Frugaleer just jamming.

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Hoping all your new year wishes come true.

Lonely please don’t go. I really enjoy your anecdotes. They are particularly relevant to me as my ds1 is roughly the same age as your dd. You have tons of experience and advice to offer and everyone really appreciates that. This thread is for everyone and it would be much poorer if you left 😨

That was a cross post autumn but I for one read that comment in the same way that lonely clearly has done. Perhaps it's your writing style.

I have had a NSD but not the best as DD didn't get good news. We've talked a lot and cried a lot and in a better place tonight than this morning, tomorrow is another day and she's fabulous so will be fine wherever 😁.

Jam sorry dd didn’t get the news she wanted, but I’m sure she will succeed in life regardless. You have a brilliantly work ethos that you have obviously instilled in both your children and that will see them far.

So frugal stuff, meh, DH got some shopping at Asda using my card because he hasn’t had his replacement yet. I stayed home.

I need to order DH’s remaining birthday presents. Mostly keyrings as he doesn’t have any since we moved. So I’m finding keyrings of his favourite things like NASA, favourite sports teams, LOTR etc.

Ah, I’m sorry to hear that Jam. It’s hard when you’ve set your heart on something but once she’s started somewhere else she’ll have such a wonderful time she’ll not look back. I’m glad she could let it all out. Better to have tried.

Lonely don’t you dare! I love having you here and I’m not the only one. Autumn I truly believe you wrote that sincerely and would not have realised that it would be almost certainly be read in a sarcastic tone of voice. Which wouldn’t have been at all nice. But I don’t think that’s what you intended at all. I hope you both accept it is a misunderstanding and stick around.

See how good I am at this early-to-bed lark? DH is 🙄

Hi everyone, I was in Edinburgh over the weekend, have fallen off the thread and don't have time to catch up yet, but recent spends are:
£200 for hire car for one week
£30 lunch date with DH + £10 train tickets Monday
£1.90 bus yesterday
£1.90 bus + £2 sweets today

Will try to read back and catch up tomorrow!

Sorry your dd didn't get the news she wanted jam. Once she gets over this she will make the best decision for her, move on and do well.
Lonely do stay, I'd miss you but I completely understand where you were coming from.
Fwiw Ds weaned conventionally at 4 months as the advice was then (purees etc). 3 years later & DD wasn't interested in puree so went straight onto mashed lasagne at 6.5 months.

Jam so sorry dd didn’t get the news she wanted

It’s also a shame that yet again people are left feeling sad and shut out on this thread. It’s not what we are about I’ve pm’d Lonely, I want her back. She’s a massive frugal inspiration on this thread. Autumn whether you meant it to be or not your comment appeared unkind and I’m afraid I read it in the same way and tone as Lonely did.

Happy frugal Thursday everyone, let’s move on if we can and I hope we ALL have a good supportive day together

Meadow I’m no use on the weaning front I think as I did a lot of meat curry and stew etc for ds.

Woah. Wtf happened there.
Lonely get your ass back here.
Meadow don't you fret lovely. You stay and talk too. It's in the nuances of the posting style. This is what happens with the written word at times. The intention does not come over in the way it's written, a different intention comes over. Hope that helps explain.
Btw I used the Annabelle Carmel books it's pink with a baby on. Bear in mind my youngest is 9. Both weaning the same. Both totally different eaters. Mix of pureed our food and finger food. I made the ak recipe for all then added salt etc for us.

Jam, sorry dd didn't get her first choice? News she wanted.

£4 on fitness class yesterday.

Morning everyone
Hope we all have a lovely day
Lonely don't leave
Jam sorry to hear dd didn't get the news she wanted, what's for you won't pass you by there's something better around the corner for her.

Got paid today & have ynabbed it out. Was a very small pay packet as most of it was holiday pay.

Have decided to reduce my Christmas club money by €5 weekly to €25, will still have €1100 when it pays out but think the €5 will go towards debt repayment.

Had a good evening yesterday
Gym
Run with a friend
Fun with the dc
Emmerdale catch up
Texting my sister
Early night

I'm going to do that jar of good memories for dc, dd would love it & hopefully ds will be old enough to appreciate it.
I'm also doing up photo pages for a photo book of 2019 for us too, going to do each page up after we do something so that it's not an insurmountable thing at end of year.

(@Happier), I suffer with bloating and eczema, she does too, she’s tried it and has lost weight, more energy, skin better etc. I will probably start by cutting out bread and pasta maybe?
It would just be me, not the whole family.
I need to start doing a weekly online shop again, just going to research the best value way of doing it. I would go to Aldi, but I end up buying stuff I don’t need from the middle aisle, and then topping up elsewhere.less temptation online.

Gosh, everybody, I'm so sorry that my comment appeared passive aggressive. I really didn't mean it like that at all.

I genuinely meant that I thought Lonely knew a lot more about this stuff than I do.

