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Hoping all your new year wishes come true.

Thanks born, I find that the thread moves quite quickly now and I only have time to binge read chunks of it. I feel that since I'm not able to contribute like everyone else does then I shouldn't be posting randomly iyswim? I do take a lot of inspiration from the thread though and really appreciate everyone on it, particularly because it is so diverse.

Happier was your 2nd IP faulty too?

Christmas yes I see what you mean.

The thing that came before that was Lonely saying

^Information about weaning is very very widely available. Even 8 years ago. Amazingly I could find appropriate information 15.5 years ago without the internet when dd1 was a baby.

High chairs, bumbos, bouncy chairs are all designed for aiding babies to sit up so they do not choke. Whether or not your baby can sit up unaided has nothing to do with your ability to wean them.^

I thought that she was implying that I was an idiot for finding weaning difficult and I felt hurt by that.

If I apologised to Lonely for my comment and she apologised to me for this one would that make things right between us?

100years post as often or as little as you like. I think lots of people are in a similar position to yourself and it’s a real shame if that’s what stops people from posting.

I stay on the thread as I enjoy the chat but also to keep me focused. I worry that if I stopped posting completely I’d start throwing crap in my trolley again and ordering takeaways three night a week 😱

I'm going to just log off for a week I think.

It's too complicated.

It’s funny as I do try to post on here everyday or ever other day, but when I think about it I’ve got friends IRL that I don’t speak to nearly so often 🤔. Good friends that I’ve know all my life... I really need to concentrate on making more of an effort there I think...

Autumn if you think it would help you to take a step back then do it, but not if you think it would make you struggle.

Autumn are you on the spectrum like with an official diagnosis? Because I didn't think you had one, and I really really hope this isn't incredibly offensive, but I hope you understand that as someone on the spectrum myself, it shouldn't be - but right from when I started this thread I kind of assumed you were or at least might be, by the way that you talk and stuff. So I have basically always taken your comments at face value and believed everything is genuine unless it was a really obvious display of sarcasm e.g. ' i had a great day' followed by a long list of shit things. Iyswim. But I think I'm hyperaware of that stuff, given that I'm autistic myself, and have had many similar misunderstandings with people IRL where I've upset people, or annoyed people, and had no idea what I did wrong, and then even when explained, apologised but still didn't really understand. Online it's a bit different and easier for me I think because if someone says something that I think is stupid/annoying/whatever, I just completely ignore it, it's much easier to do that online than if someone is talking to you F2F, without any conflict. And I definitely overuse smilies/emojis as a way to try and make people understand I mean well when I post, which I've then had other posters on MN say I seem really juvenile (and not in a nice way) on other threads etc so sometimes whatever you do to try and fix it, someone is going to be unhappy. I just try and be as nice as possible and apologise if I've upset people, there's not much else we can do if it doesn't come naturally to us the way it does for other people.

And I will shut up now, I promise . ( < probably unnecessary use of emoji intended to show I am trying to keep the tone vaguely light-hearted - do you see what I mean?? )

100years. Your post made me smile, I'd forgotten that at one stage I wasn't allowed to speak to autumn.😁 But, do post as little or as often as you like, it doesn't matter.

Happier - I've been something of a weirdo in truth and screenshot that saying for DD! It's a perfect summary of life. I also like your positive day. It's a good list to have - a positive list.

autumn - You have been on the thread since 7am this morning. Perhaps have a think about whether that's actually good for your MH? I don't know the answer to that question. It's up to you how often you post, I don't think it's right for any of us to tell you that, you have to decide what's right for you.
I think lonely was upset about the comment, which appeared sarcastic, about knowing everything.

I think for any group of folk to gel together there has to be balance and most of us all rub along together pretty well. We all chip in and support one another when one of us needs that support a little more. We've all had those times. I don't feel the balance of the thread is quite as it should be at the minute, let's see how that goes. I'm sure equilibrium will restore.

100 I've gone through phases were I hardly posted, only once a week, or even just a couple of times over a few months, like when I was poorly with HG, or the first few months of DD's life. I don't think that should stop you from posting. I still can't keep up now, I usually just read the last page or two and then post. And I go a few days at a time where I've not had a chance and then I still only read the last page or two as I don't have time to read more. I miss big things like idrk know what is going on with Cag other than obviously bad health (sorry Cag I don't mean that to sound callous, I hope you're ok ), and I missed Em being pregnant for awhile, etc . But it's not a big deal really just post when you want/can .

Took DD to get her passport photos this morning at the Post Office over the road with DD. She was a little angel. £7.50 though!!! I got tons cos they give you loads, and the machine accidentally printed out two pages, so I got double...not that I need that many photos. She looks adorable though, I just accidentlaly happened to put her in a denim pinny with a red long-sleeved vest with a Peter Pan collar - purely cos she ran out of clean trousers so needs to wear tights, but it's super cute in the picture .

