

I think (fingers crossed) we’ve cracked it with nursery. I sent an email on Monday night. And said this and that was normal for Dd.

Then last night I saw her nursery book. Her diary thing. First time it’s been there. I saw she’d had 5 bottles whilst at nursery. Plus the two wed given her (breakfast and before bed). That’d explain all the poop then!!!! When I filled in her routine form before she started I put her bottle times down for the whole day. Not just the nursery part! So they’d followed it to the letter. No wonder she was needing changing more often!

Today we went back to 3 bottles whilst at nursery. Plus a bit of purée. And no changes of clothes necessary today. Hooray!

Went to pick her up and she was happy smiley and sitting up unsupported!!!! Big girl!!!!

wolf Dh has his bloods done yesterday. He should get results tomorrow we think. He said he’s feeling coldy now so fingers crossed it was just the start of that! Not that I want him to be Ill but a cold is the best of the options.

Wolf ❤️💐

Happier they made me laugh!! Def what it's like with my dd atm. Wolf that's shit, teens are so tricky and downright unpleasant sometimes.

I've managed a NSD.

Girlie
I've had a fabulous run of days with dc, admittedly I've been at work for most of the week but the time I've had with them, they've been pleasant & fun & happy & cooperative, May it continue now for the week to allow me to move in peace

Both fell asleep watching BFG tonight, had to carry both of them up the stairs. Dd is just too heavy for me now.

Any emmerdale fans here? I'm a week behind but loving it

I’m sorry wolf

sharn did your LO’s enjoy the sea life centre, I’m thinking of taking mine to something similar but I’m not sure if they’ll be bored

mumbassa how old are your DC? Mine are 3 and 18 months, they did enjoy it but there’s a lot to see there and you can walk through at your own pace, so if they got grouchy we could hurry along.

Morning everyone 😀
Weather is ok here this morning thankfully. I am going to Mum's and getting her showered and dressed and taking her to Bob's her friend 🤗♥️. Since Dad died a year ago she's been seeing Bob since Christmas and it is making her so much happier. He is 89 and she is 88 so there is hope for us all 🤗♥️.
Good to see you here @Mumbassa2 🤗
@Wolfcub l am so sorry , you must be so hurt. I don't think your Ds means to be so hurtful towards you it's just confusing for him and he's probably hurting too and taking it out on you because he knows he is safe with you. It sucks big time 💐
I had a NSD planned today , although I am transferring £300 over to my Dd2 for a deposit for conveyancing , she is buying her first house. We said we will pay for the solicitors fee to help her out .
It's nearly 2k but includes stamp duty so it's bumped it up a lot . I can't believe how expensive it is to just buy a place. Stamp duty, conveyancing fees, mortgage company arrangement fees, life ins, critical illness ins, valuation fees etc etc. This before you even get the keys! We bought our 3rd house 26 yrs ago and have no intention of ever moving again especially since seeing how much Dd2 is having to spend 😱 before she even gets in 🙄.
It's a shock for me after all this time. When we bought 26 yrs ago l don't remember paying for the mortgage product arrangements or valuation or anything like 2k for the conveyancing. It's all changed so much 😱
Nevermind it's all on track now and she can't wait to have her own home 🤗
Have a great day everyone 😀

Mine have loved the Sea Life centre since they were babies. Loads to see and easy to walk around.

Welcome Mum.
Em, glad things are running well with the nursery again.
Mrs, very glad that the weather is better for you now, hope your dmum has a nice day with Bob.

It's my ds2 Birthday today, he is 15!

Yesterday's spends
£25 ish on cake, cards, fruit and some juice.
Will get a takeaway later so probably £20.

mrs I hope your DM has a nice day. It must be nice for you to see her happy!.

Happy birthday to your DS curvy

We are going swimming today, as we do every Friday. And then takeaway later. Should be around
£15 Spent as we get our swimming prices halted

Spendy day - 14.60 dentist check up
16.00 hair stuff (bday present to myself)
35.67 - food bits

sharn thank you, mine are 4,3 and 1 so I will put that on a list of things to do.

I hope your mum has a great day mrs! You’re so right about the price of buying a house, I definitely wouldn’t want to move again.

A big happy birthday to your DS curvy

Mumbassa have you looked into the merlin pass? If you live near a few of the attractions and plan to go a lot then it could save you some money

Hi all... sneaking back in after not keeping up this week after all. It's not because I haven't had a chance to, note that my spending this month has been out of control and I've felt unable to pop in to log spends when there has been nothing frugal going on 😞.

Today I've sat down and been through bank transactions and written them down in my spending diary. I've been trying to do this daily since September. I've noticed a real correlation between over-spending and not noting daily.

I've also identified a couple of spending triggers. 1) spending time with my mum... we tend to go off to do some shopping together. I don't really clothes shop any other time but have had two big splurges (£60/£70 each), mostly needed (school shoes, forgotten suitcase etc etc) but they were unbudgeted and the cost could have been spread out. The trouble is, my mum shops for the girls at the same time so I feel that I can't just let her buy stuff for them and I end up buying extras I probably wouldn't have had I been shopping on my own. In future, il save £50 per holiday for this purpose. 2) entertaining. We've had various different family lunches/friends for dinner etc and although I plan ahead and get most things with our weekly shop, inevitably I have a last minute panic about not having enough and do an extra ship on top. 3) not thinking about 'hidden' costs (well, not hidden, just not thinking of everything) examples include £60 train tickets needed for this weekend and a babysitter for next weekend.

Sorry, this is turning into a bit of a brain dump. From a quick catch up on the thread I can see there are lots of things going on for lots of you... il stop rambling now and catch up properly.

Roll on March 🤪