I mean she must do, logically, as she has four children and I only have one. That was all I meant.

Oh dear.

Sorry Lonely. Please do come back, and please don't be sad on my account.

I think you're lovely.

Jam sorry things haven't gone as DD hoped

Meadow I make my own fajita seasoning. It's so easy and tastes just like the packet mix but is literally just herbs I have in the cupboard. You can always remove a portion for dd then add your own seasoning/salt.

Today should be a nsd.

Just catching up. Hmm. I’m afraid I read autumns comment in the same way. Whether it was intended to be PA or not that’s how it came across (to me anyway)

I do love the sharing of opinions here and lonely don’t you dare go. I’ll need your advice once dc2 makes his appearance (convinced it’s a boy...).

Ordered some maternity jeans last night and some trousers. £75 spent across asos and new look. Plan is to try them and see what fits nicely. Then send whatever doesn’t fit back and buy more of whatever does!

Busy day today. Work then gym. I was awake at 4. Needed a wee. Then ds started chattering in his sleep. 😪 dozed a bit.

On drs advice I am taking meds every other day now in an attempt to wean off.

I'm on the thread a lot at the moment, and I know that it's probably too much. Would it be better if I shove off for a bit or just post once a day or something?

I'm having a really rubbish time as this is now my third gastroenteritis bug since November and I'm just stuck in the house feeling totally rubbish. However, I seem to be putting my foot in it on the thread, probably just because I am here a lot.

I wonder, would it be better if I shove off for a while and watch telly instead, or something and I could just limit myself to one post a day to keep in touch?

I don't mind. My dh is home at the moment so I have company in RL.

Perhaps once we have straightened out this misunderstanding I will try that.

I just read back, and I'm really confused. Which comment of mine was it that you thought was passive aggressive? I'm just wondering because I didn't mean to say anything wrong and I'd like to know so I can try not to do that again.

Reading back, I genuinely have no idea of which thing that I said has been taken as PA. I'd be glad if you could tell me.

Not much time this morning... but @AutumnLeaves12 and @LonelyOversharer you both need to stay. You bring different things to the discussions

I've stayed out of weaning discussions. My DDs are the worst eaters

Off to eat some frogs with my tutor today. I thought I'd do it in person, rather than by email. What was I thinking?  It'll be character building. Ha!

Ocado arrived at 6.40am 💤 £96 which was a lot

Will catch up later!

Hope DD is ok jam

Oh dear, autumn I can understand why lonely is upset, the tone of your posts is sarcastic and it's not the first time you've upset someone in this way.

Sorry to hear dd was upset jam hope she is okay today.

I'm shoving porridge down me as can only eat up til 8am!! Gastroscopy is today 😨

Oh dear Girlie. It sounds as though there's something really useful that I can learn here that will be useful in my real life conversations too.

I'm obviously getting my delivery wrong, and it's coming over as sarcastic when I don't mean it to. I wonder how I fix that?

Best of luck girlie thinking of you x

DH is off to his appt today. Pleased and nervous at the same time, to hear what they have to say.

I’m taking the Caglets to their trampolining lesson later, will also stop off in town after. Getting DD some wordsearches to do at night. She is getting more and more distressed :( she was hitting her head yesterday out of frustration. But the medication break is absolutely essential. 4 more nights to go...

It might be for you Lonely but it wasn't for me. Baby led weaning was the only thing in my peer group, and anyone who didn't was practically ostracized.
I'm just thinking that Lonely must know a ton about this stuff too. I wish I'd known her back in the day.

I think autumn that these were the comments that were probably seen as most passive aggressive.

I don't think that going off the thread or only posting once per day is the answer. It's just the written word can be misinterpreted and you filter things differently to the rest of us. That doesn't make you wrong just different. You've got a lot more time to post than the rest of us and it's great to have an outlet like mumsnet for that, I find some days I post more than others on the thread and that's ok too. You also bring a lot to the thread as you've time to research things more than others.

No one needs to leave the thread over this though.

How to fix it I'm not sure you can, because you're not aware of it.

Good luck to girlie today and to cagdh also

Is it because I sometimes say the opposite of what I mean in a sort of dry ironic way, but without you being able to hear my tone of voice. And then at other times I say exactly what I actually mean in a straightforward and normal way, but again you can't hear my tone of voice. I can see that it could be confusing if I flipped from one of those to the other without it being clear about which I'm doing.

For example I might say:

"Well I've had a great day today." when I actually mean that I've had a totally rubbish day.

But then I also might say:

"That was really helpful advice." when I actually mean "That was really helpful advice."

I can see that if I flip from sometimes saying the opposite of what I mean to sometimes saying exactly what I mean, that could be very confusing. I perhaps forget that you can't hear my tone of voice.

Is that what the problem is?

Thanks Happier I will look at that and see if I can understand what I said that came out wrong.