Good luck today girlie and love.

And thanks for the good wishes re DD, she will be fine. She’s a little glum today - entirely natural - but already booked on visit days for her other university choices and listing pros and cons. She doesn’t dwell in general.

I was a dingbat yesterday and didn’t remember spends, even claimed a NSD, which was bollocks.

£10 Bootcamp for myself and DD.

I have name changed for this.

100 I dont think you should be making assumptions about lonely and actually stating someone is sad and in difficulty is a fairly big assumption.

Autumn I know you have expressed difficulty relating to and communicating with others .
I think you genuinely try to empathise with people but what you post doesnt always come across as genuine and it appears exaggerated or inconsistent.
I understand this is you trying to empathise and get it right but its "over egging"
When challenged or questioned you then become either passive aggressive via over concern/over complimenting or tell people they dont understand you or its all a big joke.
You dont have to address everyones problems on here ,you can just read and run .
Constantly doing this isnt how life works, we cant always help others,its not great for your MH nor can we expect all our own issues to be the focus of a thread like this.

This is meant to be helpful and I hope thats how it comes across .

Jam it's a phrase that's used often enough in ROI, if that's considered weird screenshotting it well I'm a fellow weirdo because I save quotes all the time

Crikey things have moved imon haven’t they?!

I was going to get a new phone battery today. However phone seems to be playing ball. So will hold off I think.

Have booked some time off work yay. The day of my scan (no other reason that it’s a good day to take as no one else is off - skiing season now and all the skiers are off from the last week of jan into Feb) and a weekend away in March so I can (finally) take ds to visit dgrandma. His great grandma. In Devon. Flights will more than likely be extortionate - Flybe to Exeter. But it’s a necessary spend. Dgrandma is desperate to see him. And I’m desperate to show him off. 😀

There may be other contributory factors to my self diagnosis of weirdo happier.😁

That’s a fair post I’d say emergency, truthful, but fair.

Just checked flights. £343 for the three of us. Ds is just taxes as he’s under 2. But we’re taking hold luggage as I don’t think we can do it on cabin bags alone. I might see if dh can book separately and then just take a cabin bag and we just take one bag in the hold... but I’m planning on stopping in Exeter and hitting primark....so maybe bags are necessary.

happier and jam that phrase is used in Scotland too although it’s more like “Whit’s fur ye’ll no go by ye” That would have needed an interpreter not a screenshot 😜

Emergency has summed it up well.

Thank you for all the good luck wishes, i am so hungry atm!! After 12 i can't have anything, not even water will be so glad once this is over and will definitely be having a nice treat later!!

Have had the washing machine repair man out as the machine made a God awful noise last night on the final spin, he fiddled around with it a bit and said something was probably out of alignment. Only charged £20 so not too bad, as long as it works now. He made an a comment that you should always wash heavy with heavy and light with light which i've never heard before but apparently mixing it all confused the machine!!

The window cleaner also turned up today so thats £10 as well.

Em you'll have to pop in when you're visiting Dgm

Great post emergency. I also agree with you jam that the balance of the thread has been a bit different lately.
Autumn only you can say whether your comments last night were meant genuinely or not. Lonely's reaction didn't come as a surprise to me, as you have in the past (recent and less recent) responded with aggression to people on these threads who have given well intentioned advice that is not what you have wanted to hear and that affects people's tolerance levels.
I will continue to post as I always have, slightly sporadically, as others have said, it helps to keep me focussed. I've had a huge amount of support here, particularly over the last couple of years & I hope people stay.

It's really cold here today. I drove past McDonald's and Sainsbury's but didn't go into either 😇

I hope nobody gets upset by this but sometimes when there's people discussing things I skip that bit because I don't have experience. And I worry that I'd come off as a know it all - hence why I didn't talk about the weaning, I'd hate for someone to think "Look at this guy giving his opinions on weaning when he doesn't even have children yet"

Does that make sense?

£8.10 Starbucks
46p Asda (milk for work)
Df is posting my parcel so will owe him and £3 for ds’s activity tonight

Total sense sneaky 💐 and thats the beauty of this thread usually, a wealth of different experiences and opinions and normally it does work well. :)

Well done wreck I was not so strong today and may have had a Cornish pasty 🤦‍♀️ I don’t do well on 3hrs sleep it turns out. But I resisted the Pepsi/dr pepper I am craving so that’s something

Will report back on DH’s appt shortly

Right so. DH. Sigh.

Degeneration/thinning of discs. Bulging discs, one touching on a leg nerve.

Discharged from rheumatologist as it’s not their issue, although she has repeated some bloods to check some stuff. Referral to osteoporosis specialist due to bone thinning. Referral back to the surgeon who did his disc operation last time as he may need another one.

I’m glad we can swear here. Fuck.

🤦‍♀️

Oh no cag what a nightmare situation. Poor dh.